boyfriend troubles and weight loss

Jessicaruby

my boyfriend thinks i am skinny and that i do not need to lose weight. I am a little obsessed with this website, calorie counting, eating healthy and exercising. I used to cause problems between us because i talked about my weight and calories all the time. now that i have added friends and started posting on forums i have others to talk to so i do not bring it up to him as much.....HOWEVER all he eats is junk. he lives off of ice cream, candy and fast food and when i wont taste his food or eat where he wants to because they do not have healthy options he gets mad and says that i am being excessive and that i am obsessed. i will admit i am a little obsessed. i have OCD and have had problems with eating disorders. but i want to lose these last 10lbs and tone. Today he got mad about me not wanting to eat junk at the movies.he told me that for as much as i worry about it i am not losing any weight and i have been doing this for 9 months so i should just stop! i know he has a point about me being obsessive about it at times but i do not see why he can not accept my eating habits and not try to push junk food on me. sometimes it makes it diffucult because im eating yogurt and he is stuffing his face with ice cream. my lifestyle change is affecting our relationship. what do i do?

McKayMachina

Communication needs to improve between you two and you need to respect each other. Good luck.

fatboypup

you got 99 problems and your boyfriend aint one!

chevy88grl

You can not change the choices he makes as far as his eating goes and he can not change yours. However, the two of you need to learn to respect the choices the other one makes. You are both adults and while you may cringe at what he's eating - it is his life and his body.

As for him harping on what you eat, I would simply state "These are the choices I am making for me" and let it be. He needs to back off and stop making comments too.

Communication. You guys MUST learn to talk through things or it won't work.

leilani♥

My boyfriend and I have this understanding... I'm on a mission to eat healthy and get fit --- He can do whatever the **** he wants. I don't bug him with my diet/fitness .. he doesn't bug me with eating fast food. Your man needs to be supportive about what you are doing. HELL he benefits from it when you get busy in the bedroom

McKayMachina

HELL he benefits from it when you get busy in the bedroom

Not if she's just being obsessed and not seeing any changes after 9 months.

I get the feeling this obsession could be ANYTHING for OP. It could be scrap-booking or getting tattoos or watching TV or whatever. Some people just fall into obsessions that don't leave them any better off.

Personally, if I were a guy and my girlfriend was constantly freakishly obsessed with calorie counting but didn't lose any weight for the better part of a year, I would think she was nuts and split. I definitely wouldn't be all gung-ho about bedroom time.

leilani♥

HELL he benefits from it when you get busy in the bedroom

Not if she's just being obsessed and not seeing any changes after 9 months.

I get the feeling this obsession could be ANYTHING for OP. It could be scrap-booking or getting tattoos or watching TV or whatever. Some people just fall into obsessions that don't leave them any better off.

Personally, if I were a guy and my girlfriend was constantly freakishly obsessed with calorie counting but didn't lose any weight for the better part of a year, I would think she was nuts and split. I definitely wouldn't be all gung-ho about bedroom time.

That's true!

Jessicaruby

I just dont know what to do. maybe i should just stop worrying about calories? but then i think i would gain weight. no matter what i do i can not lose any weight. i have gained more muscle definition but i do NOT lose weight. i weigh the same as when i was eating ice cream and fast food. i dont get it

cmriverside

You need to relax. You've admitted to obsessing. That's not a good thing, and it will drive a wedge between you and your man.

You are probably at a healthy weight. If you can't let some of this go, perhaps find a counselor to talk with. This sounds like a body dismorphic disorder. I've read some other posts of yours. Get this under control now.

McKayMachina

I just dont know what to do. maybe i should just stop worrying about calories? but then i think i would gain weight. no matter what i do i can not lose any weight. i have gained more muscle definition but i do NOT lose weight. i weigh the same as when i was eating ice cream and fast food. i dont get it

It's not the act of logging food or eating healthy and exercising that's bad. It's the constant obsession.

Just make good choices, lay off your boyfriend's habits, tell him to lay off yours, log your food and workouts and FORGET ABOUT IT the rest of the time. Don't forget about the rest of your life.

Jessicaruby

You need to relax. You've admitted to obsessing. That's not a good thing, and it will drive a wedge between you and your man.

You are probably at a healthy weight. If you can't let some of this go, perhaps find a counselor to talk with. This sounds like a body dismorphic disorder. I've read some other posts of yours. Get this under control now.

i believe i do have BDD. i just dont know how to get it under control or what to do about it. but it is causing me many problems. and i wonder if this site just feeds the problem?

bonjour24

You need to relax. You've admitted to obsessing. That's not a good thing, and it will drive a wedge between you and your man.

You are probably at a healthy weight. If you can't let some of this go, perhaps find a counselor to talk with. This sounds like a body dismorphic disorder. I've read some other posts of yours. Get this under control now.

i believe i do have BDD. i just dont know how to get it under control or what to do about it. but it is causing me many problems. and i wonder if this site just feeds the problem?

ok, so you think you have a pretty serious psychiatric condition. you need to actively seek professional help. we cannot give you that here. you need to find mental health services near you and engage in psychology. good luck on your journey.