Im New and just trying to feel good about myself

mrsjoelfavre

my Husband tells me i'm fat alot and i just want to look better. all my friends say i look great.
but to myself. i don't see it!

does anyone understand. just because i'm little doesn't mean that there is nothing wrong with me.

mrsjoelfavre

my Husband tells me i'm fat alot and i just want to look better. all my friends say i look great.
but to myself. i don't see it!

does anyone understand. just because i'm little doesn't mean that there is nothing wrong with me.

jessjess

Dang.

Does he actually say "You're fat"?

Well...if YOU feel like you need to get in better shape, great....but don't let him kill your self-esteem. Guys can be so insensitive sometimes!

Razboo

It's true. We're all *kitten*.

jessjess

It's true. We're all *kitten*.

:laugh: At least you are honest.

GinaB30

I'm sorry your husband is saying that! :noway:
I hope that you can find the support here to lose some weight and feel good about yourself.

AprilAMiner

i understand cause it is hard to lose the weight, my career depends on me losing

icandoit

my Husband tells me i'm fat alot and i just want to look better. all my friends say i look great.
but to myself. i don't see it!

does anyone understand. just because i'm little doesn't mean that there is nothing wrong with me.

I would tell him to shove it up his *kitten*!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry......Welcome and good luck to you.

filergirl

My friend's boyfriend would pick on her weight all the time, often in front of others. She was by no means fat. She admitted she was miserable, but didn't feel she could make it on her own.

If your husband is a mean *kitten* -- and deep down you know it -- get out.

Most guys aren't jerks. There are plenty of good, honest men out there.

diannholland1965

I had a boyfriend that was just like that, He wore me down a lot.
Every time I tried to lose weight he would say I was cheating on him with guys at the gym, Or that the reason that I wanted to lose weight was to leave him. But he would go around calling me fat all the time. I got out.
But NOT before I told him that, If I was fat, he was old, ugly inside and out, and the real stinger NO GOOD AT SPORTS!
After I left him he married another women a few short months later. I NEVER felt so sorry for a girl I had NEVER met.
I figured that if a guy is going to resort to name calling it is because they want you to feel just as bad as they do. You have to choices here. Let him make you feel bad, or don't. It is hard because this is your husband.
NOW with that said! Not all guys are that way. I can confirm that because I have a GREAT GUY! and I know that my DAD is a great guy! and my Brother in Law is a great guy. and all of the men on this SITE are great guys. YES RAZBOO YOU TOO!!!:bigsmile:
You are a beautiful women, No matter what he says you look like! No matter what size you are.
No matter what your hang ups are. You are a women and WOMEN are PURE MAGIC! After all we have the ability to WOO MEN! :laugh:
When my ex did that, I found SOMETHING on my body that I liked, it started with my eyes. Then my face, then I noticed that I have killer calves. And my Toes are so CUTE! Might sound strange and silly, but if you can come up with something in YOUR MIND that YOU like about yourself. then next time he calls you fat, you will be able to think to yourself, (Ahh BUT LOOK AT THESE SEXY EYES!!!! You big JERK.)
You are not alone, A lot of us have been there. And sweetie, We got your back!
:flowerforyou: :smooched: :smooched: :smooched: :smooched:
--Diann...

Lavendersunday

Focus on the solution only which is clearly not about losing weight. I suggest you begin a Yoga practice which will become a well placed mirror that will show you your true reflection. The benefits will be many...for you are all good things. ~:flowerforyou: