Dreppressed dieter

MajorRyan

I have been referred to a hospital run program to loose weight. Ever since I have been on this new food program, I have been miserable and its nothing to do with eating less or healthy. I'm angry that I'm not accepted and that I have to change myself, just to satisfy other people insecurities. Plus just doing everyday things seem more difficult, I'm isolating myself the more I loose weight. I'm seeing a psychologist as part of the program, but she only can deal with the eating side...not the life side:( Has anyone experienced this? Are you more unhappy the more you loose weight?

Don't get me wrong I do want to be thin and healthy, but its just nagging me all the time. What if they all start to like me cause I'm loosing weight???I don't want to hang around with these people who couldn't accept me before, but they are my friends....I'm so confused and with a history of depression....its hard to see the bigger picture when you had made your mind up you weren't going to live past 40....I feel like I'm going in circles....The only thing keeping me going at this point is the goal...to have a child.

Rachel21May

I would say definately that you need to find a healthy medium between dieting or just living healthier. And maybe getting to the true route of the problem, because the wieght loss is not the problem, lack of trust is what it seems to be (I'm not a proffesional so I'm just spit-balling here but). You have to trust that people have loved you for you this entire time and could just be genuinely happy for you to loose weight and hopefully start on a healthier more optimistic path in life. Your life has greater purpose then just a kid, don't get me wrong its definatley a great goal to strive for, no doubt! But there are always bigger and better things this world has out there to offer. You may or may not be religous but this bible verse helps me when I am down about the future or am feeling unsure of myself Jeremiah 29:11" For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." So I just trust in God for whatever he has planned in my life and ask that he gives me discernment with my friend choices and goal setting. I hope that helped some. -Rachel

enid71571

hang in there! I felt the same way as you and I realized that without my "Drug," if you will, I had to deal with all the range of emotions. And they come on strong when you can't just stuff them down with a brownie. It was painful. Still is, but it got Sooooo much better after about 5 weeks. I'm still struggling,but I am getting more confident every day. You will too. Good luck!

Rachaelluvszipped

Ok, so then, you should make friends with like wise people with the same goals...It happens, there are those that are superficial..but that doesn't mean you have to be friends with everyone..but you can be cordial..you shouldn't worry about what others think at this point..you should just focus on your goals...trust me, when you start to lose weight..and people start to notice...You will encourage the looks your way...I use to not like anyone noticing me..now I thoroughly enjoy it..hehe...and I really don't care what others think of me anymore.. (my relatives included int this matter, they were pretty hateful, while I was growing up..) And now they can totally eat my dust!

therealkittymao

I think the fact that you are talking about how you are feeling and reaching out for help is a REALLY good sign. If you were holding in your feelings and hiding your fears, THAT would be a cause for alarm. So the fact that you are wrestling with how the situation is making you feel is already a sign that you are doing well (although it doesn't FEEL good, it IS a good thing).

I think your resentment of society's norms is natural, we are ALL feeling that to some degree, I'm sure. It is really awful that there are some people who will never see past what someone looks like on the outside. I definitely felt the way you are feeling the first time I started losing weight, I was so angry that I was even doing it. I am wondering if it would help you to rethink your goal, so it's not about losing weight, it's about getting healthier. And if the weight goes, yay, but make the real reason you are doing this be because you love yourself and you want to nurture yourself and take care of yourself.

And I also think your instincts are right, you should seek out a counselor that can help you sort out these feelings (not just help you with the eating part). Getting good talk therapy is WONDERFUL when you are sorting out these sorts of feelings. I love my therapist, she really helped me to release myself from a lot of negative thinking and negative self-talk. I highly recommend it.

But honestly, I think the fact that you posted your feelings is an indication that you are on the right track.