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jasmineconley

LOL I'm already back down to where I was when we started dating. I told him before that I hope it is worth it because he lost his cake for the crumbs

Answer these questions: Why do you want this weight off? Who are you doing this for? What will happen if you quit? Then tell yourself to suck it up and get off your butt and do something, ANYTHING that gets your heart pumping. I always feel in a better mood when the sweat is starting to bead on my forehead and I can feel air rushing in and out of my lungs. You need to lift weights or ride a bike or run or something. Beat the ^&*( out of the pavement if your a runner or squash the guys face in with every downward rotation on the bike. Just get the frustration out in your work out. It really does work and you'll be happier. I can always tell when my wife and I have had a fight because my legs and arms are so sore from going to the gym. Not only that when you've finally lost the weight and the guy sees you and his jaw drops, you can tell him to go back to the slob of a niece.

hazelnutflav

im sorry yr going thr this now but guess what, thats life hun, im sorry you hurt, have a good cry, thank god he is gone bec if he can touch his niece you dont need him around your daughter consider it a blessing you even found out.

when you done crying refocus your energy on your child, do it for her, children have a way of picking up negative energy and you dont want to pass that on to her.

then get back in the game, one day at a time one step at a time and you will begin to get your mojo back and please take the time look at the video brittg7 mentioned it is uplifting and true.


thank you brittg7......this was awsome if this does not get you back in he game i dont know what will.

jasmineconley

I did watch it I've actually heard that guy speak before. He is a really great speaker. Oh believe me I had a lot to say about that when I found out and he would've been dead. He's 28 and she's 18 but it's still nasty! I did cry at first now I'm kind of in the numb stage. Plus I'm sick so I can't push as hard as I was. ( Asthma time of year) It's not like anything really changes for me if I don't lose the weight but I'm sure that anything would change if I did!

im sorry yr going thr this now but guess what, thats life hun, im sorry you hurt, have a good cry, thank god he is gone bec if he can touch his niece you dont need him around your daughter consider it a blessing you even found out.

when you done crying refocus your energy on your child, do it for her, children have a way of picking up negative energy and you dont want to pass that on to her.

then get back in the game, one day at a time one step at a time and you will begin to get your mojo back and please take the time look at the video brittg7 mentioned it is uplifting and true.


thank you brittg7......this was awsome if this does not get you back in he game i dont know what will.

dobarber

NO MATTER HOW SLOW YOU GO, YOUR STILL GOING FASTER THAN THE PERSON WHO IS STILL ON THE COUCH

^^^I love that!

neuro316

It might help to break everything down to mini-goals, taking it day by day, week by week, month by month. So, for example, you can set a goal to carefully track all your food and exercise for one week. Or to do a new workout video every day for a week, or something like that. Changing it up from week to week can keep it interesting, so you don't get bored, and it won't feel so overwhelming.

Another strategy is to write down all the reasons you have for wanting to lose weight and get healthy. Then when you feel your motivation flagging, pull out that list and see if something lights your motivational spark again.

hazelnutflav

just breath and refocus do you keep a journal? do you have "me time"? if not then MAKE THE TIME , i know this is hard right now but its going to pass your going to find someone better and your going to succeed everyone here will support you, friend me if you like im here every day just dont dwell on the negative, do it for you baby you will be the best mom ever

jasmineconley

I used to journal but I ran out of time for it. I guess that answers the me time question too. LOL I've been nixing my mfp friends for inactivity here recently it seems like the blahs are going around! I'm hoping that whatever is setting the athma off is going to even itself out soon. You can't run a marathon if you're breathing like you just finished one I'm honestly not even remotely intested in finding a guy right now. I went out with my girlfriends last week for the first time in years and a guy tried talking to me and I was repulsed! I also wanted to slap him but didn't some people are just entirely ignorant. I really don't think about it now I just know it was what set off this downward spiral. I really just think the illness is kicking my butt since I'm overly tired for no good reason

just breath and refocus do you keep a journal? do you have "me time"? if not then MAKE THE TIME , i know this is hard right now but its going to pass your going to find someone better and your going to succeed everyone here will support you, friend me if you like im here every day just dont dwell on the negative, do it for you baby you will be the best mom ever

Akjenn89

If you think that's good try this one on for size... his mom said I needed to get over it because she's family?!?!?! WOW

That's terrible. Sounds like he needed better role models growing up as well.

jasmineconley

If you think that's good try this one on for size... his mom said I needed to get over it because she's family?!?!?! WOW

That's terrible. Sounds like he needed better role models growing up as well.

If I didn't respect my elders I'd have punched her for that one but instead I bit my tongue and walked away... I'm pretty proud of myself for how I've handled the whole situation