Day 3-Emotional Eaters
darlandbaird
Posts: 103 Member
Good Monday Morning! Well the weekend is over and time to get back to work for some of us. I hope every one had a good weekend and was able to not use FOOD for emotions! I didn't and it don't happen all the time for me but I do how ever make bad choices and need to work on that as well! I thought it went good except for the one night with the roasted peanuts. Last night however I did find myself wanting to eat and I grabbed 2 bottles of 16.9 water instead and added crystal light so that did help to not eat! Thank you Lord! My hubby is getting ready to head out on the road,he is a OTR truck driver.
My name is Brenda and I started eating out of emotions when I first married at 17,I was in a very abusive physical and mental marriage and I started eating to escape it! That is how it started for me. I also was fondled as a child by my father and a cousin and guy from church and others so I kept eating. Part of me feels comfortable with the wt on as it makes me feel safe but then the other part of me wants to loose it. I been told I am addicted to food but also been told by another I eat out of habit,so who knows? I do know when I have different emotions of sadness,or being upset or just bored I have turned to FOOD. I just know somewhere this has to stop, I have to do this but I think with the support from others we can all do it,kind of like AA.
I know I was putting it all out their but I think it helps to understand why we started and helps us to be real and feel for each other so feel free to post if you feel comfortable to share! Hope all has a good day and will check in later this afternoon.
My name is Brenda and I started eating out of emotions when I first married at 17,I was in a very abusive physical and mental marriage and I started eating to escape it! That is how it started for me. I also was fondled as a child by my father and a cousin and guy from church and others so I kept eating. Part of me feels comfortable with the wt on as it makes me feel safe but then the other part of me wants to loose it. I been told I am addicted to food but also been told by another I eat out of habit,so who knows? I do know when I have different emotions of sadness,or being upset or just bored I have turned to FOOD. I just know somewhere this has to stop, I have to do this but I think with the support from others we can all do it,kind of like AA.
I know I was putting it all out their but I think it helps to understand why we started and helps us to be real and feel for each other so feel free to post if you feel comfortable to share! Hope all has a good day and will check in later this afternoon.
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Good morning Brenda and Emotional Eaters readers!! Feeling good today! Yesterday... not so much. My kids' behavior has gone coo-coo recently, especially my older daughter. This is very frustrating for me because I don't have much patience and she used to be very easy-going and obedient. I feel I'm fighting more battles than I can handle... my younger daughter has stopped wanting food so it is exhausting to feed her every time, my older one has become defiant to every word we say so we have to tiptoe around our words so she doesn't fight us back, then there's the calorie obsession and the desire to binge on carbs whenever all of these clash together!! Exhausting to even talk about it! I know it's not heavy stuff but it frustrates me (yet another frustration) to feel overwhelmed by "silly" stuff like that.
Anyway, yesterday I almost lured my husband into buying pizza or any other mood-calming takeout but, the heavenly supporter that he is didn't fall in my trap. I still wanted to munch so I had hummus with pita chips and 2 beers. Then I kept thinking what I wanted to eat next so I crashed in the couch and watched TV for a while. Ended up cooking dinner in a bad mood because I had skipped lunch for being worried to go over the cal limit. I had double carbs (rice and plaintain) for dinner and ended up almost not reaching the 1200 cal mark.
I guess it's a good thing I was able to "manage" my crappy mood without binging on carbs but I didn't like doing it literally yelling at the air I was breathing. I hate it when food controls my moods. Hopefully the week will go better and happier.
I was able to eat a couple of things outside the usual diet menu and by controlling the portion size didn't go over my calories and that felt good. It shows I can "eat" a normal life, it's all about moderation. And my underwear is not cutting my abdominal circulation anymore so, I think moderation is worth it.
Great good mood week to everyone! We can do this!0 -
Still hanging in here. Yesterday didn't go well food wise, but I am simply not caring. Ate most of a can of pringles, piece of lasagna, several of the cookies I made Saturday and a bite of Whole Foods spinach and feta pizza.
Mommy is still with us. I am never going to be ready to let go of her, but I know that she is ready to go (and has been for some time.)
My brother is here and he was the last person she hadn't seen, so...
Grace0 -
I ate like my old self yesterday but not because of emotions.....I went shopping with my daughter and ate at PF Changs. Then ate fast food for dinner. BAD EATING DAY. But I'm happy that it was my choice and not some evil anger inside me making me do it.0
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Good morning Brenda and Emotional Eaters readers!! Feeling good today! Yesterday... not so much. My kids' behavior has gone coo-coo recently, especially my older daughter. This is very frustrating for me because I don't have much patience and she used to be very easy-going and obedient. I feel I'm fighting more battles than I can handle... my younger daughter has stopped wanting food so it is exhausting to feed her every time, my older one has become defiant to every word we say so we have to tiptoe around our words so she doesn't fight us back, then there's the calorie obsession and the desire to binge on carbs whenever all of these clash together!! Exhausting to even talk about it! I know it's not heavy stuff but it frustrates me (yet another frustration) to feel overwhelmed by "silly" stuff like that.
Anyway, yesterday I almost lured my husband into buying pizza or any other mood-calming takeout but, the heavenly supporter that he is didn't fall in my trap. I still wanted to munch so I had hummus with pita chips and 2 beers. Then I kept thinking what I wanted to eat next so I crashed in the couch and watched TV for a while. Ended up cooking dinner in a bad mood because I had skipped lunch for being worried to go over the cal limit. I had double carbs (rice and plaintain) for dinner and ended up almost not reaching the 1200 cal mark.
I guess it's a good thing I was able to "manage" my crappy mood without binging on carbs but I didn't like doing it literally yelling at the air I was breathing. I hate it when food controls my moods. Hopefully the week will go better and happier.
I was able to eat a couple of things outside the usual diet menu and by controlling the portion size didn't go over my calories and that felt good. It shows I can "eat" a normal life, it's all about moderation. And my underwear is not cutting my abdominal circulation anymore so, I think moderation is worth it.
Great good mood week to everyone! We can do this!
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That is what it is all about is just finding something lower in caloies/portion control. Sorry about yesterday,seems very stressful and thankfully the hubby was supportive and did not get the pizza. I know what is is to be that frustrated and turn to food as that has been my problems for the last 31-32 years. Sounds like you handled the food situation real good! We can do this,just one day at a time!0 -
Still hanging in here. Yesterday didn't go well food wise, but I am simply not caring. Ate most of a can of pringles, piece of lasagna, several of the cookies I made Saturday and a bite of Whole Foods spinach and feta pizza.
Mommy is still with us. I am never going to be ready to let go of her, but I know that she is ready to go (and has been for some time.)
My brother is here and he was the last person she hadn't seen, so...
Grace
Grace,I am sorry it was a bad day for you and it will be for days to come! It is hard to let someone you love go but you know that time is coming soon and all you can do is do what you are doing! I know you do care about the food/wt but right now you have other things on your mind and that is ok,really! You will get back to this later when you can and we will be here for you now and then!! Hugs!!!0 -
I ate like my old self yesterday but not because of emotions.....I went shopping with my daughter and ate at PF Changs. Then ate fast food for dinner. BAD EATING DAY. But I'm happy that it was my choice and not some evil anger inside me making me do it.
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Not so good due to bad choices but like you said not out of emotions,So good job!!! Again it is about portion size also.0 -
Just had gotten back from gym alittle while ago and had lunch and working on my 6th glass of water. So far the day is going well here in Missouri. Hubby left this am and alittle sad but I think he will be home this coming weekend,so just need to keep busy! Will check in later!0
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I can relate to this because I sometimes find myself looking for food to comfort me when I am stressed about something. Not everyday things but the idea if I am not where I am suppose to be in life, or that I may loose the closest person to me because I am not making the right choices that i should be. I want to get in shape and be healthy but at the same time I find ways to sabotage myself. I'm not afraid of the effort or hard work of exersize but I do find that I have a hard time saying not to certain foods that I have grown to love out of habit. I love doritos, pizza, fast food of any kind. I tried to get into juicing diet and was good for a month but I couldn't get my mind away from substance food that in my head I had to eat in order to feel full.
On another hand I was picked on redicuously when I was a kid growning up for my weight and the size of my head, it doesn't really fit a hat unless I find one of the flexfit hats on the L/XL scale. Outside of that not so much. Also I remember when I was a kid that I was molested by older kids growing up I don't really remember the full details of what happened and I don't think it bothers me I was just a kid and didn't know any better. On top of that I grew up w/o my Dad because I died when I was only 2 years old.
The only person that I have ever told this to is my GF.0 -
I can relate to this because I sometimes find myself looking for food to comfort me when I am stressed about something. Not everyday things but the idea if I am not where I am suppose to be in life, or that I may loose the closest person to me because I am not making the right choices that i should be. I want to get in shape and be healthy but at the same time I find ways to sabotage myself. I'm not afraid of the effort or hard work of exersize but I do find that I have a hard time saying not to certain foods that I have grown to love out of habit. I love doritos, pizza, fast food of any kind. I tried to get into juicing diet and was good for a month but I couldn't get my mind away from substance food that in my head I had to eat in order to feel full.
On another hand I was picked on redicuously when I was a kid growning up for my weight and the size of my head, it doesn't really fit a hat unless I find one of the flexfit hats on the L/XL scale. Outside of that not so much. Also I remember when I was a kid that I was molested by older kids growing up I don't really remember the full details of what happened and I don't think it bothers me I was just a kid and didn't know any better. On top of that I grew up w/o my Dad because I died when I was only 2 years old.
The only person that I have ever told this to is my GF.
I am glad that you were able to open up and tell us your story. It is hard to break old habits but maybe in time we can! Hope to see you back here again! Have a great day!0 -
Another good day for me and I hope you all had just as good and if not,their is always tomorrow! I will be leaving here in awhile to go to my night patients house so won't be able to post till tomorrow in the am. God bless!0
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