Is 5 foot, 170 ok?

maura5880

I'm 5 feet tall, medium frame and 170 would be huge for me. My heighest weight was 165 which was also way too big. I'm 155 now and still definitely overweight! I mean everyone has a different frame, but unless she has a really large frame, she's definitely going to look big.

However, if she's happy then more power to her. For the last year, I was totally ok with being heavy, I ate whenever/whatever I wanted. I was finishing up law school/studying for the bar exam and I just did not want to deal with weight loss at the time. I never complained about my weight, and all of my blood work was normal. So, if she's ok with her size then good for her for not caring about what size her pants are. One of the happiest people I know is obese--I was at her wedding last April. She has a great life, and doesn't seem to care about her size whatsoever. Happiness can come in all sizes.

Brandicaloriecountess

I don't think your friends weight is really your concern. If she is happy and comfortable with herself then good for her.
There are a lot of harsh people on this thread. Especially when it unsolicited advice.

StrengthIsBeautiful

Well, Considering the height and weight, I would think that she may be over weight. I am 5'5" and I knew that I needed to lose weight at 160. I am by in no means an expert but I read about visible and not visible fats. I think it is called visceral fat. That the fat that you cannot see. Your body stores this fat around very important organs. Everyone has it but an excess of it can be very significant to your health. The best way to tell if she is healthy and get the right facts about dieting would be to visit a doctor. I hope this helps.

I'm 5'4" and weigh 159 right now. I need to lose 29 more pounds. I can tell on my body exactly where that 29 pounds needs to come from. I started out at over 225 lbs. Friends and family look at me now and tell me I look great, I've lost enough weight, blah blah. Well, that is just not true. I really had to drive home the part about visceral fat and the health aspect of it all to finally get them to understand. Now is where my important work really begins. I'm finally at the point where I will be attacking that visceral fat and doing great things for my body and health. I think they get it now. It's not all about how it looks.

kapeluza

Yes, she is overweight (OBESE is the correct word). I am 5'0 and 166lbs and I feel F-A-T.

Tell her to lose it now while it's still easy than later when it's harder!

megz4987

Denial

this.

she is fat.
you know it and deep down inside somewhere, she knows it too.
She's just not "ready".

Yep.

Unfortunately, as much as you may worry about her health... she doesn't seem to. Because she doesn't want to believe BMI, maybe you could speak with her (depending how close the two of you are) about getting your body fat% tested together and maybe then she'll see...

megz4987

It's not really your concern, and it's certainly not ours. She's an adult, and you're only friends; let her take care of herself.

That's a little harsh. Would you care if your friend had a heart attack? I would hope you would so being concerned for someones health (even if they're NOT a friend) is a nice gesture and absolutely nothing to look down on someone for.

Fit4Life59

Yes, she is over-weight for a height of 5 feet. she should be weighing approximately, 110 lbs. Nevertheless, she still young at heart, 21 yrs old age and she has plenty of time to lose weight. Just needs to watch out when she reaches her 30's and/or early 40's and her metabolism begins to slow down(she would need to monitor her food and exercise regularly, 4-5 days per week to maintain her weight). Good luck to your friend....peace

rydanip

To be completely honest, I really don't think its your place to tell she needs to lose weight. I don't even think its an issue of her not being ready. If she feels fine and likes what she sees in the mirror, God Bless her because most people, be them overweight or otherwise are not happy with they way they look, especially women. If she actually asks your opinion, then and only then should you say something.

rydanip

It's not really your concern, and it's certainly not ours. She's an adult, and you're only friends; let her take care of herself.

That's a little harsh. Would you care if your friend had a heart attack? I would hope you would so being concerned for someones health (even if they're NOT a friend) is a nice gesture and absolutely nothing to look down on someone for.

I hope people are this concerned about their friends who smoke and drink because at 5'1 170 yeah she's heavy but she certainly isn't in danger of death just yet. I think its how she looks people are concerned about

TheBraveryLover

It's not really your concern, and it's certainly not ours. She's an adult, and you're only friends; let her take care of herself.

That's a little harsh. Would you care if your friend had a heart attack? I would hope you would so being concerned for someones health (even if they're NOT a friend) is a nice gesture and absolutely nothing to look down on someone for.

I hope people are this concerned about their friends who smoke and drink because at 5'1 170 yeah she's heavy but she certainly isn't in danger of death just yet. I think its how she looks people are concerned about

You're absolutely correct. And lets be honest here; lots of people in this thread who are ragging on the OP's friend and telling her to lose for "health" are full of it. A lot of them are here because of aesthetic reasons. I am too, but lets call a spade a spade and not hide behind the word "health".

adventuring

It's not really your concern, and it's certainly not ours. She's an adult, and you're only friends; let her take care of herself.

That's a little harsh. Would you care if your friend had a heart attack? I would hope you would so being concerned for someones health (even if they're NOT a friend) is a nice gesture and absolutely nothing to look down on someone for.

At that weight, she's not even morbidly obese yet, so probably not a heart attack risk. At 5'2 and 170 pounds, I was only 7 pounds into the obese category, let alone morbidly anything. I certainly didn't feel like I was about to fall over and die.

But regardless of any that, no. I don't see it as a nice gesture. I see it as someone posting about someone else's weight on the internet. I wouldn't want any of my friends commenting on my weight that way, and I certainly wouldn't want acquaintances doing it, if you're implying that's okay. As far as I'm concerned, once you're informed of the risks of something (and we all know being fat is bad for you), then barring some mental illness, your health decisions are a personal matter.

jadedone

At 5'5" I know the charts say that I should weigh ~130. I can tell that isn't super realistic for me. I have a target, and well we will see how I feel when I get there. Everyone is happier at a different point. If her doctors have checking out ok then that's enough. But honestly, butt out on her weight.

If you want to "help" then invite her for a walk or some other activity so you 2 can engage in some healthy habits together.