Is saying thank you lost among people?

Amy911Gray

Please and thank you are in my vocabulary more often than not. I also say ma'am and sir...which takes people of guard alot!!

brittanyjeanxo

I'm glad thread wasn't just directed at youngsters!

The rudest people I've seen have been old women! I hold the door open, i just get a dirty look. They walk into ME in a shop, and give me a dirty look.

It's the "kids", late teens, are the ones who actually apologise when they bump into me, THEY are the ones offering help, holding doors, saying thank you etc.

At least, in my experience

I agree, there are a lot of mean old ppl as well ^^ Ive met mean and rude ppl of all ages...This may be controversial, but prettier/wealthier people tend to be nicer to me ^^ <-- I think this has to do with upbringing and maybe self-confidence ^^

Really? Hm. In my experience, those are usually the more rude ones I live near a very wealthy town. A couple actually. Everyone there is so pampered and spoiled; the mall there has vending machines with iPods and iPhones in them. Not kidding. They're all really rude.

Dylanzmom

I always mind my manners it's the way I was raised. My son is only two but he knows to say please, thank you and will even say bless you. While out at a store yesterday I witnessed a man older than me cut right in front of an elderly man bc he didn't move fast enough. I couldn't believe how rude that was. Oh and if I notice that people don't say thank you after I hold a door open for them I will tell them You're welcome. It makes them do a double take and realize that they are rude.

shesblossoming

I like to be very respectful toward other people, but I've learned not to expect the same. I used to get really frustrated, but I realized that I can't really change other's actions (or rather, lack of it).

i_love_vinegar

I'm glad thread wasn't just directed at youngsters!

The rudest people I've seen have been old women! I hold the door open, i just get a dirty look. They walk into ME in a shop, and give me a dirty look.

It's the "kids", late teens, are the ones who actually apologise when they bump into me, THEY are the ones offering help, holding doors, saying thank you etc.

At least, in my experience

I agree, there are a lot of mean old ppl as well ^^ Ive met mean and rude ppl of all ages...This may be controversial, but prettier/wealthier people tend to be nicer to me ^^ <-- I think this has to do with upbringing and maybe self-confidence ^^

Really? Hm. In my experience, those are usually the more rude ones I live near a very wealthy town. A couple actually. Everyone there is so pampered and spoiled; the mall there has vending machines with iPods and iPhones in them. Not kidding. They're all really rude.

same with where i am from....vending machines like that are not too uncommon i think ^^ i live in the wealthy towns though, so maybe it is just that I spend more time thus get to know the nicer ppl ^^

mommared53

I always say please and thank you because that's the way I was raised. Even when I get off the Metro bus I'll tell het bus driver thank you. I see so many people that get off the bus and don't even acknowledge the driver. I think it's so rude when people don't thank the driver.

juliecat1

This irritates me too. I was raised to say Please/thank you, ma'am/sir. I still call older people Mr and Mrs whatever. Manners! But rarely do I hear it anymore. What really irks me is when I tell someone thank you - they say "yup" or "uh huh". Its Youre Welcome and a smile wouldnt kill ya either.

MisterDubs303

I Agree with OP. But keep doing what your doing, even if ppl dont appreciate it! It's people like you who can make someone's day and restore faith in the general goodness and altruism of ppl.

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Right there with ya, too, OP. Especially the part where you mentioned that opening a door isn't chivalry, but simply polite. I would also encourage continuing these behaviors not just for the service you provide, but the example that you set for others. I would feel like a heal if someone else took an opportunity to help someone that I had overlooked, and would certainly be more sensitive to a similar situation later on. I think I am almost overly courteous sometimes, though.

Enforcer25

Manners and politeness are lost on most people today. I always try to say thank you and please. I try to be courteous and considerate to others, but it gets diffucult when a majority of people aren't . I feel like they think they are more important than you or their time is more valuable then yours so when you do a nice gesture, they expect it so there is no gratitude. I also hold open doors, greet people, etc. Sorry about getting a little side tracked.

atsteele

Manners and politeness are lost on most people today. I always try to say thank you and please. I try to be courteous and considerate to others, but it gets diffucult when a majority of people aren't . I feel like they think they are more important than you or their time is more valuable then yours so when you do a nice gesture, they expect it so there is no gratitude. I also hold open doors, greet people, etc. Sorry about getting a little side tracked.

I greet people when Im running or on my errands. I also hold doors open for people. Maybe it's because I look like an idiot, but most people say thank you and smile in response. (Maybe they think, "Aawwww, look at that poor misforunate gal smiling at me. I should be nice to her." I also try to let people out in front of me in traffic when I can. 90% of the time people wave a "thank you" back. I dont think manners are lost. I think that people respond to kindness.

FearAnLoathing

I say please and thank you all the time

Qarol

I grew up with this. Then I moved to CT for a few years, near NYC. Then I moved back to the "south" and experienced major culture shock. It took me months to readjust to men holding doors for me.