Stay at home spouses

kklindsey

i AM one and I wouldn't trade it for anything. Only one 12 year old left at home and even though I homeschool him I have quite the cushy life. My husband tells all that I lay around and eat BonBons. He knows I don't and he has always wanted me home. He drives truck so I don't even have to cook often. I am a LUCKY LUCKY girl. And I hope you find a spouse, lol, I'm not sharing this good thing have goin' on

kklindsey

I seriously do not know how people make ends meet without two working people these days... but i envy those that can make that happen *LOL*

Quite easy in fact...As long as DCF does not find out about previously mentioned children working in coal mines, anyone can do it...Just kidding people. I won't send my children to work in coal mines of WV when there is a sewage plant right down the street.

Dang! We have neither here in the NE Wisconsin town I live in. BUT we do have a great slaughter house about 20 miles away! I'm gonna have to look into that!


No, really, I'm a SAHM. Our kids are 21 and 14. Obviously, my 21 yo does not need me like the 14 yo does. When our yougest was born, we did the math and it was going to cost us MORE than if I stayed home. I did work for more than 8 years on an Ambulance service which was perfect, but then had to find other employment. When I started to work full time at a hospital an hour away, almost everything fell apart for our youngest. Hubby found a great job but is gone 3 - 4 weeks at a stretch and we decided that it was time for me to "come back home" and it wasn't fair to our oldest either, she doesn't have to be raising our youngest, help yes, but this was going beyond help. Some people don't think I should have done this, she's a teen girl, she'll be fine. HOWEVER, her grades went from crap to honor roll, and her behavior improved dramatically. I wouldn't change this for the world. When she's older, when she can drive herself around, I'm going back to school. We're using this time to save up for my tuition. It's tight, sure, I coupon, we shop at the consignment shops and whatnot. But we're all happier. If you can do it, then go for it! I know what it's like to be on both sides and I know there are people out there who can't make the choice I did. I have the upmost respect for single moms. I've been married to a truck driver for 24 years, I sort of know what it's like to be a single mom, and I do this by choice! God bless the ones who don't have the choices I do and make it work so beautifully. They are truly the heroes of this world!

Know EXACTLY where you are coming from! My husband got hurt in the army, when he came home driving truck was about his only choice and we decided then that if one parent is going to be absent a lot, the other should be available a lot. My two oldest are 24 and 23 and youngest is 12 but i homeschool the youngest now. Hubby is home at least every weekend and it's a good life for all of us!

Slimithy

Actually we are planning on my wife staying home after the baby is born. We have 2 with number 3 on the way. If she goes to work we will actually be losing money. How will we do it? Working hard to be mostly debt free, bought a smaller house we can afford, not as many frills, etc, etc... You also realize there are costs to having a "working spouse": 2 cars instead of one, more expensive professional looking outfits, more gas, eat lunch out more often, eat dinner out more often (who wants t cook after 1hr commute and picking up kids), stuff around the house is less likely to get down when it needs to, etc...

I can't wait for her to be home, I look forward to one of us putting the work of our home/family first. If I made less I'd do it myself; in fact, when I was in grad school and we only had one kid I did...

calibri

You guys are pretty brave. I couldn't imagine relying on someone financially. A family member's husband ran out on her after their kids moved away. She never had a job or even finished high school, so she's having a hard time finding something to do, even more so in this climate. I guess I'm just a control freak.

maillemaker

You guys are pretty brave. I couldn't imagine relying on someone financially. A family member's husband ran out on her after their kids moved away. She never had a job or even finished high school, so she's having a hard time finding something to do, even more so in this climate. I guess I'm just a control freak.

No, this is a valid concern. It is a risky thing dropping out of the work force for a decade or more.

ajbeans

I'm a stay-at-home mom. I do bring in like $40 a month from pageviews from some articles I wrote years ago, but that's all I contribute financially. For now. My youngest will go to kindergarten in 2 years, so when that happens I'm going to complete my teaching endorsement (already have my BA, just can't do student teaching until both kids are in school) and hopefully get a job. I don't like staying at home that much. I'm glad I'm doing it now since my kids are little, but it's not something I want to do once they're in school and I'd be alone all day.