Guys vs Girls opinions on weight... shocking

k7n2w3

I've recently met my goal but had surgery so went from my goal of 115 to 111 while recovering. My boyfriend thinks I look like a skeleton and in pictures of me skinny in high school said I looked too thin. My reason for my post is that sometimes us gals think we should be skinnier and that's where guys "want us" but i'm finding that my bf and my guy friends at work disagree with my number. Guys actually tend to agree about 5-10 pounds heavier than a girl would think they would like us (per tons of research of goal weights). I say that so us girls don't lose too much and look too skinny. On recovery time my bf was feeding me ice cream and grilled cheeses at 2 am cuz said i looked skeletony lol girls please research where you are healthy not where in your mind you think guys would like you. I hadn't tried to lose 4 pounds it happened because I was recovering and not hungry now i'm gaining my 4 pounds back but years ago I would have went to my normal 105 at 5 foot that's "normal" but 115 is where I look healthiest, try for a healthy look not skinny minnie sickly :--)
sw 155.1
gw 115
started jan 6 ended sept 7

arhzon

I agree. I like girls pretty slim, but if you're going to be skinny, you have to have some lean muscle to give you a little shape. Plus, if you have too low of a body fat percentage, you're not going to have any boobies. And come on, what guy doesn't like boobies?

Deckershann

My husband's pretty lean...and I'm kinda little-ish. He would never tell me to diet or lose weight...but he does encourage exercise.

P.S. Your puppies are super cute XD

Deathwithab

its true guys like girls to be healthy and fit but not skinny and bones juttin out all over the place lol

my goal is 130 becuase i know for me thats a good place , i will still have my curves that my bf loves and i will be in the healthy range

k7n2w3

haha at this point that's all i got left so when guy friends at work give me "the speech" I'm like look all I got left to lose are boobs and I'm not looking to lose them so relax I'm not losing more hahaha I hope I didnt lose them in my 4 pound loss! Girls need to realize that though cuz the old me would have been 105 as a pride sorta thing w numbers
I recently asked my bf if he thought i was ever overweight and he smiled and said no.. i was OBESE at 155.1 and 5 foot, i kinda wish he would have told me before I got to that point lol he has never voiced an opinion until he thought i was getting too thin and i appreciate that so much because I would prob kept going to 105 as that was always my number and was all I knew most of my life but 115 is where I belong and didnt know that til everyone else told me I looked the best. We just see ourselves differently than others and really a healthy person is more important than a number (and feeling good)

arhzon

Yeah, my sister-in-law took a trip to Greece starting at 100 pounds, thinking she still needed to lose weight. She decided to become a vegetarian while she was there (as it is, she only took in maybe 800 calories on a good day). She came back 89 pounds and so malnourished that her skin was literally gray! Of course, she was very proud of her weight loss. After all, the most attractive thing about a woman is being freakishly skinny and barely able to lift their own weight to walk...

garlic7girl

Funny, I had a dude tell me I was to thin and muscular and would never get a guy. Then I gained 12 lbs which I am not happy about but the dudes all the sudden started squawking at me now! Go figure?! I still need to lose what I gained for health reasons but it is confusing...wt for self...wt for health and wt for looking good! UGH!!!!!!!!!

k7n2w3

lol I know I shouldn't lol but it's so typical of us gals! i had 4 dog toys and had a tap at my leg during day 3 of recovery because my bf wanted to see if that would take me out cuz I looked so sickly which was from my overnight loss lol (that's humorous not mean to me). The last squeaker almost got me lol but the ice cream I got to eat after was worth it lol

honu18

yeah. I want to lose more but my boyfriend thinks I look absolutely great. I've got a bit of toning to do but he told me I didn't have to lose another pound and doesn't like when girls are too skinny. I look at me and see fat, but he doesn't seem to think so.

Pebble321

Honestly while I agree that people have different views on the "right" weight, and i'm glad to hear that you are not aiming for "skinny" - I don't think you should be losing or gaining weight for someone else.
Do it because you have decided for yourself what is right for you, not for the sake of your boyfriend or any other man (or woman).

PS. Congrats on reaching your goal!

k7n2w3

Thanks :-) I'm glad my friends told me when I looked the best though cuz the goal that I was probably going for was not going to be maintainable and I'd like to make sure that I look healthy and what my goal was probably too thin for me but it took a lot to realize that like the concerned speeches from friends at work and my boyfriend who I have been dating since then. I like being a size 2-4, for me with a medium built and size c boobs shouldnt be a skeleton. In high school I just was that cuz of sports 3-4 hours a day not by trying :-)

glitterpiss

I would personally feel pathetic if I modified my body for another person, based on how they think I would look best. Its the ultimate act of subservience.

k7n2w3

then maybe i should look unhealthy and like a skeleton.. when you start a weight loss journey you have to do a lot of research on where to stop and it A LOT of research. And when you are almost 30 years old and your body has changed a lot since you gained the weight you dont know the ending point. I have to say when people ALL start saying you look great then you should probably stop. I am not sure where the other 10 pounds was going to come from honestly because I have no fat on my body except boobs. When friends who truly care about you tell you that you have achieved perfection and you truly value their opinion and know they are looking after your health it is appreciated. if i were to lose any more i'd be eating 1200 calories a day for the rest of my life and that's not maintainable. thanks but I care about my friends and family opinions because they care about me.

k7n2w3

and you are pathetic for putting someone down on a motivational site.

clarech82

My other half said I looked good at 205lb and that I didn't need to lose I didn't listen to him and now I'm 145lb he still thinks I look good so I'm glad I didn't stay at 205 for him my goal is to get to 125lb so will see what I look like then but there's no way he's telling me what size to be

glitterpiss

It wasn't meant to be a put down. I was stating how I personally felt about it, talking about my own body. Wasn't that what you were asking for?

k7n2w3

I'm sorry I thought you were putting me down. I have seen myself after surgery losing and being 111 and i really look horrible but I might have thought that was "sexy" but i def had a bad perception without my friends opionions because i think if i lost more the boobs would go and organs would pop out. in high school that would have been ok because my body was different and it's hard to realize and judge what to be when you are older.

Bluestar083

None of the guys I've dated wanted me bigger. I suppose as I'm skinny I attract guys who like skinny girls
I still have curves-small waist, generous C cup boobs and hips. But yup my last 3 bfs all think I look better at 52/53kg than 56/57kg. And I'm 5'9.5'' tall
My gfs think I look great at 57kg but the men I date do not.