Pretty friend who needs to tell me...your thoughts?

babs23

It seems that some people don't see value in being humble.

She's probably been validated by beauty her entire life and just thinks it's normal. It may be the only area of her life where she's received any kind of validation. She may truly think that's all she has to offer.

Obviously, you can't change her. You can help in subtle ways though - by complimenting other accomplishments in her life, so she knows that you value her for more than just her looks.

audigal2008

Any good responses for when she starts to do that?

Sadly sh eis probably trying to convince herself after a lifetime of someone she loves telling her she is not good enough.

Just my guess

I agree!

YukonJoy

There is no question in my mind (and I'm not trying to put myself down at all because I don't really like her build!) but she would truly rather die than look like me!

The thing is though. Is that MEN looove your build. If she doesn't like it that probably upsets her even more!

And don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I have an hourglass figure and men tell me I have the "perfect body" all the time. Even when I am carrying extra pounds.

Apparently men are attracted to a waist to hip ratio. And hunny... you's got it!!!!!!! :flowerforyou:

You're a sweetie! Thank you! I guess I should have bought this dress! lol

Haha. Sweetpea.... It's not the dress

miadvh

Well from the looks of your picture..I would say she's just trying to uplift herself out of jealousy..because you have a BANGIN' body! :happy:

Robyn4444

Really, no, I don't think it's natural to talk about yourself like that. So, she has a problem of some kind. That's for her to sort out if she wants to.

I guess, I think that you should just be careful that you don't get dragged into her "issues". You said that she wouldn't want to look like you. Don't let her need for constant reassurance feed negative thoughts into your mind. My thoughts are that she actually would love something about your life. If she keeps telling you how great she is, she wants your approval. Nobody bothers telling somebody all about how great they are if the don't care what that person thinks.

Clearly, you are on this site because you are working towards a healthier life. Perfect. Good luck with it all.

Chunkabutt83

you could always just look really sympathetic and say, "well its just too bad all those guys never tell you how smart you are!"

this!!

Oishii

Maybe once conversation is well underway at your next meeting, you could try gently asking her if she realises how much she talks in those ways? Especially if you value her as a person, this might help her grow/learn something about herselt.

This. If she doesn't like it, maybe she's not a friend you need...

One of my friends is stunning, but, having seen photos of her teenage years, had rather an ugly duckling experience, and she's the exact opposite: we have to tell her how gorgeous she is.

thegymbunny

Maybe once conversation is well underway at your next meeting, you could try gently asking her if she realises how much she talks in those ways? Especially if you value her as a person, this might help her grow/learn something about herselt.

This. If she doesn't like it, maybe she's not a friend you need...

One of my friends is stunning, but, having seen photos of her teenage years, had rather an ugly duckling experience, and she's the exact opposite: we have to tell her how gorgeous she is.

I also agree with this... I'm certain the woman does not do it on purpose. It is no tun to be that insecure.

SweetTeaBlossom

Either she has low self-esteem or she dislikes you for some reason and she's trying to rub the compliments in your face.

I know someone like this and I learned to disarm them by going along with it. I smile and compliment her myself. When I do that it's not satisfying to her to brag anymore.

Ask her if for all the dates does she ever think she will find a guy that cares for her beyond a possible one night tumble in the sheets.

This is good. What you (OP) could do in a supportive way is tell her to make sure guys aren't using her for looks. There are a lot of ways you can give her b.s. compliments to get her to tone it down.