MY OLDER SISTER CALLED ME OVERWEIGHT/FAT

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  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Really? You're going to "give up" at 25 years old? How about being heathly and living long enough to see your child grow up?

    Screw your sister...you need to work on developing a thicker skin and to do this for YOU (and your child & husband if that helps motivate you more).

    Don't focus on how much you have TO GO. Set small goals and reward/celebrate those as you hit them. Its much easier to focus on the next 5 lb mark than the overall number. There are people on here who have lost 100+, and they haven't quit.

    Good luck to you!

    edit: by the way...super cute kid you have there!
  • JeSuisPrest
    JeSuisPrest Posts: 2,005 Member
    thank you everyone, there are some post on here that I really loved but since im new dont know how to quote it and respond lol - but thank you very much

    Just click the quote button, its on the bottom right corner of the message you are reading.
  • htrl877
    htrl877 Posts: 49
    THIS ISNT ABOUT YOUR SISTER THIS IS ABOUT YOU, LOSING WEIGHT TAKES DEDICATION AND HARD WORK AND IT CAN BE DONE WITH THE RIGHT FOCUS. WHO CARE WHAT SHE SAID, IT IS EASY FOR HER TO SAY MEAN THINGS BECAUSE SHE HAS NEVER BEEN IN YOUR POSITION. YOU CAN DO THIS, DONT GIVE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!! ALSO GO LOOK UNDER SUCCES STORIES TAB, IF THEY CAN DO IT SO CAN YOU!

    BUMP +1!
  • Bakins929
    Bakins929 Posts: 895 Member
    Don't pay any attention to her. And don't think it's impossible to drop 30 lbs! I used to think I could never drop even 20 lbs, but now I'm down 66 lbs!

    If you quit now, I can tell you exactly what will happen. You will gain even more, then if you ever try again, it will seem even more insurmountable and you will be even more likely to quit. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do this! You are the only one who can stop yourself from reaching any goal.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    So I'm up pumping- breastfeeding- and I was excited to come log my excercise because I just weiged in and I lost 3 lbs :) when the thought came to me "ahh who cares I'm fat anyway"-
    yesterday my super skinny model esq sister really hurt me and I really want to quit on here and stop trying to lose weight- Im 5'8 231lbs- the last time I was 197-196lbs was when I met my husabnd october of 2009- I just feel so done trying to lose weight, like accepting this is how I am and just not trying I just feel hopeless now - like "how am I going to do this. ugh 31 lbs to go? thats crazy- I dont know- she messed me up

    I'm broken

    do you want to be a bad example for your kids?!

    no!! you want to be happy and healthy and a good example... you need to decide for YOU not because your sister does or doesnt say anything!!

    we all know you can do it, you just need to believe in yourself!
  • Ralphrabbit
    Ralphrabbit Posts: 351 Member
    and your sister as no issues that she is finding difficult?? How would she like you to comment on her issues I wonder? What is it about being overweight that makes the world think they have a right to comment on our issues?
    As has been said before, you are doing it for you, not your baby or sister, though you will enjoy your baby more if you can play with her more easily. By giving up & eating more we punish ourselves, not anyone else. Keep going & show everyone you think you are worth it!
  • fatty2fabby
    fatty2fabby Posts: 415 Member
    use it as motivation babe!
    that was cruel of her especially if you're actually trying xx
  • wyangel
    wyangel Posts: 36
    Don't pay any attention to her! You can do this - just stay on these boards and gain inspiration from them. And make some friends on here. These boards keep me going and are helping me shut up the fat voice in my own head that says I can't do it. But I'm sick and tired of feeling like this. We can do this! And remember we are all here for you.
  • jennajava
    jennajava Posts: 2,176 Member
    bump
  • mommacuca
    mommacuca Posts: 19 Member
    thank you so much everyone :)
  • SannaBourne
    SannaBourne Posts: 33
    please don't give up! there are so many people here on this site that want to see you succeed! dont let harsh words bring you down, let it make you STRONGER. AND PROVE HER WRONG!! :D<3
  • sweebum
    sweebum Posts: 1,060 Member
    When you lose weight...she'll still be mean. Remember that.:flowerforyou:
  • jennajava
    jennajava Posts: 2,176 Member
    bump again (i replied to your comment on my profile)
  • darlenebayerknudsen
    darlenebayerknudsen Posts: 1
    Thank you for your post! I just did a google search for "My sister calls me fat" because the same thing has happen to me and I needed advice or help to deal with all the pressure and pain from her comments. I have now joined and after reading everyones encouraging words, I feel like hey…..these ladies are right, why am I going to let her control my life? After she made that comment to me, I had eaten more then ever and neglected my home and myself. I feel that beginning this website is going to help me reach my goals and I am going to lose the weight for My family and for My husband, not for her, because she had the opposite effect, and I will be sure to let people know that, if she evers trys to gain some credit for my weight loss.
    Family who put family down…are not family. And there is no rule that I must endure pain just because she is my biological sister, so she can continue to get away with hurting me. I am going to try this and make it work. I feel so positive after your post because I am not alone.
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