I'm fed up with everything today :(

Jackie_W

Sorry, this is going to be long :blushing:

Started off, when I realised my 11 year old has a problem - with sugar of all things. He's been eating my dark chocolate which I keep in just in case my sugar dips (being diabetic). He prefers to eat anything sugary, plays with healthy foods. This is not the first time it's happened, I've noticed a few times that my chocolate or candy I've bought for the family has gone down very quickly. I spoke to the family doctor this morning, he thinks my son has bulemia thinks it's possibly come about through the stress of our eldest son's mental health issues

I went into work, and told them about it - I've been 100% honest right down the line. They have tried to say that as I have yet another child with problems I am now unreliable! I've been put on a 3 month probation period and reduced to 20 hours per week! I used to work 45 hours a week!
This whole work situation came about after I foolishly agreed to helping them for 10 weeks leading up to xmas, I needed fridays off to see my diatician for 8 weeks, and they needed carers to work sundays, so I agreed to swap my day off - on the understanding it would only be until xmas. since xmas, they have tried to give me work for 7 days a week, working 12 hours a day, I said no, I need time with my family - now more than ever, so they finally agreed to give me sundays and saturdays after 2pm off. Then this morning tried to tell me I let them down by not doing calls up to 8pm on saturday night!

I really don't know what to do for the best right now, my youngest son needs me, my eldest son needs me, my hubby's work is very flaky at the moment, my hours are drastically reduced, and we have a huge mortgage. My supervisors refuse to listen, then try to frame me.

One thing I did do, was to phone head office and complain, I told them this is discrimination, and I can also have them done for constructive dismisal, been told nto to worry, they will get it sorted, my I am worried. Worst thing is, another carer was reported for going to a client out of hours, blind drunk, and there were 2 witnesses, she has been allowed to carry on working with these vulnerable elderly people, and not even been put on probation - where's the sense in that???

Head office are going to look into the whole thing, btu now I'm worried that my supervbisors will now take it out on me again because I reported them - they don't take kindly to whistleblowing

I blame myself for both my children not being well, if I didn't do as many hours in the first place, they wouldn't be suffering now I think it might even be time for me to change jobs, not sure I can work with this kind of pressure any more. I really don't want my depression to come back.
Can't help but think if I hadn't done so many hours they could have spoken to me sooner, before things got out of hand. Ah well at least I will be here for them more now.

Thanks for reading this far :flowerforyou:

Jackie_W

Sorry, this is going to be long :blushing:

Started off, when I realised my 11 year old has a problem - with sugar of all things. He's been eating my dark chocolate which I keep in just in case my sugar dips (being diabetic). He prefers to eat anything sugary, plays with healthy foods. This is not the first time it's happened, I've noticed a few times that my chocolate or candy I've bought for the family has gone down very quickly. I spoke to the family doctor this morning, he thinks my son has bulemia thinks it's possibly come about through the stress of our eldest son's mental health issues

I went into work, and told them about it - I've been 100% honest right down the line. They have tried to say that as I have yet another child with problems I am now unreliable! I've been put on a 3 month probation period and reduced to 20 hours per week! I used to work 45 hours a week!
This whole work situation came about after I foolishly agreed to helping them for 10 weeks leading up to xmas, I needed fridays off to see my diatician for 8 weeks, and they needed carers to work sundays, so I agreed to swap my day off - on the understanding it would only be until xmas. since xmas, they have tried to give me work for 7 days a week, working 12 hours a day, I said no, I need time with my family - now more than ever, so they finally agreed to give me sundays and saturdays after 2pm off. Then this morning tried to tell me I let them down by not doing calls up to 8pm on saturday night!

I really don't know what to do for the best right now, my youngest son needs me, my eldest son needs me, my hubby's work is very flaky at the moment, my hours are drastically reduced, and we have a huge mortgage. My supervisors refuse to listen, then try to frame me.

One thing I did do, was to phone head office and complain, I told them this is discrimination, and I can also have them done for constructive dismisal, been told nto to worry, they will get it sorted, my I am worried. Worst thing is, another carer was reported for going to a client out of hours, blind drunk, and there were 2 witnesses, she has been allowed to carry on working with these vulnerable elderly people, and not even been put on probation - where's the sense in that???

Head office are going to look into the whole thing, btu now I'm worried that my supervbisors will now take it out on me again because I reported them - they don't take kindly to whistleblowing

I blame myself for both my children not being well, if I didn't do as many hours in the first place, they wouldn't be suffering now I think it might even be time for me to change jobs, not sure I can work with this kind of pressure any more. I really don't want my depression to come back.
Can't help but think if I hadn't done so many hours they could have spoken to me sooner, before things got out of hand. Ah well at least I will be here for them more now.

Thanks for reading this far :flowerforyou:

metco89

i don't know about where you live but here there is no lack of work for ppl willing to take care of the elderly. I would probably start looking into other employment. They don't sound like a very good group of ppl. Hang in there. Take care of your family and yourself first . keeping you in my prayers

age1389

I agree this might be a blessing in disguise. They haven't been treating you right for a while now.
Keep your head up and strong:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:



-Adrienne

AngelaBeaulieu

OMG, thats terrible. My heart goes out to you and your family at this trying time. Are you part of a union?? That's just too bad for your supervisor. I think you have enough to deal with at home, you don't need more at work. If your supervisor has a problem with your so called "whistleblowing" she shouldn't of been such a *****! Things will get better, they always do!! Just keep repeating that!

Hope the rest of your day goes by smoothly

renae77

Hey Jackie!
I understand you need a job but I also know family needs to come first. You got to take care of your own and it will all end up working out for you. You may need to look for a job where family does matter more to people you work for and with. Sometimes there are things you can't control that happen to your family so take care hun and I hope you get everything sorted out. Good luck! I'm praying for you!

Nonibug

I just wanted to say that I hope it all comes out well for you, I will be keeping you in my thoughts:flowerforyou: Please keep us up to date on how things turn out
~Roni

Jackie_W

Thanks guys, I'm looking into alternative work, there are plenty of places here that are looking for carers - seems a dying trade these days. I will really miss my lovely ladies, but they all say I would be more than welcome to visit them :flowerforyou: They even said they would be very offended if I didn't visit :blushing:

I really can't see me lasting in this job much longer, I'm not prepared to put my boys on the sideline a moment longer, they need me now not in a few weeks time.

I've had a LOT to contend with already this year, and will not let it get to me, I'm gonna change things up, so that my family will benefit.

Thanks for your posts :flowerforyou: I know I'm not alone, but sometimes I feel as though I am - before I come on here anyway :flowerforyou:

Jackie_W

My works have no union - more's the pity, unions died out over here years ago - sadly :grumble:

On the bright side, at the moment, I'm finished work at 4pm
If my works do keep me to 20 hours a week, well, money aint everything, just have to buy cheaper groceries won't I :happy: I already cook from scratchas it is - I prefer that to processed meals :bigsmile:

My youngest son is at after school club this afternoon, and then at his friend's house until 7pm, got to tell him I'm taking him to the doctor on Friday - I'll broach the subject very carefully, and I'm currently getting rid of all the candy etc in the house - poor mite has put on a stone in just over 3 weeks :noway:

Jackie_W

Something else my works said, that I forgot to mention earlier:
They accused me of overdosing someone on their medication!
I am supposed to have gone into this client before someone else and given her another set of morning meds!!!
I said, oh, so I go in first, you double book the call, and the other carer doesn't follow company policy and check the meds blister pack first, but instead thinks, oh she has no tablets in here for today, i'll give her tomorrow's - where is that MY fault??? I said that blame was obviously in the other carer's hands as she even wrote in the book that she didn't check first, but jsut handed the client her medication from the next day, just in case it was a chemist error!

shoppie

aw hon you sound like you need a giant hug :flowerforyou:

I am British, but work in HR and no way would they be able to get away with treating you that way here, its discrimination cos you have kids! No offence, but sometimes the US just makes me :noway: at hwat employers can get away with.

I would defo look for something else and put your kids first - I've made the mistake of putting work before kids before and you always end up regretting it - big hug xx

Jackie_W

aw hon you sound like you need a giant hug :flowerforyou:

I am British, but work in HR and no way would they be able to get away with treating you that way here, its discrimination cos you have kids! No offence, but sometimes the US just makes me :noway: at hwat employers can get away with.

I would defo look for something else and put your kids first - I've made the mistake of putting work before kids before and you always end up regretting it - big hug xx

thank you :flowerforyou:
I did the only thing i thought was right, I've reported this carer to social services, under the vulnerable adult team, I really didn't like doing it, but the thought of other elderly people beign put at risk by this carer just scares me to death :noway: Bad enoguh when this carer went to a client's home blind drunk after work and swore at her, the client was very shaken up, and it took me a few days to convince her to report it, but the office did nothing, I just couldn't let it go again, it's getting serious.

AmyNVegas

<<BIGHUGS>> I am so sorry you have to go through this you will be in my thoughts and prayers. My older sister was bulemic in HS and mom had to follow her a round for a while after meals to make sure she didn't throw up when she found out. She followed her to the bathroom for at least an hour after each meal. Good luck with the job hunt!
Amy


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Jackie_W

<<BIGHUGS>> I am so sorry you have to go through this you will be in my thoughts and prayers. My older sister was bulemic in HS and mom had to follow her a round for a while after meals to make sure she didn't throw up when she found out. She followed her to the bathroom for at least an hour after each meal. Good luck with the job hunt!
Amy

My eldest son had anorexia when he was younger, so we know the signs, just seems harsh that we're going through almost the same thing again. Oh well, soldier on and get on with it I guess.