I'm a little disappointed

UsedToBeHusky

I just realized that an MFP community member deleted me from their friend's list. I think the reason is that I am not in the "eat all your calories" camp. I just want to be clear that I think everyone should do this in what ever way works best for them. Clinically obese people, such as myself, are able to safely lose weight faster. It is a proven fact. However, if you feel more comfortable eating all of your calories, then that is the way you should do it. But please don't look down on me because I do it differently.

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If someone delete's you for having a different philosophy then you're better off. I'd never delete someone if they were low carb, low fat, eat all exercise calories, eat none back etc etc. Whatever works for them is their business. I'll chime in with my opinion, but I'm not going to base their opinion on what THEY eat as a deal breaker for a friendship on here.

TDGee

If someone delete's you for having a different philosophy then you're better off. I'd never delete someone if they were low carb, low fat, eat all exercise calories, eat none back etc etc. Whatever works for them is their business. I'll chime in with my opinion, but I'm not going to base their opinion on what THEY eat as a deal breaker for a friendship on here.

That's a good point! You should be a mod!

healthieramanda

I don't eat back all my calories either, I honestly cannot fathom scrunching an extra meal in and I definitely have a lot of weight to lose. Personally, I think you're better off

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Thanks TD. I'm trying lol :P

leilani♥

I know some people delete others off their friends lists when they have too many friends and its difficult for them to keep up with their feeds. I wouldn't take it personal.. it's their loss for not keeping you around. You've got a ton of support here on MFP and you've got 1_up !

UsedToBeHusky

You are probably right. I generally don't delete friends unless they just aren't active, but I suppose everyone has their reasons.

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I know some people delete others off their friends lists when they have too many friends and its difficult for them to keep up with their feeds. I wouldn't take it personal.. it's their loss for not keeping you around. You've got a ton of support here on MFP and you've got 1_up !

killagb

I eat my exercise calories back most of the way but usually not all of the way, to make up for any inaccuracies. Usually within 50-100 if I can help it.

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k2quiere

If someone delete's you for having a different philosophy then you're better off. I'd never delete someone if they were low carb, low fat, eat all exercise calories, eat none back etc etc. Whatever works for them is their business. I'll chime in with my opinion, but I'm not going to base their opinion on what THEY eat as a deal breaker for a friendship on here.

That's a good point! You should be a mod!

Nice plug, TD..very smooth!

OP: If someone deleted you because of that, then they weren't going to be a good friend or motivator for you, so you are definitely better off without them! BTW: I don't even consider the idea of eating back my exercise calories...when I'm full, I stop...end of story.

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cownancy

I agree with everyone....first of all, when two people have very different philosophies, it CAN be difficult to be a good support system for that person. There are hundreds of other people here on MFP who are more like-minded....go find them! Second, I just deleted a few people because there haven't logged on in a while and, quite frankly, I just accepted too many people, willy-nilly, when I first started here and it is really hard to be a good friend to all of them when there are so many. I look for reasons to pare down so I don't spend hours sifting through the feeds, so that makes sense to me, too.

As for eating back calories, I actually brought this up to my nutritionist because I was told certain numbers for each day plus 30 minutes of exercise (walking). I was told that my net should never be less than 1000 calories a day. This low number if OK for me because I am highly supervised by both doctors and nutritionists AND, truth is, I am SELDOM under 1200 calories. My maximum for the day is supposed to be 1500. With my obesity and vitamin supplements (and high protein intake), I could probably go quite a while on a minimal caloric intake and still do well. :-(

Good luck to you. When given the choice, select people who have similar beliefs and goals as you and/or whose comments/blogs motivate you.

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Ty

jessicae1aine

I didn't realize someone would make THAT big of a deal out of it! I eat when I'm hungry, don't when I'm not. Some days that means I'm pretty low, some days that means I'm over - but my weekly average so far is staying below my given calories, so I figure that's good enough.

darrcn5

I think I deleted one person for constantly calling herself so fat-even though she was 5'8 and 140 pounds. I know some people have self image problems, but the way she did it just reminded me of high school where some skinny girls used to complain about how fat they are just to hear people tell them they aren't.

Some people just like to surround themselves with people who do things "their way."

cheeksv

I think there are some reasons to delete friends bad attitudes, like you said people who believe there way is the only way, but I have only done it once. I was inactive for about a month because of my fiances health issues and I had to take a month off from fitness. Now I am back and it seems like all my support is gone becasue I was " inactive". I have lost friends and the ones I have no longer comment on my statuses or progress. I think that is the one thing I really dislike about MFP and has somewhat made me weary of continuing. It is like MFP's want to teach people a lesson by deleting them if they are not on all the time and tracking progress for all to see.

ConfidenceNMe

psha! Don't worry about them! Look at the list of support you've got right here. That's what's good. Those are the people you surround yourself with. I think people get too nity gritty about eating those extra calories. I know I did when I first got on. But I realized the more you work out, the more impossible it is to keep up with that philosophy. And if you're constantly eating back all those extra calories, I don't see how you're supposed to lose any weight anyhow. If you eat and ou feel like you're getting full, stop. It's that simple. Eat when you're hungry don't when you aren't. Keep it up Girl!

pinkita

I wouldn't take it personally either. I don't have many MFP friends but I still sometimes feel overwhelmed by their feeds, as some like to post status updates ALL the time Kind of like Facebook. I'm considering deleting someone from my list now because they NEVER acknowledge any of my posts to their profile, or send me any messages, etc.

k2quiere

Pink, I wouldn't necessarily delete them for not acknowledging your posts on their profiles, as many people on here don't realize there profile is different from their news feed. I never checked my profile for at least 1.5 months, and then went to change something only to notice that I had messages from others on there. These things don't show up on the home page news feed, so many don't know they're there, nor do they know that they have to go to your profile in order to message you. I'm not saying don't delete those you don't interact with, I'm just giving you something to think about.