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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,422 Member
    Well sooner or later it will show and they'll figure it out. ;) I've had several people ask me what I'm doing, but they lose interest with my answer, which is I'm simply counting calories and exercising, that always seems to end the conversation. lol

    Don't you love that?

    Them: Wow you look great! How did you lose it?
    Me: Eating less.
    Them: Oh, right. So what diet did you use? I'm on [insert expensive faddish diet plan here].
    Me: I didn't.
    Them: So how did you do it?
    Me: Eating less.
    Them: . . . -subject change-


    I love this. Usually I am the one to change the subject if my family makes some comment that pushes my buttons. I learned a long time ago not to get into an argument ......so if she said something like, "How did you lose it?" I might say, "So how about those Cardinals?!"
  • Suzanne106
    Suzanne106 Posts: 149 Member
    Awesome response! Thanks for the laugh.
  • SueGremlin
    SueGremlin Posts: 1,066 Member
    And that's why I don't tell anyone I'm dieting! ;)
    This.
  • tadpole4192
    tadpole4192 Posts: 16 Member
    Grandma is probably from a different era. Pre-microwave and teflon. e.g. the butcher, the baker, the candle stick maker. Uninformed. Tell her your going in for a colon cleansing and see what she says! :o)
  • garlic7girl
    garlic7girl Posts: 2,236 Member
    I feel your pain...I think trying to help them will exhaust you. You can inform people but that's it. Let them make the decision where they want to go. You in turn go on your journey..sometime you go alone and meet folk on the way but ultimately it is just that YOUR journey. Please do NOT give up or give in. You can and stay the course.
    I love my mother dearly but as adults I have learned with her personality there are certain things she does not consider important and will NOT support me. I would be so UPSET!!!!!!!! Then I just realized this year...that is her so I don't seek or listen to her with certain issues anymore. I respect her just close ears.
    Funny, she came to visit last week...I told her how I had recently lost a couple pounds and 3 times she offers me Doritos! I was like don't yell don't yell don't yell!
  • fallenangelloves
    fallenangelloves Posts: 601 Member
    Try NOT being able to discuss your weight loss due to an overweight sister in law that believes she is genetically doomed to be fat and there is no cure...

    And I gave up telling people what I am doing. I tried at work to get people to join mfp with me and got told "No way I would compete against you"... Talk about depressing! I was looking for support with my family/friends/coworkers and finally gave up! This site is my support team now!
  • Alice230
    Alice230 Posts: 66
    It's kind of funny since all diets are based on pretty much the same principle.
  • megz4987
    megz4987 Posts: 1,008 Member
    And that's why I don't tell anyone I'm dieting! ;)

    THIS!
  • CoraGregoryCPA
    CoraGregoryCPA Posts: 1,087 Member
    Those are two people that you DON'T go to the store with or talk to about food! They will never get it. I tell a health nut that I eat ice cream everyday, and they FREAK out.. um hello, I'm loving life and loosing and healthy and strong and fitter than ever.. what does it matter :)
  • CoraGregoryCPA
    CoraGregoryCPA Posts: 1,087 Member
    Try NOT being able to discuss your weight loss due to an overweight sister in law that believes she is genetically doomed to be fat and there is no cure...

    And I gave up telling people what I am doing. I tried at work to get people to join mfp with me and got told "No way I would compete against you"... Talk about depressing! I was looking for support with my family/friends/coworkers and finally gave up! This site is my support team now!

    LOL towards your sister-in-law. That's kind of sad though. Also, about your coworkers.. there is not a competition to win.. you just eat healthy and live longer.. They must not be able to be "normal".
  • bmqbonnie
    bmqbonnie Posts: 836 Member
    LOL I like how people will say you look good and ask how you did it and then proceed to tell you you're wrong. Especially if they themselves are hardly the picture of perfect health!

    I've come to realize that people do not like to see others make self improvements and will almost always try to cut you down, even if only sub consciously. If you are making a change, that insinuates to them that you think they are better than they are, and they feel the compulsive need to show you otherwise.
  • fiberartist219
    fiberartist219 Posts: 1,865 Member
    When my family starts asking too many questions, I just answer with, "none of your business."

    If I'm feeling like a real smarty pants, I just say, "nunya" which is short for "nun ya business."
  • kbizzleoo
    kbizzleoo Posts: 114
    oh wow! I know what you mean!

    I hate when someone I know talks about how they don't want to eat bread because "it makes you fat" WHILE I'm eating bread. My response is always "well this is a lifestyle change for me and I don't plan on not eating bread for the rest of my life."

    When I was first starting out this person also "forced" me to spit out a bite of a bread stick that I had. and I still get angry when i think about that. they were trying to help, but did it in such a mean, rude way.
  • baybeecakes08
    baybeecakes08 Posts: 107
    Grr! Judgemental, rude people make me crazy! My MIL can't stand it when I try to eat healthy. Whenever I eat right, she comments about how I don't need to lose any weight and I just need to enjoy life and eat what I want. Umm...I was eating whatever I wanted for a while which is when I STOPPED enjoying life.

    Keep up your good work!

    my MIL has recently lost alot of weight and i think she feels she is the only one who "deserves" to loose and trys to sabatoge every chance she can lol luckily i am not close with her at ALL but thats another story lol
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