How do you crack down on your friends list?

PearlMarie_3gen_11484
PearlMarie_3gen_11484 Posts: 272 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
I was wondering how do go through your friends list? Do you delete the ones that don't comment often, log in consistently, etc?

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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    I'm not their mother or their probation officer.

    They can do as they wish.
  • I'm not their mother or their probation officer.

    They can do as they wish.

    I agree. They can do as they wish. And when I feel that their goals no longer align with mine, they hit the chopping block.
  • bethvandenberg
    bethvandenberg Posts: 1,496 Member
    I delete if they've been gone for awhile but otherwise ????
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    I only 'delete' those who 'delete' themselves...ie people who haven't logged in themselves for a month or so. I keep everyone else.
  • jasmineconley
    jasmineconley Posts: 438 Member
    I clear out those that I don't see put forth any kind of effort and that haven't been on in over a month... I hit slumps too but I manage to try a little :)
  • 3kidsin3years
    3kidsin3years Posts: 116 Member
    For me, I like positive, supportive people, and people that I can support back. I try and keep my list to a minimum so I can feel like I'm keeping up with friends I have and be super supportive (although I've been slacking lately...). Just depends on what you're looking for. Good luck!
  • Justjoshin
    Justjoshin Posts: 999 Member
    If people don't interact with me, then I don't think we really have a reason to be friends.

    If they go more than a week without being online, unless they are someone i interact with a lot, they will likely get cut.
  • JennsLosing
    JennsLosing Posts: 1,026
    i usually delete whoever hasnt logged in for more than 2 months.
  • kr3851
    kr3851 Posts: 994 Member
    I delete people who asked for a friend request, haven't logged in for over a month, and never commented on anything I did (or I didn't comment on them either).

    People I interact with regularly who 'fall off the wagon' I'll keep because if they come back, I want them to know I stuck by them - I'd like to think they'd do the same for me.

    People who I add or add me that post too often about the same things, I'll probably delete as well. In my opinion, there are no stupid questions - but at the same time, if you keep reposting the same question, ignoring the responses and asking again a couple of days later, that's annoying.
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    For those that haven't logged in for a few days, or don't give me constant praise.. I go to their house and choke them until they do as I say.

    Then I take their wallet.
  • aa1440
    aa1440 Posts: 956 Member
    I only delete those that don't post on my page. They expect you to comment on their posts but they don't respond in kind. And if they post too much they have to go. I hate the ones that treat my page like it's facebook or myspace. If I look at my page and all I see is the same avatar or picture all over my page they are deleted.
  • wendyannvantiem
    wendyannvantiem Posts: 188 Member
    I'm nice and don't delete someone unless its been months. I was MIA for a few months so I can understand.
  • thirtyandthriving
    thirtyandthriving Posts: 613 Member
    when I feel that their *goals no longer align with mine, they hit the chopping block.

    This is me. I would have said *goals and commitment.
  • emrogers
    emrogers Posts: 328 Member
    Funny I just went through my friends list and really cut it short. I went through all older posts and only found a few friends that commented and supported me. I figure if the person didn't interact with me nor I with them then it's just that we are not aligned with the same goals. I guess now I understand why some say they only have a few friends, so you can be supportive enough with each other. If I interacted with them and vice versa and they haven't logged on, I'll stick by them. We never know what someone else is going through.
  • Liquid741
    Liquid741 Posts: 292 Member
    i dont delete, and honestly dont care if i get deleted...
  • Frankenbarbie01
    Frankenbarbie01 Posts: 432 Member
    I 'cull' by looking at 1) who hasnt logged for over 1 month, 2) if there is nothing but constant whining and negativity in their posts, 3)if they are forever b@tching about what other people ask / comment on (some people REALLY dont understand the calorie deficit or eating exercise cals.....just saying) 4) Generally are not supportive =)
    Positivity goes a long way and I really try to be positive with all my posts and responses.

    plus...I do not accept a friend request WITHOUT a quick note (...i like your pics, I read your story..you made me laugh....)
  • alienblonde1
    alienblonde1 Posts: 749 Member
    When someone doesn't log on for like a month, I send them a message. If it changes to less then a month I keep them when I go through my friends lists the next time but if they are still over a month gone without saying hey I'm going to be away for a while, then I delete.
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    I delete people who haven't logged in for a year.
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    I never really go through my friend list. The only time I've thought about deleting someone was when their constant, long status updates were blowing up my news feed.
  • TheBraveryLover
    TheBraveryLover Posts: 1,217 Member
    If I get "annoyed" by their status updates, I'll delete them. If they don't log on for a month, I delete them. If they never log in their diary and I don't interact with them much, I delete. That's about it.
  • jetscreaminagain
    jetscreaminagain Posts: 1,130 Member
    i dont delete, and honestly dont care if i get deleted...

    This is me. Why would I delete someone unless they specifically annoyed me? Similarly, if I get deleted, id maybe be disappointed with my more active friends but I have been deleted from others and meh. They do what they need to do.
  • Akjenn89
    Akjenn89 Posts: 265 Member
    I don't delete people I've added, but that's because Im super picky about who I add in the first place. ;)
  • lor007
    lor007 Posts: 884 Member
    I have a pretty small list, and they are all people I consider friends and enjoy hearing from. I don't plan on deleting any of them.
  • Beastette
    Beastette Posts: 1,497 Member
    Most of my list includes friends I know irl or family I've mind-controlled into joining. They get to stay. Cyber-friends only get deleted if they go inactive for a month or so. I don't even know you, if you aren't going to use the site then what's the point? If they are active, I don't mind if they don't comment much. Just knowing they are trying is motivation for me to hold up my end.
  • DWilbanks
    DWilbanks Posts: 420 Member
    I don't delete unless someone has specifically pissed me off. And it takes alot to make me mad. To be honest, I'm one of the ones that do not comment every time you stay under your calorie limit, or you've done your exercise for the day. To me, that's what you're here for and you'll do it if your committed in making your life better with or without the kudo's from your friends. Now if the people that I add as friends need my help or have any type of problem and want to vent. I'm there for them and they can message me any time. To me that's what the friend thing is all about.
  • DWilbanks
    DWilbanks Posts: 420 Member
    I don't delete unless someone has specifically pissed me off. And it takes alot to make me mad. To be honest, I'm one of the ones that do not comment every time you stay under your calorie limit, or you've done your exercise for the day. To me, that's what you're here for and you'll do it if your committed in making your life better with or without the kudo's from your friends. Now if the people that I add as friends need my help or have any type of problem and want to vent. I'm there for them and they can message me any time. To me that's what the friend thing is all about.

    Probably not my most popular post, but I yam what I yam..as popeye used to say...lol
  • Phoenix1401
    Phoenix1401 Posts: 711 Member
    I deeply apperciate my MFP friends. They're way more honest and supportive than my friends on facebook and real life. I send caring and loving messages to the ones who havent been on for a few weeks anybody who havent been on over a month I delete them.
  • ejohndrow
    ejohndrow Posts: 1,399 Member
    I don't delete unless I'm in a mood that doesn't happen to be a happy one, and then I delete the people who haven't logged in in months.
  • i_love_vinegar
    i_love_vinegar Posts: 2,092 Member
    I delete the ones who end up being *kitten* lol.

    If you are nice, I will be there for you in return. I have some amazing friends on this site~
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