Why do YOU block your food and exercise from view?

stephyy4632

mine is open I have no issues with it being open if someone comments and its something I don`t agree with I ignore them simple as that I know what works for me and I list everything.

Quaters

yes i totally agree, if mine is blocked it is not meant to be, we are al here for the same reason.

Kate6868

Mine was blocked until I read a post similar to this one. I had no idea that was the default, because I never really look at my own profile the way others do.

dad106

Mines open to my friends, but thats as far as it goes.

My journey is my journey.. it's not your journey or jane doe's journey. I personally don't feel that everyone needs to be looking at what I'm eating from day to day.. hell some days I don't even complete my diary because of how crazed life gets.

I also get friend requests or messages with how did you lose the weight.. and thats fine. I'll tell them, but 95% of the time it's not what people want to hear.. and then they are disappointed that I didn't do some crazy fad diet to lose the weight.

IamBrande

Mine is not in public view because I honestly, don't log my food on here very often. I am very busy with work, and 2 kids in sports, that logging food goes by the way side. I am my worst critique and I've been on this path since 2005. I reach my goal weight in 2009, then gained back 24lbs...................... I'm getting back to goal, and I know how to do it... IF I hit a slump, and I find the time to log my food for a few days, I'll make it public and seek opinions from others, if I can not figure it out on my own.

jenny95662

For me i dont show it for the reason people always have something to say when i dont ask for the advice. And I love how people post topics on here about why do my friends eat out every day and blah blah blah should i de friend them for not eating the food i do and so on. for me I want to be able to eat something not so great when i feel the need to without someone complaining about it or posting a topic about me later saying i have a friend who eats out sometimes and i want to delete them.

Delicate

I want any improvement with regards to my food to be for me, not to feel pressure of the possibly x amount of people who may read the diary.

That is why I keep it to myself.

ladybg81

I used to have it available only to my friends but have since made it public. Now, if I make a friend that has it closed off to everyone, I either take them off my list or hide them from my news feed. I think it is a personal choice but I really like to look at other peoples diary for ideas or whatever.

maidentl

I used to have it available only to my friends but have since made it public. Now, if I make a friend that has it closed off to everyone, I either take them off my list or hide them from my news feed. I think it is a personal choice but I really like to look at other peoples diary for ideas or whatever.

Obviously it's more than that or you wouldn't de-friend people for it. I don't understand the level of hysteria and vitriol some of you have for people with private diaries.

sal0118

I just want to say thanks to everyone who does share their journals and their journey online with everyone. I do actually get ideas from time to time reading them. Quite a few are not eating how I want to, but even then I still find it interesting to see the kazillion different ways people can arrive at roughly the same number.

I tend to get in a rut and am scared to make changes or I just don't think of any to make. Once in a while someone will be logging that is similar to me in age, weight and food choices and those are the most interesting for me, the most fun if they're way ahead of me, and a good source of ideas if they're just enough different to give me ideas. But again, all are interesting - especially to realize there are so many roads to success, which helps me relax and not freak out about falling off a really narrow little path.

I totally agree. I also want to say that I appreciate those who do share. I am bad about getting the vegetables in and reading others gives me ideas of what to fix. I believe the best part of living is sharing.

sal0118

Sorry. The second quote was mine.

AlyRoseNYC

I'm not here for anyone else. I'm here for me. I don't really feel the need to share my food diary with others, even if it does mean that someone could find ideas or inspiration. I share it with my friends only.

IamBrande

I used to have it available only to my friends but have since made it public. Now, if I make a friend that has it closed off to everyone, I either take them off my list or hide them from my news feed. I think it is a personal choice but I really like to look at other peoples diary for ideas or whatever.

Dont you think people get judged enough in life? It's a shame a simple choice on here can make or break someone's support system. I dont deal well with people in real life who are only a supportive friend based on conditions. I have friends on my list because I will support them, the best I can, on the level that they need the support. I dont friend people based on the "condition" that they open up to me more than they care comfortable doing.....

If I have lost "friends" on here because my log is private, then obviously they aren't the kind of supporters I want in my corner.

Angie789

My diaries are open to the people on my friends list - I don't feel the need to go around telling random people how I eat and exercise (or why) in real life so why would I do it on the internet.

If people are interested in seeing what I do and how I do it they can send me a friend request and chances are that I'll accept them just because the showed interest in me.

+1

And I'll add that most of my MFP friends are my friends, family & co-workers in real life. They know if I am being honest about a meal because they watched me eat it! For me, having some people I trust checking in on me gives me the accountability I want without unwanted feedback from strangers who don't know my goals or my situation. I had it set to public at one time, but I got blasted by someone who told me that I was "killing myself slowly" by eating a Lean Cuisine once or twice a week on busy workdays - all that sodium (never mind that I am consistently under my sodium levels). I'm here for support, not unsolicited criticism, so I set things up in a way that works for me.

nsblue

I have my diary open to all, I have no secrets... makes no diff to me. What I am doing is working for me... and if any wants to look at it they can fill their boots. If any want to critisize what I am doing... lol oh well....let em atter.... I am healthier than I have ever been and keep having good checks from my doc every 3 months...I feel great and am still losing weight. If any want to glean anything to help themselves from it... go right ahead... IMO helping others.. helps ourselves. I am in no competion...

I too have to laugh when some ask for advice and do not give all info or have their food logs private. There are many things one has to look at when losing weight. I feel being accountable is very important... most importantly to yourself... once that is underway... it doesnt really matter what anyone says about anything. I am always looking to learn... to fine tune what I do on this journey... we all can learn from each other... if we allow ourselves.

tashjs21

Mine is private because it was that way when MFP first began and was that way for a long time. When the option to make it public or opening it came up I chose not to. Ultimately this is MY journey. If I am not being truthful with myself then I am only cheating me.

If someone wants advice on how to get in vegetables or on how to incorporate different foods...that is what the message boards are for in my opinion.

I joined MFP because I was ready to hold myself accountable and make a change and log everything I eat. I don't need someone coming in and giving me unsolicited advice.

I am in the process of trying to eliminate processed foods. I am making progress but am not 100% there yet. Do I really need someone coming along commenting on me eating too many processed foods (which does happen, people to send these kind of PM's) when I am already working on that area? No.

I don't knock people for opening theirs, maybe they need that extra level of accountability. But why is it such a big deal if someone isn't at that point yet?

When I want specific advice, I take it to the message boards or my newsfeed. My diary is mine.:flowerforyou: