MFP and significant others poll
There have been plenty of polls or "accusations" of Facebook busting up marriages and relationships. Now, I personally feel like the MFP forums and walls, even are a little more open for flirting, etc. My thoughts on that is, we all have a goal, Facebook is for friends and family and here we get each other. We are all working toward something that maybe others just don't get.
So, this is a two-part poll:
Has MFP busted up your marriages/relationships or been the cause of such thing? You could be the one left or the one who left. Why or how?
If not, do you think it has the potentional to break up a marriage or relationship? If so, why or how?
***NO JUDGMENTS HERE, JUST CURIOUS***
So, this is a two-part poll:
Has MFP busted up your marriages/relationships or been the cause of such thing? You could be the one left or the one who left. Why or how?
If not, do you think it has the potentional to break up a marriage or relationship? If so, why or how?
***NO JUDGMENTS HERE, JUST CURIOUS***
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It hasn't and won't break up my relationship with my boyfriend. However, I think if someone is feeling insecure, unhappy and perhaps discouraged about their personal relationship -- it COULD turn into a relationship breaker. I mean.. you can find someone on here who understands you, supports you, etc. If you aren't getting that at home - it COULD happen.
For me, I'm too happy, content and satisfied with my relationship to let anyone (in real life or online) interfere.
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If you have a good, healthy relationship Facebook wouldn't break it up either.
Maybe I'm blind but I sure don't use this site for flirting or picking up men.0 -
It hasn't and won't break up my relationship with my boyfriend. However, I think if someone is feeling insecure, unhappy and perhaps discouraged about their personal relationship -- it COULD turn into a relationship breaker. I mean.. you can find someone on here who understands you, supports you, etc. If you aren't getting that at home - it COULD happen.
For me, I'm too happy, content and satisfied with my relationship to let anyone (in real life or online) interfere.
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Just so I can follow along. This could get interesting.0 -
My husband did accuse me of cheating on him because of being on MFP a lot. We had a lot going on at the time and I flat out told him I would rather talk to people on here than him because they would listen and cared. Guess it was an eye opener to him because he made some changes.
So yes I can see it breaking up a relationship, especially with an easily made jealous partner.0 -
It has the potential to break up a marriage or relationship that is dying on the vine, I believe. A good one, I'm not certain.
I try to be very cautious on here.
Again my theory on relationships is that if the other partner would see something wrong in your actions, you shouldn't be doing it. I try to make sure that I would be comfortable if he was doing the same thing.
I actually "met" my boyfriend a similar way. YEARS ago.
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I got defriended earlier this week on MFP. I never flirted, just said "hey good job" and stuff like that on accomplishments (just like I do for anyone else). She quoted "making her spouse happy" in the apology email.
The lesson? I don't know either...0 -
It's not FB or MFP that break up relationships, it's lack of respect or trust within the relationship that breaks it up. And no, it hasn't messed up my relationship!0
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I've seen married women do things behind husbands backs and been deceptive online and all that.
A guy in another fitness forum I visit was flirting with a girl who was engaged to another guy (actually, SHE initiated the flirting...he posted their convos). Long story short, he filmed it, sent it to the husband, and she didn't get married.
The same guy from above did it to another girl, who was dating a friend of his. Friend said 'i dont think shes faithful, see if she goes beyond flirting' so he flirted back. Long story short, he did, he filmed it...and ya, the girls single and internet famous.
Entertaining.
It happens. More then you'd think. Just doesn't always come to light.
*Edit, don't shoot the messenger here, if thats something you don't wanna hear.0 -
If not, do you think it has the potentional to break up a marriage or relationship? If so, why or how?
***NO JUDGMENTS HERE, JUST CURIOUS***
If a website breaks up your marriage I think it was doomed already the website just speeds up the process. NO website could break up my mariage. WE are extremely close and sooooooooooo different.0 -
I've had a couple incidents that ended in friend blockage, and I do hold some responsibility in that as flirting can be taken to be more by someone else than you may mean.
I'm much more careful and do not worry about MFP, FB, etc in regards to my marriage.
I think any social networking site could create problems in a relationship but frankly I don't believe it's the site and that chances are the relationship already had issues.
And hell, there are enough hurdles in real life....MFP is the least of my worries!0 -
It has not happened to me and I do not see it happening in the future. Though just like with any online site that involves interacting with others I believe it can tear a relationship apart. I've seen it happen on AOL, World of Warcraft, Yahoo, Myspace, Facebook. It happens because they weren't happy in their relationship to begin with. So when they start to get to know people online while their own relationship is on the rocks they end up leaving their spouse to go meet this person that they got to know over the internet. If you have a strong relationship I don't see how this or anything can be a valid reason for breakup.0
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Nope, my boyfriend and I are still together. Although he has complained I spend too much time on the forums.
I don't think anything on the internet can kill a relationship that did not already have damaging cracks already.0 -
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If it's busting up a marriage, the marriage was already broke.0
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HOnestly once my significant other moves here, I'll probably only be here at work.
We met on a forum and we always said that wasn't the type of relationship we wanted.0 -
It doesn't matter what your partner does. If they are going to cheat or leave you, they will find a way and it will happen.. It's not a website or night club that made them cheat or leave you. It was you and your inability to keep them happy. If your partner makes you feel jealous, then maybe they are trying to get your attention. Some people are preditors and nothing will stop them, but most people want to be loved and give love.
Moreover, get your butt up and make your partner happy.0 -
Has not affected my relationship other than my gf being super proud of me for losing weight!
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It's not FB or MFP that break up relationships, it's lack of respect or trust within the relationship that breaks it up. And no, it hasn't messed up my relationship!
^^^THIS. Everytime people would say or articles would be writeen about FB busting up marriages, I thought it was malarky. If its going to happen, its going to happen....
For the record, neither have or ever would mess my marriage up. We can do bad all on our own. I keed, we're good. Just thought I would see what others thought....0 -
Like everyone has said, if it was already in danger, then yes I can see why a forum would cause a breakup.
But for me, in my opinion, I wouldn't take it to that level with someone on any forum-whether this one or Facebook. I have no idea who is on the other side of that screen, what their intentions are, etc. Maybe because of my job or whatnot that makes me paranoid, but still....its words on a screen and a pic that may or may not be real.0 -
It's not FB or MFP that break up relationships, it's lack of respect or trust within the relationship that breaks it up. And no, it hasn't messed up my relationship!
^^^THIS. Everytime people would say or articles would be writeen about FB busting up marriages, I thought it was malarky. If its going to happen, its going to happen....
For the record, neither have or ever would mess my marriage up. We can do bad all on our own. I keed, we're good. Just thought I would see what others thought....
I'm actually quite suprised at how many MFPers feel the same - that it's the relationship that does the breaking. It seems like a lot of times folks do try to blame the 'webz on that shiz.0 -
Hmmm... I am not in a relationship but I do hope for those who are in one bf/gf, engaged, married, I hope that you respect your significant other while one here or any other site.0
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It's not FB or MFP that break up relationships, it's lack of respect or trust within the relationship that breaks it up. And no, it hasn't messed up my relationship!
^^^THIS. Everytime people would say or articles would be writeen about FB busting up marriages, I thought it was malarky. If its going to happen, its going to happen....
For the record, neither have or ever would mess my marriage up. We can do bad all on our own. I keed, we're good. Just thought I would see what others thought....
I'm actually quite suprised at how many MFPers feel the same - that it's the relationship that does the breaking. It seems like a lot of times folks do try to blame the 'webz on that shiz.
Then they're blind and don't want to see the truth. My ex still fails to admit how horribly he treated me. He blames the internet.0 -
NOTE: I did not ask if it did NOT bust up your relationship, but rather if it DID. Nor did I ask for explanations about why it wouldn't. I would like to know if it HAS and if so WHY, or if it is possible WHY. :huh:
Not that I don't appreciate all input and thoughts, but none of that answers my original questions, lol - though I am very HAPPY to see it has not yet affected anyone's relationship. 0 -
it hasnt mine and i believe that if it affects anone's marriage then your marriage wasnt as solid as it should have been and youre just looking for a way out....allthe whorish activities go on because people are as self confidnet in real life...its easy to have some guy/girl on MFP/FB tell you how hot you are when your husband/wife isnt telling you....0
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My husband did accuse me of cheating on him because of being on MFP a lot. We had a lot going on at the time and I flat out told him I would rather talk to people on here than him because they would listen and cared. Guess it was an eye opener to him because he made some changes.
So yes I can see it breaking up a relationship, especially with an easily made jealous partner.
I totally get that. Mine prefers I spend time with him, than "talk" to you all on here, when we are together. Even if it means I just sit and stare at him watching tv, lol.0 -
do you know how many articles I've read where a spouse "blamed" Facebook for ruining their marriage? That is where this question/poll came from. Is no one else curious to see if anyone "blames" MFP for the same?
I'm not saying I agree a website could bust it up, I am just curious....I mean, a lot of us compliment each other and flirt, so how many take it to the next level....0 -
It's not FB or MFP that break up relationships, it's lack of respect or trust within the relationship that breaks it up. And no, it hasn't messed up my relationship!
^^^ This. My hubby knows I'm on here. I've even asked him to join so he can motivate me better, lol. He'll ask me occasionally when I bust out laughin at something funny what it is and I'll tell him to get his own account, lol. Most of the time he's right next to me when I'm on here.0 -
If not, do you think it has the potentional to break up a marriage or relationship? If so, why or how?
***NO JUDGMENTS HERE, JUST CURIOUS***
If a website breaks up your marriage I think it was doomed already the website just speeds up the process. NO website could break up my mariage. WE are extremely close and sooooooooooo different.
This. I would like to say it a little different though. It's not a website that breaks up people. It's PEOPLE that ruin relationships. People (whether the ones in the relationship or ones flirting/going after people in relationships) don't respect the relationship and go looking for something else (in the relationship) or interact inappropriately with some one in a relationship. If you are unhappy in a relationship, put your grown up pants on and GET OUT OF IT then go looking for something else. And don't go messin around with people in relationships, I don't care how bad it is. If someone would sneak around with you while with someone else they would do it to you as well. I just don't get people that don't respect someone's relationship or their own. I personally don't think that people in relationships should have any kind of friendship or relationship with any one else of the opposite sex on a one on one basis. It is a dangerous spot to be in cause it open possibilities. To many people these days. when things get tough, instead of working it out they just start looking else where...it seems like finding people who are truly committed to making a relationship work these days is a tough job. A relationship takes WORK! ok sorry for the soap box!!! LOL ......Just, if one wants someone else, isn't getting what they need in their current spot and needs more then just do you BOTH a favor and end it THEN move on. Maybe you could still be friends at least..0 -
Whoa. Whorish activities? Really? That's quite a bold statement.0
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