I've been told to stop losing weight

crazyeaCHANGED

I havent been told to stop yet, but I have been told by several friends and family to stop around 200lbs. Anything less wouldnt be right for my bod size. Anyway, my goal is 180 and I dont care if I look too skinny. Thats when I may hit the gym and put the muscle on if possible.

SouLThinking

I have been starting to get people tell me that I have lost enough weight. or that you look fine now, don't get too skinny. I am not stopping till I reach my goal of 185 lbs, which is the top of the healthy weight range for my height. `I am just afraid if I stop, I will go back. Anyone else have been told they have lost enough?

I too am going through this. It's kinda frustrating to be honest. I mean I'm just now like right at the top of a "healthy" weight for my height/frame. But, I'm not happy with just enough. I need to lose 10 more pounds. I hear all the time " you don't need to lose more weight, your find where you are". I will know..when it's time to maintain. So will you. I am not 100% positive that it's even a number on the scale. When I feel right and look right to me is when I'll know.

Nichole

stevenleagle

You have done very well. Keep it up till you reach your goal. I have another Mfp friend who has recently swapped to maintenance mode after nearing his goal. He is still losing weight! So even if I reach my goal (and I have a long way) I will probably still log on indefinitely to make sure that ithe weight doesn't come back! Ignore those others!

fiberartist219

Occasionally people will tell me, "You don't look like you need to lose weight. You look great the way you are."

I just respond with, "This isn't about the way I look. This is about whether or not I get diabetes when I am my mother's age."

Suddenly, no one other than health care professionals are able to talk to me. My doctor flat out told me I needed to lose weight if I want to avoid diabetes, and that was when I weighed 10lbs less than I do now.

SMarie10

I hope this problem happen to me someday :flowerforyou:

Just chock it up and keep doing what you're doing. You might want to consider not telling anyone your new goal if you're not getting the support you need.

Amy_B

I hear that all the time. It annoys me, so I tell people, "I look okay with clothes on, but..." LOL It usually shuts them up.

That's the part people don't see. Even though my stomach is much much much smaller. All I see now is FAT that has to go away!!!!

Yep. My stomach is NOT pretty. Three c-sections didn't help any, but I am determined to at least shrink it a lot without surgery. Plus, I am not to the clothing size I want to be in. So...I think like others said, some people who are not where they want to be see that you have lost the weight, may be subconsciously jealous, and want you to stop to make them feel better about themselves.

jlanab

my boyfriend gets ANGRY...SERIOUSLY ANGRY when I talk about loosing an additional 20lbs. Im 5'4' (on a big hair day :laugh: but usually 5ft3) and am currently 180. Im sure at this weight Im considered "obese" and even at 160 will still according to most charts be "overweight" but who gives a ...:mad: ... Gonna keep going until I'm comfortable and I think 160 is the magic number for me!

cramernh

Yeah, seriously. Unless your doctor tells you to stop, then don't pay any attention. You know your body best, you'll know when you feel done.

BIN-FREAKIN'-GO!!!!!

And if they keep pushing it and getting arrogant about it, 'its none of their damn business'.... Ive had to go that route with only one person, thankfully....

Scorpioangel

Yes.. I have people tell me that if I keep working out I will turn into a skeleton and things like that! I also have people tell me that I need to stop because I am going to get all body builder on them or something!

swimmchick87

It doesn't sound like you have unhealthy goals, so I think you have nothing to worry about! I agree with a couple things already said:
1- People are jealous!
2- They're used to seeing you at your HW, so in comparison you look so tiny now (which is great!)
3- People honestly don't realize what weight is a healthy weight. The BMI scale was a big eye opener for me. I think people think of "obese" in an actual medical sense as a huge, 400 pound person. At my HW, I'd say I was pretty average sized and only 5 pounds away from being obese according to the BMI scale! Wow! I'm 5'4, which is a pretty average height. To be in my "healthy range", I have to be 145 pounds. I've been that weight before and was about a size 6 or sometimes an 8- and that's the very biggest I could be before I was considered officially overweight. I think most people absolutely don't realize that you really do have to be "thin" to be at your healthy weight!

efwolfcub

I presume these are people who know you well and who are used to seeing you at your heaviest.

You probably look so slim to them, compared to your previous silhouette, that they think you have gone too far. You have been living healthy long enough to know your own numbers, though, and to know what is a healthy weight for you. Stick to your goals, buddy, and good on you.

I've got to agree with this. Think of it this way - if you had long hair for years or a beard, and then suddenly shaved it off, wouldn't people look at you a little funny at first? people are just getting used to the 'new you' - especially if its been a long time since they've seen you

lacroyx

it's your body, your life. you stop when you are happy. I haven't been told to stop losing weight yet but I have been told in the past to stop jogging b/c it was bad for me. I didn't listen.

londanfudd4eva

i havent lost much yet but i have people telling me i dont need to lose weight at all but i say get to where u r comfortable and i looked at your pics u have done great!