need to vent

Amandamccl
Amandamccl Posts: 380
I went from 205 to 198 which I'm super excited because it seems I been in the 200's forever but then my mom I don't know if she's just mad for not losing or what but she said 198 is still close to 200 dont know why your so excited to me you dont even look like you lost any and then my grandma said you still look like 9 months pregnant with twins to me but o was surprised when my dad which I don't really get along to great with and said she looks like she lost weight to me
but I never get support from my family that's why I'm glad I have MFP
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  • auticus
    auticus Posts: 1,051 Member
    Some people are just ****. Sorry to say. And sorry to hear. Keep doing what you are doing.
  • Keep up the good work. You're doing great!
  • keywestsunset
    keywestsunset Posts: 139 Member
    That is something to be super excited about!! Don't let her comment cheapen the progress you have made. A pound is a pound and they add up!! I love MFP too, it keeps me in check more than any person has.
  • soccermom004
    soccermom004 Posts: 444 Member
    They are just jealous and want to bring you down so they don't have to focus on themselves! Keep doing what you're doing! Best of luck! Do this for you and your health!!
  • 2bFitNTrim
    2bFitNTrim Posts: 1,209 Member
    I feel so bad for you! From your Mom & Grandma? :huh: You keep on, you are doing great!
  • Kaimana94
    Kaimana94 Posts: 165 Member
    Get your support here and remember you can pick your friends, but not your family
  • inatay7
    inatay7 Posts: 141
    I'm sorry about your family...... thats so ****ty. Just know that youre doing amazing..... and that is an amazing achievement to me :-)
  • wickedcricket
    wickedcricket Posts: 1,246 Member
    That is pretty horrible. When you get older you will realize someday that abuse is NEVER ok, even if it's from your mom & grandma.

    Perhaps just stop sharing numbers (until it's WAY below 200) and just show off clothes and challenge them to push up contests - stuff like that
    for Christmas, I'd get them Etiquette classes - but that's just me, and why I am WICKED cricket

    GOOD JOB - YOU are a winner - never forget that
  • angelew
    angelew Posts: 133 Member
    Don't listen to that ugly talk! You are doing just great!
  • ejohndrow
    ejohndrow Posts: 1,399 Member
    That's a terrible thing for a family member-especially a mother to say. That's a major breakthrough you had, sometimes when people see someone take charge of their lives they get a little upset and take it out on them, just keep it up and show her. You have positive people on here to encourage you. Hopefully their attitudes change soon.
  • ashlenz
    ashlenz Posts: 20 Member
    Im sorry to hear you don't have the greatest support system at home but just know that what you are doing is to better yourself. Just think about how great it will feel when you get to your goal weight and you can show them just how hard you worked. MFP is what keeps me on track and I'm SO thankful for that!
    Keep up the good work! you'll get to that goal eventually :D
  • GrandmaJody
    GrandmaJody Posts: 140 Member
    I am so sorry that those things were said to you, by family no less...it's hard to understand why our loved ones are not more supportive at times. But, for your sake, keep doing what are doing because you are doing great! Keep your eyes on the target, and forge ahead with support from MFP and you will reach your goals...You are awesome! <3
  • That can be so hard on you mentally and emotionally. You should really feel proud of your accomplishments. It doesn't matter if 198 is close to 200, you are STILL UNDER the 200 pds. Keep your chin up and don't worry about what anyone else says. You are doing so well.
  • Chastityx
    Chastityx Posts: 192 Member
    It seems family is so supportive, then can cut you down with one statement. I have been waiting for my mom to say something bad for weeks and she finally played her part yesterday( and she is dieting with me!) Sometimes family is scared that when you lose the weight that you won't need them anymore, including mothers that want you to live with them or boyfriends that are just scared of you trading up. Just don't let them sabotage you, good luck and we are always here for you. Welcome to ONEderland and enjoy your success. Do the happy dance!!!!
  • Kim1118
    Kim1118 Posts: 57 Member
    Every pound counts, so don't let them bring you down! I'm celebrating with you! Keep up the good work!
  • mandasimba
    mandasimba Posts: 782 Member
    That is awful you had to hear that. 7lbs is great and you should be proud of that! Just think, you've pretty much lost the equilivent of a gallon of milk!
  • smashleymcgee
    smashleymcgee Posts: 135 Member
    Just keep at it...MFPers think you are doing great. Also, use this as motivation to prove them wrong :).
  • kirsty0911
    kirsty0911 Posts: 54 Member
    Don't let them get you down. What you have done is fantastic, don't let anyone tell you any different!
    Sometimes people say things to us that really, they don't mean. In all honesty I think it boils down to jealousy. Some people don't like other people to do so well and to make you think that too then makes them feel better.

    We're proud of you, you are under 200! That is a huge accomplishment! I hope YOU are proud of YOU too!
  • SallieBeige
    SallieBeige Posts: 341 Member
    It sounds to me like they are envious.

    I don't think its because they deliberately want to hurt you (although I am sure they did), I think its more like if they deny your weight loss then they don't have to face their own issues that they are not achieving (whether that is also weight loss or something else).

    Maybe try to be sad for them for their own inner battles .... and delighted with yourself!!! You have done a great job!!!

    WELL DONE :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • Scarlettdawn764
    Scarlettdawn764 Posts: 856 Member
    You just keep at it! You're doing the right thing, and nothing jealous people (even jealous relatives) say should take you off your course. Besides, you can ALWAYS come here for support! I read in one of my fitness magazines that getting support from sites like this online can be even more effective in keeping you on track then the people around you. Stay strong!
  • 2Bgoddess
    2Bgoddess Posts: 1,096 Member
    I am so sorry you are got getting the support you deserve from family. I say shame on them. but wait until you have lost more, and their eyes pop out of their head when they realize that you are so strong and so motivated and so smart to be able to do it in spite of their pessimism. glad you are finding support here! I can hardly WAIT until I drop below 200. and it IS A BIG DEAL! WOOT WOOT for you!!!!
  • MIMITIME
    MIMITIME Posts: 405 Member
    I agree with the poster that said you can choose your friends but not your family. You can also choose not to share things with your family or simply not be around them any more than you have to. Those were horrible things for your mother and grandmother to say and I am sure it hurt you very much. Try to put it out of your mind. Don't let them win. Follow the advice of your own quote about never quitting. Good Luck!
  • mrivera713
    mrivera713 Posts: 232 Member
    Stay Strong... You got us!
  • keep ur head up you are doin great.
  • wolf23
    wolf23 Posts: 4,278 Member
    Stay focused...you are doing awesome!
  • DizzieLittleLifter
    DizzieLittleLifter Posts: 1,020 Member
    WTF! :( I'm so sorry. Every time I hear about your unsupportive family it angers me. You should NOT be treated that way. You are a very smart and beautiful young lady, you are doing a FANTASTIC job getting fit and making healthy choices. When they put you down you keep these positive words in your head! :heart:
  • garlic7girl
    garlic7girl Posts: 2,236 Member
    YOu are doing great and keep focused. Some folks even family can be negative and/or jealous and breed discontent. Keep saying "I am doing this for my health and future and I WILL HAVE VICTORY no matter what!" Hard but it can be done.
  • Sorry to hear it, I know it hurts. Be proud of yourself for yourself. Don't share your progress in numbers with them anymore. Let the people here on MFP be your support, and don't ever give up, especially not because of people who make you feel bad.
  • shawnscott5
    shawnscott5 Posts: 295 Member
    It's not like we can drop 50 lbs all at once, or we would all be doing that. Chin up buttercup, you have a new family here. Every little bit helps and it will add up in the end!
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    You can do this by yourself. I did. It's all up to you anyway. Good luck. :flowerforyou:
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