who else gets super embaressed when complimented?

FAtGiRLFItGiRL
FAtGiRLFItGiRL Posts: 156
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
i get really shy/embaressed when ppl tell me how good i look. i love the compliments but i just get shy and start fidgiting with my clothes and hair and i dont know what to say back without feeling stuck up or concieted. does anyone else get the same way?

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  • HollyTsiaussis
    HollyTsiaussis Posts: 415 Member
    Yes, all the time.
  • aa1440
    aa1440 Posts: 956 Member
    I feel great when I get complimented. I know that the hard work has paid off.
  • hermanaamber
    hermanaamber Posts: 103 Member
    Me!
  • FaithsVegWorkout
    FaithsVegWorkout Posts: 471
    Not at all. I graciously say thank you.
  • futurefitgirl88
    futurefitgirl88 Posts: 284
    Compliments make me feel very uncomfortable!!!!!!!!!!!!! Especially when someone goes on and on about it!
  • kristinaohno
    kristinaohno Posts: 113 Member
    i can't wait until i lose a good amount of weight and i start getting compliments. when i lost 25lbs two years ago, i was getting them a lot and i would smile and say "thank you so much! it was hard, but i did it!"

    just put a big 'ol smile on that pretty face of yours and say "thank you! i worked so hard!".
    it works!
  • JuniperT
    JuniperT Posts: 394 Member
    I graciously say thank you, but blush and kinda fidget with my hands. I'm just a shyish :laugh: kinda person
  • Pink_turnip
    Pink_turnip Posts: 280 Member
    Compliments make me feel very uncomfortable!!!!!!!!!!!!! Especially when someone goes on and on about it!

    it also depends who it's coming from...
  • val_140
    val_140 Posts: 75
    I do! I say Thank you, but I feel that they may take it as if I am conceited! I mean what else can you say really?? Either that or I will end up saying something like "No way, I still have a big gut." But I have learned to stop saying that and just take the compliment!
  • CSelf1
    CSelf1 Posts: 431 Member
    I used to do the same but I finally realized that it is ok to say thank you and accept it without feeling like you need to demean yourself. People would tell me I was looking good or getting skinny and I would say, "Thanks, but I've still got a long way to go" or "No, I really don't, but thanks". One day I decided that I was going to stop doing that to myself and just appreciate it.. You are working hard and if it shows enough for other people to notice it then it's ok for you to be proud and own it! Of course, I still find myself trying to also pay them a compliment back, lol, but baby steps...good luck!
  • tgh1914
    tgh1914 Posts: 1,036 Member
    I've always been not very good at accepting compliments. Being excessively modest can only go so far, eventually it sounds like you just don't believe in yourself. I do think it's best to just say "thanks" most of the time.
  • russelljclarke
    russelljclarke Posts: 836 Member
    I'm proud of my achievement, but when I'm asked to 'model' by others, I could just curl up and die.
  • neva4saken
    neva4saken Posts: 300 Member
    I have always been a shy person, by being overweight it's been a keep to myself kind of thing after losing all the weight and toning up i get compliments and stares and never really know how to receive them especially in public places .. my wife tells me all the time you're a good looking man but i guess after years of looking at the fat guy in the mirror i haven't seen the new me yet so yes i can say that i get embarrassed ...
  • sonic_the_cat
    sonic_the_cat Posts: 58 Member
    I know what you mean. If it's someone I know well and they know how hard I have worked for this, then I'm OK. I was at a meeting at work last week with people I hadn't seen since "before" - someone said they didn't even recognize me..... then I was totally self-conscious and wondered just how bad they thought I looked before. Although, my husband laughs at me because if people who I think should notice don't say anything, then I get all ticked off :tongue:
  • alltalk199
    alltalk199 Posts: 275
    I feel the same way, you are not alone, I either miss the compliment or I don't respond because I really don't know how to take it, hahaha, I'm learning to slow down, stop, listen and say Thank you, it feels good to know that you are on the right track and people notice.
  • FAtGiRLFItGiRL
    FAtGiRLFItGiRL Posts: 156
    aww i can relate with soo many of you. i always try to say thanks you but i just feel stuck up afterwards. but i will try and say something like "thanks, it was hard work but well worth it" and smile. lol but then they keep asking questions and then i really start twidling my hands. lol i become a nervous wreck but dont wanna be rude and walk away. well thanks for all the tips. very helpful and im glad im not alone on this one.
  • futurefitgirl88
    futurefitgirl88 Posts: 284
    hahaha yeah when people tell me how small I am...I just say "I still have a long way to go, I'm still fat" then feel even worse if the person giving me the compliment is not that in shape!! haha I just don't know how to deal with situations like this!!!!

    The best compliment I received was....."haha who was your plastic surgeon??"
  • FaithsVegWorkout
    FaithsVegWorkout Posts: 471
    Everyone, think about it this way: When someone is genuinely complimenting you, they are 1. making themselves vulnerable to you to be kind enough to compliment you and 2. are essentially giving you a gift.

    So, by rejecting the compliment, you are in a sense, rejecting that person's kindness and willingness to be vulnerable to you, and it's like saying, "Ew, I don't want your gift. I want something better!" and a slap in the face.

    Compliments are not all about the person getting the compliment. . .they are also about the person making the compliment.
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