A Question For Single Women Only

Iamfit4life

I kind of count, I am in a relationship.. But it's long distance and I don't know many where I live.


I have NO problem eating by myself, going to a movie, or even going out and having a few drinks. I actually quite like it.
It's peaceful and serene and I feel very independent.


Oh, and I'm 32.

Shanna_Inc86

25

I have no issues goin out alone & usually I do bc I either don't think about calling someone or I find myself w/o my daughter unexpectedly...
I wouldn't go to a concert alone only bc its more fun with someone else. And I don't go to bars alone...one I'm not a big drinker & two it makes me nervous.
Shopping I prefer to do alone in general...just easier and eating alone is something I've come to enjoy.

MissB0949

I'm 24 and I actually prefer to go to the movies by myself. I have eaten by myself a couple times. I almost always shop alone. Not interested in taking in a concert or hitting the bar solo but I think it would be interesting to take a vacation that way. Impressed by all of these independent ladies!

sunkisses

Just curious - why do you ask?

I was thinking about this time that I was doing happy hour by myself, and these 3 old geezers came and asked me how old I was. They actually guessed correctly. I told them "you should really try to guess younger every time, fellas." And they laughed and said they guessed that I was that old based on my confidence about going out and drinking alone. They claimed that girls in their younger years tend to travel in packs. And then I saw one of my friends mention that "girls travel in packs" and I thought - "wait... I don't." And then I wondered if other women were like me or if these guys were right.

porcelain_doll

I'm enjoying reading this thread. It's very encouraging. I'm 31 and am almost the only single girl left out of all my friends. I like the attitudes that most of you take to the subject. Very different from the one I've had about it!

infamousmk

Oh! Concerts! I prefer those alone. When I go to a show I like to hear the band and see them perform and people watch the crowd. When you go with someone else, inevitably they want to talk about stuff or go get drinks or maybe not stay through the whole set... I'm too much of a music fanatic to make concerts a social thing.

Crap, what are those called? Zenofiles? Xenofiles? I forget, it's late.

Jade_Butterfly

Well I am a single mom of 1 and I don't go out. . not really avidly looking though. . so I guess that counts me out in this. . I figure if the Lord has someone for me. . it will happen~

asyouseefit

Not single anymore but used to be so... I was 26 at the time:

Movies, gym, shopping, city trip to London (although I was meeting someone there), all done by myself.

Bars, concerts, dinner: nope. I think I'd get bored pretty fast.

Longer vacation: Didn't do it but why not? As long it's one of those backpacking trips where you meet tons of other backpackers.

I'm going back to London in a few weeks with a friend. I'm a huge Doctor Who fan and she's not so I'm thinking of going to Doctor Who experience by myself.

scarletleavy

I'm 24, single and because I travel a lot for work, I'm also alone a lot. I actually prefer to fly and travel alone. I've been traveling my whole life so I have a whole system about it and for me it's much easier alone.

I don't ever see movies in the theaters, so that's a non-issue for me. I do most of my shopping alone, I actually prefer it, unless I really need someone's opinion on something, but in general I'd rather so alone, much more efficient.

In theory I wouldn't mind going to restaurants or bars or coffee shops alone, but in practice it's a real problem for me in certain cities. I really get hit on/harassed a lot and in some circumstances it makes me very nervous and uncomfortable. I particularly try to avoid any sort of public transportation alone late at night, I had a terrifying experience one night on the train with a truly creepy man.

ItsCasey

I'm 29. I do stuff alone all the time because I'm in that weird stage of life where I'm single but most of my friends are either getting married or are already married and are starting to have kids, so their social interests aren't really what they used to be. I've gone to dinner alone many times, but, as someone else said, not at typical "date" spots. I go for coffee by myself a lot. I've never gone to the movies alone. I'm not opposed to it at all ... I actually think it makes a lot of sense because it's not like you're interacting with a friend when you're sitting in the dark for 2 hours anyway. I prefer to go shopping alone unless I'm looking for something in particular that I want to get an objective opinion on. I've never been on vacation alone, but I am planning to within the next year or two (whenever I can get more than a few days at a time off work). I've always wanted to do that.

I would not go to a bar alone. Did it once while I was on a business trip in Chicago, and it apparently sent the message that I'm desperate and easy because about 10 different guys tried to pick me up during the half hour or so that I was there.

I wouldn't go to concerts alone because I just can't imagine that being much fun (assuming we're talking about big, arena-type concerts and not like a blues or jazz club concert).

spicy618

so i'm going to jump in on this. No i'm not single, but I am geographically single. So that just means I'm not looking for someone, but I dont have my partner to go out with me.

So do you ever feel that others judge you when you go out alone? thats what keeps me from going places by myself. all my friends are married (since you know married couples gravitate to other married folks) or are single males and that just brings on a whole other set of feeling like i'm being judged.

If anyone ever judged me for going out alone, that's their problem, not mine. I couldn't care less what anyone thought. If I want to see a movie none of my friends or family wants to see, I am not going to let what some stranger thinks of me being alone, stop me from going to see it.

^^^This exactly^^^


43
I'll go out alone to do the things I enjoy doing. Can't depend on anyone for my happiness. :flowerforyou: Rollerblading, walking, gym, shopping, movies (if I really, really want to see it). I've always been that way. I went to see Grease by myself when I was 11... I watched it about 5-6 times that day. : John Travolta :laugh:

alesashamel

Most of the time I do go alone (mainly shopping). But I have never gone to the movies or to dinner alone. Maybe I should try it

Crystalchaos72

39

I have always gone out alone, whether it be to a bar or while visiting or living in a new city. I love the freedom of doing what I want when I want. I go to movies alone, dinner alone,camping you name it. I have gone out with groups before, and that is ok, but I just like to do my own thing, and not have to wonder/worry if the people I am with are having a good time. I have been this way since I left my childhood home as an "adult"......18

rml_16

I'm not single (live with someone), but we work opposite schedules, so I'm on my own a lot. And, yes, I do go out alone.

I'll go to movies, shopping, work out, the park, wherever. I don't tend to eat out alone (I'll get takeout instead) because I feel weird, but I usually go to restaurants with friends, not the SO, anyway.

I'm 34.

I'm not much of a bar person, even with other people, but I may start going to watch football on Sundays, since my team doesn't get shown here on regular TV.

chauncyrenayCHANGED

28. Yep!
Movies, bars, shopping, coffee. I've even gone out dancing once. It's not a problem.

hanna1210

25 and single

I go to movies, shop, work out and travel alone (meet with friends at the end destination, though). Working on eating out alone - it's just not something I've had to do a lot. But all that changes when I move next week where I will know very few people, especially my age, about half-way across the country.

ilookthetype

My favorite alone-time thing is to smuggle snacks and a flask into the theater and watch a chick-flick drunk. It's the only way these films go down easily.

Best idea ever! I love it, must try!

I'm 23 and I go out alone.

Not to dinner though, mostly that is because of food allergies...

I've been to shows alone, I've gone to bars alone (but I won't hang around too long), I live near DC and I'll go to museums by myself all the time. Honestly, most things I'd rather not have other people's schedule to work around.

maria1113

Do you go out by yourself? (dinner, movies, bars, shopping, coffee, concerts, etc.)
Are there some places you're willing to go alone to but not others?
If you're ok with sharing your age or age range, go for it.

..............sorry, that was really 2 questions.

I go alone to all of those places except bars. I rarely go out to bars and when I do, it's always with a friend I don't see point of going there alone, since to me it's more like having fun with my friend than hooking up with anyone.
I'm 27

ETA: Oh yeah, it's so much more easier to travel alone, seriously. Love it!

Avalonis

I like to go out and pretend I am on a date. I'll buy 2 coffees, 2 dinners, 2 desserts. Then I'll take bites gradually from each of them.

Of course, the conversation has to be good. So I'll talk and pretend I am replying.

If "she" is funny, I may take her home, and I may get lucky!

sunkisses

My favorite alone-time thing is to smuggle snacks and a flask into the theater and watch a chick-flick drunk. It's the only way these films go down easily.

Best idea ever! I love it, must try!

Yeah, sometimes you've just gotta cut loose. Sometimes I'll wander into another film afterward...if I need to sober up. LOL

chocolateandvodka

23

i do this... especially when i want to see a live band. when music is involved i like to be uninterrupted or go with someone who is likeminded. which is rare, and often boring. so alone it is!

actually now that i think of it, there are many times i'd rather go alone than with others?

morganhccstudent724

27

Movies: No...or at least I never have been
Dinner: Yes
Shopping: Yes
Museums: Yes

I'm open to anything...so if I really want to do it then yes...I will do it alone.

fakeplastictree

I'm not single but my husband works 7 days a week and if i were to wait for him to do anything i'd be miserable. I love going to the movies alone, bar not so much. I don't mind waiting for awhile at a bar alone. shopping i love doing alone. Dinner i don't mind doing alone although i usually am not alone becuase I'm on all of my "social networks" while eating by myself. Love you guys!

AnnaPixie

Yeps, I've done most things alone. Spent 2 months in the Caribbean on my own. Went to beaches, restauarant's, disco's and bars alone. Mostly you find people to talk to if you want company. Or sometimes its just nice to sit and reflect

At home in London, I prefer shopping alone. I would go to a cafe on my own, for lunch or a coffee, but not a restaurant in the evening as that is more of a social thing for me. And I wouldnt go drinking alone, as I enjoy the social aspect of pubs and would feel kinda sad on a friday night if I had to drink alone. But I have a lovely circle of friends, so there's always someone around to drink with. And most of them are married/coupled which has never been an issue.

I think if you want to do something, then do it. Life is too short to hold back on :bigsmile:

atsteele

I'm not single but my husband works 7 days a week and if i were to wait for him to do anything i'd be miserable. I love going to the movies alone, bar not so much. I don't mind waiting for awhile at a bar alone. shopping i love doing alone. Dinner i don't mind doing alone although i usually am not alone becuase I'm on all of my "social networks" while eating by myself. Love you guys!

I know, I know. It's for singles only. But for as much as I see my husband, I might as well be single. Im 44yo and when Im not with the kids, Im out and on my own. I love to shop by myself. I love driving anywhere by myself. I love running and working out by myself. I dont go to the movies or a restaurant by myself because I'd rather make dinner and watch a movie on the boob tube... not as expensive either. Usually it's a matter of having someone watch the kids as opposed to me not wanting to do something by myself. With 5 kids, being alone is a luxury.

BEERRUNNER

Sometimes I like hitting the bar SOLO! Its fun! and you dont have toworry about your friends etc ...............its all about you!

BEERRUNNER

Yes I know its for women only....BUT I like the questions! Hell yeah I go out to bars SOLO every now and then! You can really relax and be yourself with no worries. I have found that youre more approachable that way. People arent intimidated because youre with this huge group of friends etc.....

This one time....................

sunkisses

Yeah, I was mostly being exclusive to the single guys. It's socially implied that you don't mind going out alone. In other words, it would be more surprising if men said they *didn't* go out alone.

I trusted the women to now they could respond with past experiences or current but applicable ones. They did not fail.