Last night was surreal for me...

kapeluza

Gossip is gossip... just like MFP titty ***** gossip... Lol

But I bet that was awkward!

otr12

I have this philosophy,...
Every person has X amount of drama that they are going to have where X is a set quantity and has nothing to do with their circumstances. It's a character feature. If a persons X is naturally high, but they live a low stress lifestyle, they will create drama where it didn't exist so that their X (a pre determined drama level) = the drama in their life.

Financial concerns and rocky marriages tend to carry some of the highest levels of drama. If a person does not get any drama from these sources they will have to find or create drama from another source. Gossip works great for fulfilling this need.

This isn't science. At least as far as I know it isn't. It's just an observation of mine that I've found to be remarkably accurate. My X is very low and I am substantially more logical than emotional, which I believe allows me to observe people without getting caught up in what's going on with them.

I don't consider people with a high X to be flawed. They're just different. Peoples differences have a huge impact on how compatible they are. I don't have a problem with people that aren't compatible with me but I most likely wont enjoy their company. If I had a high X I might actually relish the company of people I'm not compatible with.

leynak

I have this philosophy,...
Every person has X amount of drama that they are going to have where X is a set quantity and has nothing to do with their circumstances. It's a character feature. If a persons X is naturally high, but they live a low stress lifestyle, they will create drama where it didn't exist so that their X (a pre determined drama level) = the drama in their life.

Financial concerns and rocky marriages tend to carry some of the highest levels of drama. If a person does not get any drama from these sources they will have to find or create drama from another source. Gossip works great for fulfilling this need.

This isn't science. At least as far as I know it isn't. It's just an observation of mine that I've found to be remarkably accurate. My X is very low and I am substantially more logical than emotional, which I believe allows me to observe people without getting caught up in what's going on with them.

I don't consider people with a high X to be flawed. They're just different. Peoples differences have a huge impact on how compatible they are. I don't have a problem with people that aren't compatible with me but I most likely wont enjoy their company. If I had a high X I might actually relish the company of people I'm not compatible with.

I never thought of it like that but it is very true.

I have often wondered how my sister & I were raised in the same family because she always has some drama that is stressing her out- even if it's something really stupid

Iamfit4life

This is the reason I never really felt like I fit in. I'm just not like that.
When I was married i HAD those friends and they acted just like that. I was always disgusted whenever one of them would say "we're so much alike" because we aren't anything alike.

When she found out about my wanting a divorce she said "welll... don't do it. Here is how I see it... what if you get a divorce and he finds some hot 21 yr old and you are still just a single mom, that's why I won't get a divorce"


That's what she had to say. That's why she refused to leave an unhappy life.
So perhaps all these women you met are just as unhappy and trapped by their fear of "just being a single mother"
And maybe the men are so worried about keeping appearances they go along with it as well.

I have no idea. But there is always a layer of skeletons in those closets I don't even want to think about.


You seem way too cool to have to be caught up in that game.

SweetTeaBlossom

Image and following the pack is everything to a lot of people and if you don't fit the mold, they want you gone. Period. They don't need your individualism rocking the boat. I've experienced this at all class levels.

Unfortunately, people are a lot more vicious in letting you know you don't belong with them so it stings more.

Frankenbarbie01

Some people tear others down, to try and build themselves up.
They are probably not as happy as you think, if they are engaging in this type of behavior.

Sad but true!! If you get another opportunity to be 'Graced by their presence' Add fuel to the fire!!! Just for fun....Looked totally shocked and exclaim........OH, NO!!!!! REALLY!!! after each declaration of truth (well their truth anyways!) It only takes a few min for the fire to sputter out and people to realise they are allowing this type of behavior.
Failing that get'cher BIG OLE BALLS and call the *****es out!!!:devil: :laugh:

odusgolp

Some people tear others down, to try and build themselves up.
They are probably not as happy as you think, if they are engaging in this type of behavior.

Sad but true!! If you get another opportunity to be 'Graced by their presence' Add fuel to the fire!!! Just for fun....Looked totally shocked and exclaim........OH, NO!!!!! REALLY!!! after each declaration of truth (well their truth anyways!) It only takes a few min for the fire to sputter out and people to realise they are allowing this type of behavior.
Failing that get'cher BIG OLE BALLS and call the *****es out!!!:devil: :laugh:

Can't lie... I love to point out the truth in a subtle way and fuel the fire that way *LOL*

rml_16

There's a weird dynamic amongst the SAHM suburbanites - especially the more well-to-do ones. I lived in an area like that when my daughter was little and most of them treated me that way. I think part of it is when you're single and attractive, they feel threatened. It's weird. I haven'experienced it with other groups of women, though.

i_love_vinegar

There are huge differences in classes.

I'm middle class (I know were disappearing) my wife teaches in an area with lot of poverty, my school is middle class(I am IT not teaching) My sister teachers at a school with mostly wealthy. The priorities and values are just so odd.

Case in point, my sister had a parent teacher student conference, the mother commented "You don't want to grow up and have to shop at target." .. it wasn't even ripping on wall mart. ?!?!? We shop at Target.

my wife, a family was sleeping on mattresses in the kitchen and had no fridge. The school chipped in and bought them a fridge. They when and sold it, and went on a family vacation, because they didn't need a fridge.

Bizarre..

I disagree that wealthy act that way. Maybe you are talking about upper-middle class or the rich...(although obv not all ppl within a certain class are the same lol)^.^

As for the topic at hand, some people are just like that. I wouldnt let those women get to you. ^.^ Idk why they are like that and dont care. They dont seem like pleasant people anyways, so forget about them