Anyone else feel guilty?

♥ChUbByCoyLe♥

Just a quick question? Does anyone else feel guilty when they go over their calorie intake?

My husband says he's worried about my obsessive need to stay within my calories and feels that being so strict with calories is being on the brink of an eating disorder.

I feel so good when i stay within my calories and if i do "accidentally" go over then i feel the need to burn those extra calories away.

Surely i'm not alone here? thoughts please.................x

dennissharon

I do, I have worked so hard to get to my goal, and really want to keep it off. I didn't hear about fitness pal until just recently and was doing a specific program to get the weight off, now with their support it is on me and I AM SCARED!!!!:ohwell:

♥ChUbByCoyLe♥

I do, I have worked so hard to get to my goal, and really want to keep it off. I didn't hear about fitness pal until just recently and was doing a specific program to get the weight off, now with their support it is on me and I AM SCARED!!!!:ohwell:

The support is great, keeps you on the straight and narrow. I think its hard for people, like my husband, who are at their ideal weight and have never had to lose weight to understand how hard it is!!

jbenton091011

Unfortunately weight issues aren't just physical, they're psychological too.

I feel guilty all the time. I remind myself that I have a tendancy to do this and that I need to keep an eye on it to avoid it becoming an obsessive problem. On Saturday I wanted to go to gym and couldn't because my husband had decided that he wanted to go out and that he needed the car. I just about flipped out. But what am I really going to gain or lose if I don't go or do go to the gym on Saturday? I realise one day can turn into two, but that's if you're not truly motivated to go.

You're not the only one. Just don't let it become a problem.

Good luck!

mmuzzatti

It's the same thing with the points in WW. I don't think it's a bad thing, tell him that it is your daily goal and that you want to keep it! Does he have a run or a thing he does everyday....well same thing, it's just a goal nothing more. Remember you can go over if you have worked out that day!

MelissaL582

I completely understand. I try to pre-plan my diary the day before so I stay in the green or at least have an idea of how much to burn in order to stay "green". I'm always on MFP - I love this place! I think that in order to be successful (especially in weight loss), you need to be obsessive.

♥ChUbByCoyLe♥

Unfortunately weight issues aren't just physical, they're psychological too.

I feel guilty all the time. I remind myself that I have a tendancy to do this and that I need to keep an eye on it to avoid it becoming an obsessive problem. On Saturday I wanted to go to gym and couldn't because my husband had decided that he wanted to go out and that he needed the car. I just about flipped out. But what am I really going to gain or lose if I don't go or do go to the gym on Saturday? I realise one day can turn into two, but that's if you're not truly motivated to go.

You're not the only one. Just don't let it become a problem.

Good luck!

Weight loss is totally addictive and it makes you feel so good when others notice it too. It take over the mind.

Good luck to you too :flowerforyou:

lynheff

I think guilt is a huge part of anyone with a personal control problem. Either we lose control and feel guilt or we just worry that we will! Accept that part of you and work with it. I weigh twice a week and worry every day that it isn't weighing day. I don't want to regain the 149 pounds I have lost. I have realized that one or two bad days are not going to cause me to suddenly gain a lot of weight so I can relax and forgive myself--but I have to track my calories, keep exercising and get right back on the right track because months of being out of control WILL put those all pounds right back on. Some one once said " eternal vigilance is the price of liberty" . I don't think he was talking about freedom from fat :laugh: but it works there too. Good luck. You have it all under control.

KENNY1957

YOU KNOW I USED TO FEEL THAT WAY AS WELL...................NOW IF AND WHEN I DO LIKE YESTERDAY!! LOL I LOOK BACK AT ALL THE DAY'S I DIDN'T OR WAS WELL UNDER MY INTAKE AND I REALIZE THERE ARE MORE TIMES I HAVE HAD SUCCESS THAN I HAVE FAILED! THAT MAKES ME WANT TO WORK HARDER THAT NEXT DAY SO I CAN PUT A BIG SMILE ON MY FACE.....AGAIN! ADD ME IF YOU LIKE... KEEP THE FAITH AND PUSH ON.........AND REMEMBER THIS, IT'S ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL INSIDE NOT WHAT SOME ONE ELSE DOES!!

♥ChUbByCoyLe♥

It's the same thing with the points in WW. I don't think it's a bad thing, tell him that it is your daily goal and that you want to keep it! Does he have a run or a thing he does everyday....well same thing, it's just a goal nothing more. Remember you can go over if you have worked out that day!

Good point!! He loves the gym and can't go without that. I'll point that out.

♥ChUbByCoyLe♥

Thanks for all your comments. Glad to see i'm not the only one who feels like this..... x :flowerforyou:

mmoyer1978

I feel guilty ALL the time. Especially lately because I've been slacking both on calorie counting and on excercize. My husband is constantly telling me that I am being too hard on myself, that I've lost 76 pounds already and that was not easy and a HUGE accomplishment. But in my mind, if I can't get off the last 56 pounds and reach my goal, what good was the first 76? Then he reminds me that the loss of those first 76 pounds meant that I no longer shop in the plus size department at clothing stores and that I no longer take blood pressure medication. It's ok to feel guilty, it's a normal human reaction when we feel we've failed or fallen short. Just don't be too hard on yourself.