Pressure..

ehte_h

The last few days, I have been feeling it. Feeling it a lot infact. Maybe it's cause i'm off work and I have more time to focus on these things? Who knows?

Right now i'm taking stock of my life, I will be 30 next year.. That's right 30.. Alongside having to wear sensible jumpers and own a people carrier, I will have to grow up. In all seriousness I look back at what goals I had set myself to reach, and I have achieved very few of them. I was hoping to be a couple of years into a mortgage, have a great income as well as be in a long term relationship or married. So far I haven't achieved any of that. I look at my mum everyday and can't help but feel guilty and sad. 3 out of her 4 kids achieved all that before 30 and then there's me. She's not in the best of health and she keeps saying to me that she wants to see me settled.

I think i've come to the point where I have run out of steam, I had a knack for staying positive but it's just escaping me right now.. I dont even know why I posted this

FitToBeFab

I feel the same pressures. Although I'm not turning 30 (I'm 26), I had made plans for myself to have this that and the other by the time I was 25. Well, 25 came and went, and you know what? I'm still alive, I'm still me, the world didn't end and my family still loves me.

Putting a deadline on yourself creates unnecessary pressure and will ultimately make you unhappy. And if you're unhappy, people generally aren't drawn to it.

Where is there a rulebook that says you have to have items 1-5 marked off your checklist before 30? And what's the consequence if you don't?

I say if you have your health, your family, and friends, count your blessings.

Eleisabelle

I'm going to be 41 and I still don't have some of those things. And I'm still working on what I want to be when I grow up. What's more important--that you meet someone else's expectations for your life, or that you do things you love and allow yourself to be happy?

Much of this pressure seems to be coming from you, and what isn't is coming from other people's expectations of you. Rather than look at what you don't have, is there a way you can start looking at what you can do for yourself to make you a happier person?

I feel for you. I have rough days too. But you can get through, and you can find the things YOU want. Give yourself some love and take the pressure off. You still have a LOT of time. Believe me, 30 isn't the end by a long shot!

Peace to your heart...