unsupportive people how to overcome it

Maid_Of_Horror

Hey i was just wondering if anyone had advice on unsupportive family and how to overcome it? ive tried several times to do something about my weight but coming from a large family i never get any support and constantly get offered bad food which is hard and some times i feel like jsut giving up, i know sooky right but if anyone has and advice on how best to not give in to temtation that would be really apreciated as im sick of being in my 20s and feeling like im in my 50s

JeSuisPrest

Can you try packing your own foods and drink and bringing them to family gatherings?? Just say no thanks to food that's offered and walk away if you must. You are in control of yourself! You can do this!!

Goofy076

Honestly boo some people are just dark jealous souls.. if they cant be the light you need or the support you need you should just let them go and take this journey with those that will be there for you in every way.. this is hard enough and to have to battle your life style change, your body and people that are negative its setting your self up for failure.

koosdel

An' here I go again on my own
Goin' down the only road I've ever known,
Like a drifter I was born to walk alone
An' I've made up my mind
I ain't wasting no more time

davis24

oh my god! i just said the same thing today, im 26 and feel like 50. my family is also large people.(not supportive) may if we stick to our plan and they see the results it will motivate them.

lawtechie

Can you just "lay it all out there" and have a heart to heart with them (or just your closest family members) to again say WHY you're doing this. Maybe they just need a shove in the right direction to stop pawning food on you so much.

Maybe allow yourself 'one bite' and then decline the rest, saying you've had your fill.

dkreman

WOW! 147 pounds. That's incredible. Congratulations!

JJasMyself

This can be so hard and feel like such an obstacle to overcome. I felt that way when I first had to move in with my dad. He is healthy and in good shape because he walks for 6 hours a day delivering mail so he eats anything he wants whenever he wants. There are m&ms and chocolate chip cookies, chips, pretzels, dips, candies, ...etc you name it and it's in this house. Which was one of the reasons that for a while I just resigned myself to the fact that I was going to be at least 50lbs overweight for the rest of my life or however long it took me to get back on my feet and get my own place. Luckily, my dad is supportive, but he just doesn't know that much about nutrition so he'll do things like buy me twizzlers just because they say they are fat free, but my I've gotten to the point where I can talk to him about what is actually healthy and what is not and my healthy food is comingling with his junk food. I just have to have a whole lot more self control than people who live in their own house and have more control over whether or not there is junk food in their house.

At some point you just have to stop caring what other people think, even if it is your own family because you know that in the long run losing weight and eating healthy is really more important. Try talking to them about your goals and what they can do to help you achieve them and even explain to them that for now on if they offer you junk food you aren't going to eat it. You'll have to stay strong for a while because they'll still offer it to you, but after you turn it down and show them that your are truly committed to this goal they'll eventually back off. I've also noticed that after I lost a noticeable amount of weight people stopped offering me junk food too. Make it well known what your intentions are so people can't claim they didn't know. Also make it well known what they can do to help keep you on track. And don't forget to express appreciation for when they do. Hope that helps.

Maid_Of_Horror

Thanks all for the super quick responces of support. its nice having someone say i can do it and its not a no hope mission. Ive started to go through the pantry and throw out a few things... since i buy the groceries i will be buying only healthy options from now on and if they want something else they can buy it themselves. Hopefully after a while they can see the results and maybe make the change for themselves and lead a healthier life. cheers guys!

ACEgirl1

Can you try packing your own foods and drink and bringing them to family gatherings?? Just say no thanks to food that's offered and walk away if you must. You are in control of yourself! You can do this!!






^^Perfect. Good luck to you. It's your decision, and you are in control of YOU.

ACEgirl1

PS Obviously, I don't know how to use the quote feature.

zeeeb

You just can't care what they do with their lives. You need to make the changes for yourself and screw the rest of them. If they want to die of a heart attack early, that's their choice. You need to rely on you, and just push their bad attitudes and bad habits away. Relying on someone else to do the hard work will never get you there. It's great to have support around if you can get it, but if you don't get it, you have to man up and do the hard yards by yourself.

that is the truth, as harsh as it might sound, but it's all about you. once you stop the excuses and recognise the excuses, it's alot easier. I used to be full of excuses and reasons why I couldn't succeed. Now, I just man up and say, if i eat too much, i won't lose weight, simple. I used to be lazy, i used to be greedy, i used to be a sloth and i used to use all the excuses under the sun. I'm not perfect, but i'm a whole lot better at taking the responsibility for my shape.

It's got nothing to do with how short i am or how i've got dodgy knees, or the fact that my house was full of junk food as a kid. it's just about self control and discipline. Once I stopped blaming everything else and let the blame fall squarely on my own shoulders, it was at least the truth, there was no one else to blame but myself for being a greedy, lazy, fat person. So I was the only one who was going to change it.

Pebble321

It's tough when you have to do it on your own, but unfortunately that's they way the world works.

One of the things that I try to remind myself is that you can't control what other people do or say, but you can control how you respond/react to them.

It doesn't mean its easy, but it does help me to focus my energy where it needs to be - on my and my goals first, not wasting energy on things I can't control.

I think the best idea to is plan ahead what kind of things you want to eat. Take healthy stuff to family occasions but also allow room in your calories for some treats - just think about what they will have to eat and decide if any of it is so yummy that it is worth making space for in your calories for the day. Plan your other meals so they are healthy and fit in some exercise - this way you have a bit of wiggle room for eating less healthy if you are in that situation.

Good luck!