Some phrases that should not be said on MFP !

skinnywithin

I just noticed someones before and after pics and had to refrain from using the phrase " HOLY COW" I mean this would have been used in a good way but after consideration , I didnt think she would have liked it..What are some of the phrases you have said and later thought OOPS maybe I should have chosen different words !

You know the ones like..WOW LOOKS LIKE YOU LOST A TON OF WEIGHT or DANG, I ALMOST DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU !!!

Chastityx

I don't know but I ambeginning to like football better, is that the cowboys?

TMcBooty

I don't know but I ambeginning to like football better, is that the cowboys?

yep!

TMcBooty

"why are you losing weight?"

skinnywithin

I don't know but I ambeginning to like football better, is that the cowboys?

WHY YES IT IS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OH HOW I LOVE THEM !

skinnywithin

Lets not forget this one ....WOW your so pretty now !

MochaMixAZ

Some of the oops I've made (and that I've heard):

- WOW! I didn't know you were that pretty!
- You must feel so much better now. I can't believe you lived like that!
- OMG! You have a waist!
- Did you have a thyroid problem?
- Have you had weight loss surgery?
- Your family must really be proud of you now!

poustotah

How about this one, "wow, you're huge!"

rmsrws

"You look so good now" never relized I looked that repulsive before!

skinnywithin

CRACKING UP AT ..YOUR FAMILY MUST BE SO PROUD...Why yes becasue when I was heavier I was a total LOSER!

rmsrws

This one has been said to me by mom. I am sure she didn't mean anything negative by it, but it still sorta lingers in the back of my mind.

" You look so good now, I am so proud of you" So was she ashamed of me a 119 lbs ago????

EnuffaMyButt

I just noticed someones before and after pics and had to refrain from using the phrase " HOLY COW" I mean this would have been used in a good way but after consideration , I didnt think she would have liked it..What are some of the phrases you have said and later thought OOPS maybe I should have chosen different words !

You know the ones like..WOW LOOKS LIKE YOU LOST A TON OF WEIGHT or DANG, I ALMOST DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU !!!

Hey SkinnyWithin ~ I think it's simply an honest, instant reaction. I certainly wouldn't take offense to it AND I'd likely be one of the first to respond in the same way. That's just my opinion though. I can understand, to the same extent how you would think it could be offensive. If I were face to face with someone and said the same, they'd totally see the sincerity in my face and not take offense. I think sometimes it hard to express the same, in words (without seeing the persons face) online. Does that make sense?

jenscot25

I hear "when's your baby due?" or "Are you expecting again?" :huh: NEVER under any circumstances should pregnancy be assumed!!! My youngest is 13 months and I still look about 4 months pregnant since I carry all of my weight in my stomach.

skinnywithin

I just noticed someones before and after pics and had to refrain from using the phrase " HOLY COW" I mean this would have been used in a good way but after consideration , I didnt think she would have liked it..What are some of the phrases you have said and later thought OOPS maybe I should have chosen different words !

You know the ones like..WOW LOOKS LIKE YOU LOST A TON OF WEIGHT or DANG, I ALMOST DIDNT RECOGNIZE YOU !!!

Hey SkinnyWithin ~ I think it's simply an honest, instant reaction. I certainly wouldn't take offense to it AND I'd likely be one of the first to respond in the same way. That's just my opinion though. I can understand, to the same extent how you would think it could be offensive. If I were face to face with someone and said the same, they'd totally see the sincerity in my face and not take offense. I think sometimes it hard to express the same, in words (without seeing the persons face) online. Does that make sense?

YES AND THANKS but to be honest I deleted my post right adfter I typed it . I didnt want to hurt her feeling s!

1Prettypain

are you sick, wow youve gotten skinny.....

cat3nv

I have heard

"I had to look at that pic twice, it does not look like you"

"You look great now" Leave off the now and it is a great compliment.

"you lost how much weight!!!!!" I have seen this......

MochaMixAZ

CRACKING UP AT ..YOUR FAMILY MUST BE SO PROUD...Why yes becasue when I was heavier I was a total LOSER!

LOL Exactly. I do try to weigh (ha!) their intention and respond accordingly. Usually, it's a complete lack of awareness that what they are saying could be interpreted negatively. Heart-felt, well-intentioned compliments are always appreciated, I think.

So even if you had said that (much like EnuffaMyButt said), it likely would have been interpreted as something nice.

PeachyKeene

I stick my foot in my mouth often!

spicypepper

Some of the oops I've made (and that I've heard):

- WOW! I didn't know you were that pretty!
- You must feel so much better now. I can't believe you lived like that!
- OMG! You have a waist!
- Did you have a thyroid problem?
- Have you had weight loss surgery?
- Your family must really be proud of you now!

My mother actually said "WOW, you have a waist!" I was sooooo not happy...

kristinascott

This one has been said to me by mom. I am sure she didn't mean anything negative by it, but it still sorta lingers in the back of my mind.

" You look so good now, I am so proud of you" So was she ashamed of me a 119 lbs ago????

LOL i have gotten that same thing from soooo many in my family... & i am sure they dont mean it like they werent proud before but i get what you mean when you hear its like - huh? ....

mfiggs

I have heard numerous times..."Wow you have a waist" it is really noticeable now. I always had a waist it was just bigger!