Hello there, im new.

Vivian_Phoenix

Just want to start of saying by humbly say, welcome to my post.. and I look forward to talking to you guys while here listening to, and sharing my own experiences with you as well.

I want to get to 120 lbs and I want to do it in the most consistent and maintainable way I can to keep it a permanent change, so what I wil be doing is listening to my body, and stop eating when I'm full and make healthy choices when it comes to what I put in my mouth.

I have an allergy to wheat products and I'm not taking my health seriously enough. What I need to do is to abstain from wheat period, I used to just eat it to fit in, but I've had to suffer later on and caused damage to myself because of it.
I ate cakes, pies, cookies, loaves, bread, and all sorts of wheat products because I felt in order to be a good person at christmas, thanksgiving, and all other holidays I must partake in the pastries that someone has taken time out of their day to prepare, so I figured that eating was a small price to pay to be normal, and not to mention it tastes good. But I was wrong; It caused me severe constipation and pain and sometimes bleeding when I used the bathroom.

I kept this secret for a long time. Partly because I thought it happened to everyone else, and partly because I didn't want to tell anyone else because I was embarrassed, so I just went along as if it was ok. After researching I found out that each time I did that, I was doing internal damage to my body and the only solution is to abstain.
I'm very nervous, I feel terrified and socially anxious when I think of saying no because I dont want to offend people when I say no to a cake they made, or a slice of pie, or cookies they brought as a polite gesture, But I think the more I practise saying no, the easier it will get.

I feel better already, it has been 2 days without eating any wheat and things are going smoothly for me and I feel a whole lot better .

I joined this site to feel a sense of community after seeing so many people supporting each other, I wanted to be a part of that.
People tell me all the time that I dont have to lose weight and Im slim, but the truth is, I dont feel happy with my body and I definitely dont feel healthy because I wasn't paying attention to the cues my body was sending me.

Sometimes I believe that people in general think the only reason to eat healthy is to lose weight.. but I disagree, eating healthy helps me to feel confortable and happy, not only physically, but mentally as well..and that is more important than weight loss, especially for my situation.

I know there must be someone out there who understands exactly what Im saying. I'm doing this for myself, and for my happiness and out of self love.

Thanks for reading I know it was pretty long, I tend to write a lot; it's a great form of self expression. Thank you for your patience.

andiechick

Hi there, I'm Andie, I've just completed my first week on here, and I have to say, its been much easier than I thought it would.

Like you, I don't have a lot to lose and am constantly being told by people that I don't need to lose weight, but we all have our own ideal weight where we feel comfortable, and that is simply where I want to be, at a healthy weight for my height, with a curvy figure and still wearing the same size as I am, just being able to wear more of clothes in my wardrobe, with buttons straining, or waistbands cutting in when I sit down!

You must try and learn not to feel guilty when you say no to the food people are offering you. Maybe if they knew of your wheat allergy, they would provide you with an alternative. I work with a muslim and when we bring cakes in for birthdays, we always ensure there is something he can eat. I bet you'd be surprised at how supportive people can be if they know the truth.

Anyway, feel free to chat to me at anytime. I use this site on my mobile as well as computer so I'm only a few buttons away, as are the countless other friends I'm sure you will make on here.

Good luck :flowerforyou: