What would you think...

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  • legmotor
    legmotor Posts: 197 Member
    Recently being in the "dating" game where you are trying to find someone it can burn a huge hole in your budget paying for dinner a few nights a week. If he is a nice guy trying to find someone, give him a break. If he is a player then call him on it. How many ladies wouldn't consider a coupon if traditional roles didn't apply and you were trying to find someone?
  • legmotor
    legmotor Posts: 197 Member
    It's kinda sad. It seems to be the consensus that saving money on a date, even a first date, is a bad thing. I think this shows how materialistic you are being if that is your biggest concern. You supposedly had a nice date, good dinner, great conversation and then he uses a coupon and suddenly THIS is the one thing you take away from your night...he used a coupon?

    Amen Brother!!
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
    personally, i would be impressed. And how is this any different than him/her pulling out a Diner's Club card? it wouldn't bother me at all - AS LONG AS S/HE STILL TIPPED FOR THE FULL PRICE. that's my thing. it's not the waiter/ess' fault that you're counting pennies, tip right and a coupon is just smart.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    A little weird and kind of tacky, but at the same time, when thinking about someone to spend my life with, being good with money is a positive trait. I might laugh about it, but I wouldn't write him off.
  • chocolateandvodka
    chocolateandvodka Posts: 1,850 Member
    honestly? i would laugh. quietly, and to myself... but i would giggle.

    i would probably like him more, but i would wonder if he was frugal or cheap, and i would think of ways to test that theory.

    a persons relationship with money, regardless of how much they have, speaks a lot about them. it's one of the things i watch for when meeting someone new.
  • spicy618
    spicy618 Posts: 2,114 Member
    If he informs me before the date, I don't see anything wrong with it.

    If he just whips it out when the check arrives, it will be a bit uncomfortable.

    However, I'm not passing up on a Great guy becuase of a coupon. :flowerforyou:
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    If I asked a lady out to dinner,picked her up and then drove to the golden arches because it was cheaper then a restaurant meal would that be okay?

    If anyone wonders,never in a million years would I but same idea.
  • CrimsonHellkite
    CrimsonHellkite Posts: 114
    It's kinda sad. It seems to be the consensus that saving money on a date, even a first date, is a bad thing. I think this shows how materialistic you are being if that is your biggest concern. You supposedly had a nice date, good dinner, great conversation and then he uses a coupon and suddenly THIS is the one thing you take away from your night...he used a coupon?
    it is quite sad and shows how shallow society is.
  • HOSED49
    HOSED49 Posts: 642 Member
    at least he didnt say his mom gave him the coupon before he left the house that night......
  • stampede55
    stampede55 Posts: 474
    If I asked a lady out to dinner,picked her up and then drove to the golden arches because it was cheaper then a restaurant meal would that be okay?

    If anyone wonders,never in a million years would I but same idea.

    Not even close in comparison.
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
    If I asked a lady out to dinner,picked her up and then drove to the golden arches because it was cheaper then a restaurant meal would that be okay?

    If anyone wonders,never in a million years would I but same idea.

    I disagree, if I was taken out for a nice lobster dinner at a fancy restaurant and we had drinks and the setting was nice...and then he whipped out a coupon for x% off, would NEVER be the same as McDonalds. Never.
  • JulieSD
    JulieSD Posts: 567
    If I asked a lady out to dinner,picked her up and then drove to the golden arches because it was cheaper then a restaurant meal would that be okay?

    If anyone wonders,never in a million years would I but same idea.

    Not even close in comparison.

    Agree!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    If I asked a lady out to dinner,picked her up and then drove to the golden arches because it was cheaper then a restaurant meal would that be okay?

    If anyone wonders,never in a million years would I but same idea.

    If you're pinching pennies and can't afford dinner in a nicer place than that, then don't take me to dinner. Think of a date that doesn't include spending money. Take me on a picnic, to an art gallery, ANYTHING else. I don't mind trying to keep it on the cheaper side, but don't make it CHEAP.
  • CrimsonHellkite
    CrimsonHellkite Posts: 114
    man no wonder the whole worlds in debt? saving money is embarrassing? it* makes you some kinda lower class cause you actually try and get the most for your money?
  • Silverkittycat
    Silverkittycat Posts: 1,997 Member
    If you're pinching pennies and can't afford dinner in a nicer place than that, then don't take me to dinner. Think of a date that doesn't include spending money. Take me on a picnic, to an art gallery, ANYTHING else. I don't mind trying to keep it on the cheaper side, but don't make it CHEAP.

    this.
  • 1FineFaye84
    1FineFaye84 Posts: 46 Member
    I guess it would depend where we were dining and what kind of coupon it was. If it was a newspaper clipping I might chuckle a bit, but if it's a restraunt.com coupon--he paid for that, and it's pretty smart! I get $25 off of $35 spent at the restraunt for a mere $4 online... So basically I'm spending $14 on a meal that is worth $35.
  • H_82
    H_82 Posts: 418 Member
    at least he didnt say his mom gave him the coupon before he left the house that night......
    Hahahaha.....Love it!

    I say don't be a cheap *kitten*... at least not for the first date. Save the coupon for maybe the next date.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    I think it would be better than having him pretend to be a big spender when he really isn't.....

    I guess it also depends on the date itself...if you're really into them and are having a good time, it wouldn't be as big a deal as if the person was a bit creepy in the first place.
  • stampede55
    stampede55 Posts: 474
    I wouldn't have a problem at all. It would show me that they understand the value of a dollar.

    I would be glad to know that they are someone that knows how to save money.

    I'm a single mom, I would love that he used a coupon (unless it was a chain restaurant!), money is tight for everyone now and then. Its still nice to go out and have a good time...who cares hows its paid for (as long as its legal!) lol

    Dine and Dash!!!!!!!
  • LaDiablesse
    LaDiablesse Posts: 862 Member
    Wouldn't bother me at all. Hell, with the way things are these days, I'd be surprised we'd have gone out at all.
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    I wouldn't have a problem, and frankly, I don't understand the mentality that would... I honestly don't pay attention to how they pay. I offer every time, and if denied, I don't even look at how he's paying. I don't care if he uses a credit card, cash, or coupon. Presumably he's saving a few dollars so we can go out again!

    I don't think it's cheap or tacky at all. And, if he can joke about it, even better! I don't want a guy who just throws his money away in the long run, so if he has a coupon to use, more power to him! Also, I don't care if you take me to McDonald's, so long as we have a decent conversation and a connection! I'm just a laid back girl who can roll with it. And again, joking about it helps!!
  • CrimsonHellkite
    CrimsonHellkite Posts: 114
    I wouldn't have a problem, and frankly, I don't understand the mentality that would... I honestly don't pay attention to how they pay. I offer every time, and if denied, I don't even look at how he's paying. I don't care if he uses a credit card, cash, or coupon. Presumably he's saving a few dollars so we can go out again!

    I don't think it's cheap or tacky at all. And, if he can joke about it, even better! I don't want a guy who just throws his money away in the long run, so if he has a coupon to use, more power to him! Also, I don't care if you take me to McDonald's, so long as we have a decent conversation and a connection! I'm just a laid back girl who can roll with it. And again, joking about it helps!!

    amen! someone with some sense!
  • baypathgradLyns
    baypathgradLyns Posts: 639 Member
    my fiance jokes that if I were to take out a coupon on our first date, he would have asked me to marry him right then and there...lol

    we are both "frugal"

    haven't come across that situation in the past though, I would find it weird if someone did that...
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    if your date (first date!) took out a coupon when it was time to pay for dinner?

    I would think "why has this cheapskate taken me to a place that accepts coupons in the first place?"

    It shouldn't matter. Really it shouldn't.

    But I suspect for a lot of women, in the moment, it really DOES matter especially on a first date. If you don't have a lot of money then fine. Not everyone does. Make up for it with creativity. Cook for her instead. Take her on a picnic. Do something else rather than the typical dinner date. Just don't use a coupon...
  • GreatSetOfBrains
    GreatSetOfBrains Posts: 675 Member
    I paid for dinner while my husband was in the restroom our first date. I guess I'm not all that traditional?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I paid for dinner while my husband was in the restroom our first date. I guess I'm not all that traditional?

    Actually, I love doing this... takes away any question :)
  • cklbrown
    cklbrown Posts: 4,696 Member
    The coupon would not be a deal breaker. I would just be happy someone else is paying!
  • shnazzy
    shnazzy Posts: 213
    Eeeeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkk lol
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,045 Member
    I wouldn't have a problem at all. It would show me that they understand the value of a dollar.
    This......How many people here wish they weren't in debt? You get in debt when you spend more than you can really afford. If the meal was good and the company was good, why would it matter how it was paid for? Just another reason why we here in America are delusional about how money makes the person.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,045 Member
    It's kinda sad. It seems to be the consensus that saving money on a date, even a first date, is a bad thing. I think this shows how materialistic you are being if that is your biggest concern. You supposedly had a nice date, good dinner, great conversation and then he uses a coupon and suddenly THIS is the one thing you take away from your night...he used a coupon?
    +100. If people place value on how much is being spent on them, then essentially you can be bought.
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