UGH.... how do I avoid drinking

kimtpa1417

It's my friends birthday and her man rented the VIP at a local club.

First I am way to old to be going clubing.
Second the only way I am not going to be totally lame is to drink because I dont really want to go to a club

I dont want to drink because I should weigh in tomorrow and I am cutting it close with only a few calories left. And todays choices were not the greatest.

Would it be really wrong for me to bale on my friend?

pleasepleaseno

Just drink and workout tomorrow and make better choices tomorrow!
Whenever I know i am going to drink, I eat low calorie and workout that day for some wiggle room.
Have fun!!!

jillybeanruns

Would you be mad if she bailed on you just because "she didn't feel like it"?

I imagine so. Go, have a drink or two, alternate between water/some clear liquid and people will be none the wiser.

NH_1970

ask for ice water with lemon and volunteer to be a designated driver

bethann81

If I were you, I'd go and have just 1 or 2 drinks. That way you don't bail on your friend, but you're not going overboard on the alcohol. I stick to Bardardi and Diet Coke. (I think they're around 60 calories a piece)

Genem30

Can't you party like a rock star with Shirley Temples?

I know what you mean though, I hate being around drinking/drunks if I'm not one of them. And they'll always say, "Oh, you don't have to drink, just come hang out!" But nobody sober who could be drunk wants to hang out with drunks.

That's why nobody ever wants to be the designated driver.

infamousmk

It's way more important to be there for your friend than to be under your calories. So you have a rough weigh in this week - you get back on track tomorrow and do better next week!

JoLeeFA

ask for ice water with lemon and volunteer to be a designated driver

This would work.

Jesung

How much are you planning on drinking?
If it's not a lot, you can just eat a bit less food earlier on tomorrow and keep track of calories.
Otherwise, you should limit your intake of fat & carbs (virtually zero). Eat protein ad libidum.

Ideally, you should drink hard liquor and mixers without many calories instead of beer.
If you are a beer drinker, you can get some intense exercise done before heading off to the club.

Have fun and weigh yourself the morning after too, you might be surprised

sufikitkat

I don't see why you would have to drink. I tend to be low on cash often and usually drink water the whole time if my friends invite me out. I still have a great time...in fact it's actually really fun to be the sober one around drunkies! You can act silly and crazy with them and actually remember it! So I say...go out! Drink a couple if you want...but don't feel ridiculous just drinking water either. If your friends judge you for that I have to question if they are really your friends.

sleepytexan

I don't understand why you can't go and have a good time without drinking? Everyone understands watching calories right?

Just as you will choose NOT to eat a giant 750-calorie piece of crappy store-bought, crisco-frosting birthday cake, choose not to drink a 450 pint of beer. easy.

NEVER drink your hard-earned calories, and never waste them on things that taste bad. They are too valuable.


blessings.

milaxx

I order seltzer and lime if I am not drinking. It looks like a drink and I can nurse it all night.

aippolito1

I wouldn't do it. Everytime I say "I'll be good" the night before a weigh in, I blow it and end up regretting it... even if you can work it off in a few days, a weigh-in smack dab in the middle of a weekend and LOSING is the BEST feeling.

Elleinnz

You cant stop living life - and spending time with your friends because of your new healthy lifestyle (well I suppose you can if you choose to .....), but it is much better to plan a little bit for it....

Have a couple of low cal drinks - like suggested above - my go-to drink is a spritzer - half white wine / half club soda - and even a few ice cubes to water it down a bit more - I can "nurse" a glass for a good 30 minutes.

And seeing that you are going to a club I suspect there will be some dancing - so go shake your booty lady and burn off those few calories....

Going forward plan for these type of occasions by getting some exercise in before you go...

Go and have a wonderful time - the scale will still be there tomorrow and the next day - as long as these type of things are an exception it does not make any difference in the bif scheme of things!!

realme56

Go and drink diet soda or water. If they are your friends they will understand your needs.

Elzecat

It's my friends birthday and her man rented the VIP at a local club.

First I am way to old to be going clubing.
Second the only way I am not going to be totally lame is to drink because I dont really want to go to a club

I dont want to drink because I should weigh in tomorrow and I am cutting it close with only a few calories left. And todays choices were not the greatest.

Would it be really wrong for me to bale on my friend?

I'm a total lightweight, so I don't drink when I go out, because I am usually driving by myself or shooting photographs for events...no one ever hassles me about not drinking. If my friends did that, I'd think they were really jerks It should be about the time you spend together, not the alcohol

Have a Shirley Temple or seltzer or other nonalcoholic "drink" if you feel like you need to have a drink in your hand to fit in...if you choose to drink, have a couple and drink lots of water. And be aware that it could affect your weigh in, so don't be too hard on yourself.

misslouisee

If I were you, I'd go and have just 1 or 2 drinks. That way you don't bail on your friend, but you're not going overboard on the alcohol. I stick to Bardardi and Diet Coke. (I think they're around 60 calories a piece)

I'd recommend this because you can have diet coke sometimes on its own inbetween alcoholic drinks and nobody will know any different!!
I would definitely go.
1) because it's your friend and you should go for her.
2) because a diet shouldn't be about locking yourself away and having no fun
and 3) because if you cannot learn to incorporate healthy living and choices into everyday things like eating out and friends birthdays then you have little chance of keeping the weight off afterwards. Think of this as a learning exercise for your new healthy lifestyle.

realme56

I don't understand why you can't go and have a good time without drinking? Everyone understands watching calories right?

Just as you will choose NOT to eat a giant 750-calorie piece of crappy store-bought, crisco-frosting birthday cake, choose not to drink a 450 pint of beer. easy.

NEVER drink your hard-earned calories, and never waste them on things that taste bad. They are too valuable.


blessings.

The description of the cake made me nauseous! I had calories and dancing to do the other night and I had diet coke with Malibu and water. Registered 2.2# weight loss this morning!

nrvo

Club soda and lime! Diet coke! Don't drink tonic water - it has just as many cals as soda.

And if you want to drink drink, just stick to super light beers, diet coke w/vodka, and alternate alcoholic drinks with non-alcoholic. Drink lots of water before, and try to ration as many cals as you can during the day for your fun night out

travaly

You definitely need to go to her party and wish her happy birthday. Life is not going to stop just because you are trying to lose weight. If it's not a birthday then it will be a wedding reception or a Holiday party and on and on. You need to realize that life goes on but yours may not if you don't do something to lose weight and have a healthier lifestyle.
The key to going to places/parties where there are alcoholic drinks is kind of simple- always have a glass of diet sprite (low cal drink) in your hand. Don't plan on staying the whole time. The longer you stay the more chances are that you will get persuaded to drink or have others buy you drinks (those are really hard to turn down). Alcohol have a lot of calories and they make you retain water and if that weren't bad enough, they make you lose your inhibition (will power) to say no to alot of things including more drinks. LOL

MB_Positif

You can always say you have like a 7 am run planned with another friend and you don't want to show up all hungover. Have one drink early, then go with water

SiltyPigeon

One solution to your problem is to order diet soda in a glass so it looks like your drinking.

Now that I've given you a solution.... how about some unsolicited advice:

Bail on your friends enough and you won't have any friends to bail on. You have to live your life. You CAN have fun while still maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Do some extra cardio tomorrow to make up for the drinking you do tonight. Eat a lighter dinner tonight to make room for some drinks. Forget about calories for ONE DAY.

I hit my goal several months ago. At no time did I deprive myself. I went out drinking on occasion. I have a glass of wine several nights a week. I fit it into my daily goal by balancing my diet and exercise. You don't need to stop your life in order to get fit.

MB_Positif

oh...and if shots come out just accidentally pour them down the side of your mouth so at least half leaks out...might get on your shirt, but at least you won't get wasted or get too many calories...

jenkamac

I'm taking my friend out for her birthday tonight - it's red wine and maybe a gin and tonic or something like that. I can still drink if I want - just make better choices. Don't just not go. That's lame.

JENIFER_AZ

ask for ice water with lemon and volunteer to be a designated driver

LOVE IT!

FearAnLoathing

I dont avoid it at all im drinking right now

cm2two

drink like a rockstar...sometimes it should be and needs to be done.

SueInAz

One solution to your problem is to order diet soda in a glass so it looks like your drinking.

Now that I've given you a solution.... how about some unsolicited advice:

Bail on your friends enough and you won't have any friends to bail on. You have to live your life. You CAN have fun while still maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Do some extra cardio tomorrow to make up for the drinking you do tonight. Eat a lighter dinner tonight to make room for some drinks. Forget about calories for ONE DAY.

I hit my goal several months ago. At no time did I deprive myself. I went out drinking on occasion. I have a glass of wine several nights a week. I fit it into my daily goal by balancing my diet and exercise. You don't need to stop your life in order to get fit.

Every point of this is directly on the money.

The way you are eating and exercising should now be your life and not just a diet you're doing for a short period of time. You need to learn to balance the fun days with the every day. I spent last Friday - Monday in Laughlin, NV for my dad's 70th birthday with my parents, my husband and son, my siblings and their spouses. I drank the free drinks, I ate at the buffet and I am not ashamed to say that I had gained 2 pounds when I stepped on the scale Tuesday morning. As of this morning, those two pounds are already gone and they mattered so little in the big scheme of things. I wouldn't have missed that weekend for anything in the world. Go have fun!

hewhoiscd

I ride a motorcycle to social events...so I never drink when out, no matter what. If it comes up, I just say, "I'm riding" and that's that If you don't have a motorcyle...

Lots of good advice already. Another option:

Tip the bartender/server good at the start of the event. Enlist their aid to meet your goals. Tell them you are watching your calories and to keep your glass field with water and funny umbrellas and fruits or whatever to make it look like a hard drink.

billsica

drink like a rockstar...sometimes it should be and needs to be done.

Agree. Tell yourself it will destress you and help you loose weight in the long run.

killagb

Take up pot smoking. :drinker: