Parents: can your children do wrong?

Iamfit4life

Or are one of your parents who will defend the child no matter what?



I find the difference in the two types of parents so interesting!

ThePhoenixRose

my kids are terdbuckets.

Iamfit4life

my kids are terdbuckets.

this is why I love you.


Today my son gets in trouble at day care for writing all over his arms and hands, instead of working on his handwriting.


So he and I talk about how that is not ok, and how he needs to participate in the activities at hand, and only that.


His father(ex) says "well, I can see how you would be confused... if you were a lawyer you would win that case"


I worry about kids who will be made excuses for all their lives!

Gio2369

I don't know lol. I been laying on the floor with my 2 year old girl and she is basically doing whatever she wants with me lol

leynak

Of course they do. Everyone does something wrong sometimes. Even *gasp* ME! :laugh: The parents that defend their kids no matter what annoy me to no end. If my child does something wrong they deserve a consequence.

sunkisses

"Can mine do right?" is the question.

Iamfit4life

Of course they do. Everyone does something wrong sometimes. Even *gasp* ME! :laugh: The parents that defend their kids no matter what annoy me to no end. If my child does something wrong they deserve a consequence.

I totally 100% agree

I don't the point in trying to pretend a child isn't misbehaving. Or trying to justify that behavior.

evansproudmama

I love my son more than my own life but if he does something wrong you better believe hes gonna pay the consequence. Defending your children even when there wrong does them no good, your kids have enough friends they need you to be their parent! They need you to teach them that in life for every action there is a consequence, if you dont teach them that when they are young they will grow up to never take responsibilty for their actions and always blame other for their problems which if you ask me is a huge disservice. If my son calls me from jail ill say call me when your out maybe ill pick you up, if he gets in trouble at school he will have a punishment. Its tough love but the end result is an adult who knows that everything they do is their own choice and every one of those choices their is a consequence whether good or bad. So yes I will praise him when he does right but also let him know when hes wrong. A healthy rounded adult knows when to admit they are wrong :-) and this is only going to be taught by you

JamesonsMommy

I would defend my son 100% then again he is only 2...lol I can already tell i'm going to have my hands full

maidentl

I watched my brother grow up being defended by our mother no matter what he did (even to me.) I saw how he turned out and I want better for my boys. So they have to take responsibility for their actions.

sassylilmama

Of course. When my kids are leaving somewhere and someone says "guess what so and so did" I start to panic

ThePhoenixRose

Don't get me wrong, i'll defend my kids to the ends of the earth, if it's justified. Like, i have a boy who turned 4 TODAY! this summer, he was testing the waters. i told him no, he stopped. did the same thing for my mom, got a HUGE reaction out of her, so he continued to do it! was it the right thing to do? no. was he just being a 3 year old boy? yes. he wasn't hurting anyone, just annoying her! he got a reaction, so he kept at it to get the reaction. if you don't react, he gets bored with it and stops. My mom had 4 kids, you think she'd remember this, as I'm sure more than one of us did that!!! but, she threw a sh!tfit, and got all pissed. i simply explained what he was doing, and why, and she got pissed at me. we left.

i'm not gonna let her take the "little" out of my kids. they have to learn, and they do that by testing limits. i think this is totally different than making excuses for BAD behavior! some will disagree. that's okay.

really, sometimes, they're terdbuckets. but there are situations where they're just regular kids!

evansproudmama

I watched my brother grow up being defended by our mother no matter what he did (even to me.) I saw how he turned out and I want better for my boys. So they have to take responsibility for their actions.

Exactly! My father was an example of this always getting in trouble and always being bailed out= a irresponsible adult who never takes responsibilty for anything that happens in his life. Grr.. im sorry my baby is 3 and I do defend him but there is a healthy balance between loving and defending them and just plain doing them a disservice. My son decided to bite his friend at preschool because he wouldnt give him a toy.. oh no no no the school called me i said put him time out so he sat in the directors office on time out till he apologized and went on his happy way. If I would have said ignore it and let him play he would think he can get away with biting someone later on in life it might be he beat someone up cause they wouldnt share something no thanks lol its an extreme example but you get my point..

ImperfektAngel

I have a 17 year old, almost 18. I used to think I was going to have the kid that did no wrong, HA! Well she did :-/ Things became much better between the two of us once I relaxed about her not being the perfect child The past few years, she has done excellent in school, we have had very few arguments, she doesnt get in trouble anymore. I am so proud of her and one thing I can definitely pat myself in the back for, is that I have raised a child with a kind heart! :-)
I deal with parents all day who think their children do no wrong, they are all shocked to learn the truth! Kids are good about hidding things from parents, have good communication with them if at all possible, dont expect them to be perfect, because they wont be! ;-) Let them know they are loved all the time!

ImperfektAngel

I don't know lol. I been laying on the floor with my 2 year old girl and she is basically doing whatever she wants with me lol

Adorable! if only they stayed little like that forever :-)

anna_b1

Ummmm.... my kids do wrong almost exclusively. Figures I don't get the new and improved perfect models.

GymRatRaceRunner

My kids are assclowns...

I went to pick up my son from school because he had a doctor appointment. He didn't know I was pulling him out of school, so they called him down to the office over the PA system. I could hear him open his class door and yell, "I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING!!!!"

He thought he was getting called to the office again because he was being bad...

Assclown...

tacticalhippie

Mine do plenty of wrong, but I tend to justify it to other people.

choconuts

Yes. My children are 50% at fault 100% of the time.

Snot-nosed little brats.

maidentl

My kids are assclowns...

I went to pick up my son from school because he had a doctor appointment. He didn't know I was pulling him out of school, so they called him down to the office over the PA system. I could hear him open his class door and yell, "I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING!!!!"

He thought he was getting called to the office again because he was being bad...

Assclown...

Ahahaha, that made me laugh.

branflake5

I have 3 kids ages 16, 14 and 11. They are pretty great most of the time while they have their moments because they are kids. That being said they know when they do something wrong they have to face the consequences but they also know that no matter what they do i will always love them exactly the same unconditionally until the end of time. I may be disappointed, angry or upset at what they have done but it could never change the way I feel about them.

kmbrooks15

Here's a good one: A few weeks ago, my sister gets a text message on her phone from a local number that she didn't recognize. It includes what looks like a picture of someone's butt. She texts back and says who is this? The reply said something about Aunt _____. She's starting to freak out a little (she works in the ER and sees all kinds of whackos). She calls her cell company and blocks the number. They tell her to call the police. She calls my mom instead and mom advises her to talk to Detective _______ at church that night (he sings in the choir with us). At dinner at church, Mom is telling me about this. I start getting this sinking feeling. I asked her what the number was. It was the number of the spare cell phone I keep at home for my son. He is almost 14 but has developmental delays. Last year, his bus got him home just a few minutes before my daughter's bus, so he was only alone 15 minutes tops. This year, though, the bus is bringing him home almost an hour before her. So, he spent his hour playing with the cell phone, taking pictures of his butt and texting them to his aunt! I was so furious (I can look back on it now and laugh, but at the time...NOT FUNNY). When I confronted him about it after church, I asked him what he was doing with the phone. "Texting." I asked him who, and he said Aunt _____. I asked him what he sent a picture of, and he said, "A cat." HUH? I told him I had seen the picture, and it most definitely was NOT a cat. He then said, "Well, I thought I deleted it." BiNGO! He knew what he was doing and he knew it was wrong! He got grounded for a week and had to apologize to his aunt. He also got 3 swats (though you'd have thought I'd have beaten him to death the way he carried on!). I also called Detective ______ from church, and he had a very serious conversation with him IN AN INTERROGATION ROOM. Freaked him out! I'd had time to calm down by then, and it was all I could do not to laugh at his face as Detective _____ talked to him! He was scared out of his mind!

So, YES, my children can do wrong!

choconuts

My child told his Kindergarden teacher that I tied him to the sofa and force him to watch Dexter and that I leave him home alone all of the time and he slaves over the stove. (Neither of which are true.)

He may or may not have brought 'lunch' to school without my knowledge. Can of refried beans and a spoon. Had the audacity to ask a cafeteria lady for a can opener.

Needless to say, the school AND bus driver know me AND my son VERY well at this point. Le sigh.

JulieSD

I would defend my children if they were in the right. I have good kids, but, they are kids. They do wrong daily, hourly even! Piper is six and she is a sass mouth and Sofie is 3 and she has two nick names, they are Little Evil and Sofie Bean. If there is trouble, Sofie can sniff it out!

But they are a hoot and I love them to pieces! But whhoooooboy they can test me!

WifeNMama

All flippin day today. Then he screamed like I was ripping his arms off because I made him sit in his room for five minutes so the dog and his baby brother could have a break from him.

My teenage nephew was getting harassed endlessly at school by kids whose parents thought they couldn't possibly do anything wrong. He's the one who ended up leaving school because of it. Really sad. All these kids learning they can get away with anything. Who is going to hire them when they're older? Who would want to be in relationships with them? The parents are neglecting to teach them valuable lessons and basic social skills. I discipline my kids so the judicial system won't have to when they're older.

MissO﹠A

LMFAO. I love this thread.

As for my kidlet, she is the embodiment of evil. Who ever said "terrible twos" was a damned liar as this stage has spanned the entire period between roughly 12 months old until now at the age of 4. Only occasionally do I get respite from my hellspawn and her torturous ways. I do see no hope in sight. Perhaps when she turns 18...

All that said, I do love her immensely and would do anything for her. Wrong? Oh, hell yeah. And, she hears it from me first. When she's right though, I try and let her know how proud I am.