Question to the big losers (in a good way!)

Minnesnowtagurl

This is interesting because I have always wondered if it was just me or what? I am not sure if it is because you feel better about yourself so then you exude positive energy to people and they feed off of you.... I have notice people treat me a little different. Also more attention from all kinds of guys. Sometimes snotty looks from girls <

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which I like, LOL!

Romans624

Unfortunately yes big time. I do not know the ratio of my attitude vs. others attitude in the cause of this, but when I was thinner I was reinforced constantly, and people seemed to like me more. Heck, they gave me a chance and actually talked to me. Now as others have said, I am thoroughly invisible...


I am really hoping that I can get the weight down again before I'm too old !!! My personality comes in to play a lot with this.... I'm happer when I don't feel inadequate, and confident and more likely to try new things and put myself out there because I know people will tend to support me rather than ignore me.

jlsAhava

OH yes! People are more likely to talk with you when you are thinner vs me being almost 100 pounds heavier. Also what I really notice is how much more seriously you are taking and consideration you are given at Job interviews! It kinda sad, I am just as good an employee at 300 pounds as I am at 200 pounds! Oh well what you gonna do!

It might not be fair, or right. But since I'm looking for a job - and I've dropped almost 35 lbs from my 4'11" frame - I'll take it!

Show me the money!!!! :bigsmile:

FelizMi

Yes, I notice a big difference, but I think a lot of it has to do with I smile more now because, even though I'm not anywhere close to my goal, I am finally happy with myself for accomplishing what I have, and I just plain feel better. So I guess my change in attitude just makes me more approachable.

One negative side effect, though, is that I'm getting more attention from men, and not the kind of attention I want. They aren't interested in getting to know me, or seriously dating me. They don't even want to go out on a date, the immediately ask if I want to come over or can they come over, but when I suggest going out somewhere instead to get to know each other, they got plans, lol. I guess I'm in that in between stage, cute and small enough to hit the sack with, but not enough to take home to momma, SMH.

jhardenbergh

I definately have, the women that live in the neighborhood, most of them that I haven't met before glance, wave, and smile at me while I am out jogging or running. Some actually strike up conversation with me, asking me about my workout and stuff like that. They'll ask where I live, if I live in the neighborhood. I usually respond, my wife and I live or we live down the street. It's a pretty good size neighborhood.

brugge220

It is sad isn't it that you are treated differently when the only thing that has changed is the way you look. I am not a bad person regardless of how much I weigh. It is a pity that people dont see the beauitful person that is there in all of us ...

ahsongbird

unfortunately not, i've lost a lot of weight but around here I'm still considered big bc all the girls my age r naturally thin or really fit but I'll get there someday hopefully next summer I'll be at my goal