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bethvandenberg

Do you suffer from martyrdom? I think I may be afflicted. A couple of busy weeks and have missed a couple of workouts and all of a sudden I'm much more aware of how I put everyone first. I have spoken to my family and have reminded them that I will just do it, but need help putting my needs first. I need to work out, I need to prepare for my tri, I need to have help.

Do you do this? How do you help talk with your loved ones before you're losing it? How long after you start taking care of others before you notice that you are missing out? How to you keep a level head and get people to help before you lose your mind?

I know I can't be alone in this....I after being unemployed and my spouse being unemployed, need some hints on how to not be everything to everyone before I'm everything to me first. If I don't take care how will I be able to offer it to someone else? It's such a wide spectrum.

Let's hear it MFP and if you can't be nice about it then click on another post..... It's been ugly here lately....

BeautyFromPain

Yep, that's me. I have come to find a happy medium (working out before work) but now I have worn myself out. We all need time to work on ourselves.

sarah44254

gosh, i'm so sorry! I feel like I force too much on myself. I want to be so perfect, want to clean everything, prepare everything, get perfect scores, be perfect employee - that on days I slack off (and hang out here!) I get SO mad at myself!

I think that you have a great start - just talking to your close ones about how you need help focusing on YOU

*hug* sorry I don't have more advice

trilikeagirl

I try to have a conversation with hubby at the beginning of the week, where we schedule my workouts together so that when my workout day/time arrives I do it guilt free..or at least with less guilt. It's a group effort.