CATTY women

livnlite

Is there really that many catty women out there (and even perhaps some men)?

I have to admit, I have never really experienced it .. at least not with the people I choose to 'hang' around with. Is this an age/maturity thing? I can't say I even experienced it when I was younger.

Note, I do realize there is a difference between someone being candidly honest ... sometimes brutally honest .. but then there are times where people just want to lash out in a passive aggresive nature, it seems. There is a difference .. mostly having to do with motivation.

I would really like to hear your thoughts.

Katbaran

I think its all environment. My Mom is a terrible, catty gossip. I was too, many years ago when I lived at home. Now? I don't really want to waste time or energy spewing my opinions, suspicions, etc. about someone else that I don't really care about or that doesn't effect me. To me, its just a waste of time. I guess I just don't care what other people do. I just do what *I* do.

ahsongbird

I know tons of catty women, myself NOT included, I hate drama personally and am known as the peacekeeper in my family, but my sisters can be very catty as well as most women I've met in my life which is why I'm mostly a loner bc I can't handle the drama.

Contrarian

I haven't encountered many catty people. I guess I have been lucky.

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TheBraveryLover

Meow! Haha, no I don't know too many like that in real life; but on the internet, yep! :happy:

teacherspet1

I think some folks go through their lives being Catty and Gossipy......thats what makes their lives interesting........I say GET A LIFE, theres a whole world out there to enjoy without dissing someone . i also think age has a bearing on it too........when you get to our age you begin to realise LIFE IS FOR LIVING.......I dont want people with narrow minds and biggotted opinions in my life and we have had enough experience by now to sort the wheat from the chaff. PLUS its MEN as well as women who can be like that......some blokes can moan for England...........

HERES TO A QUIET LIFE WITH LOTS OF LAUGHTER :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

killagb

haha, scan through the message boards here.

That was kind of catty. :flowerforyou:

LaComadreja14

You are lucky if you have never encountered one. I work with one everyday and I knew them all through middle and high school - I chose not to spend any time with them because I find people like that to be petty and annoying as hell

brk_1982

haha, scan through the message boards here.

Lol, this ^^^! I have encountered it. I was shocked when I left school and entered the professional world and it was just as bad! So, no it's not an age thing. Sigh. I just try to avoid it and do my best not to be associated with any cattiness.

livnlite

If there were no Catty women we would have no "Real Housewives" franchise! LOL

But in all seriousness, I have experienced it before. Some women (and men, albeit less so) I have met just simply cannot be happy for other women and it is truly a sad thing if you ask me.

OMGG .. YESSS! I find myself sometimes mesmerized by the Real Housewives shows .. cause it's so much like a train wreck .. I just can't stop watching! If I had friends like THAT .. I would be in jail by now! I have no patience for THAT kind of drama in My own life .. but, on occasion I don't mind watching it in someone else's'. I'm kinda twisted that way.

LorinaLynn

Sometimes it's a maturity thing. I'm very happy to report that a good chunk of the girl who were nasty and catty to me in my high school are now genuinely nice people. I think a lot of it might have been insecurity. Who *isn't* insecure in their teens? It's like bullying... the bullies bully because they don't want to be bullied themselves. Once people grow up a bit... maybe life knocked them down a few pegs or they realized the world doesn't revolve around them, they wise up.

Sometimes, though, people are just mean to the core. I knew a few of them at my past job. The boss's mom was an evil shrew who went out of her way to be cruel to people, in particular anyone overweight. His wife was the same way, but extended her hatred to... pretty much anyone, but especially me. Guess boys really do like to marry someone like dear old mom. She liked to get little digs in here and there. I've blocked a lot of it out, but I remember when I got my hair cut from shoulder length to chin length, she said, "Oh, you got a hair cut.... did you mean to get it THAT SHORT?!" Yes, that's a mild comment, but it was clearly by her tone, an insult. The polite thing to do is to tell someone their hair looks good, no matter what it looks like. And my short 'do was rockin'! She also went out of her way to insult my dog, especially after we had obedience training with her and her lab puppy (notoriously easy to train) and my one-eyed rescue Pekingese (notoriously hard to train) ended up the star pupil by the graduation. :happy:

But seriously... who picks on a one-eyed dog?! :laugh: Someone effed up in the head, that's who.

livnlite

Sometimes it's a maturity thing. I'm very happy to report that a good chunk of the girl who were nasty and catty to me in my high school are now genuinely nice people. I think a lot of it might have been insecurity. Who *isn't* insecure in their teens? It's like bullying... the bullies bully because they don't want to be bullied themselves. Once people grow up a bit... maybe life knocked them down a few pegs or they realized the world doesn't revolve around them, they wise up.

Sometimes, though, people are just mean to the core. I knew a few of them at my past job. The boss's mom was an evil shrew who went out of her way to be cruel to people, in particular anyone overweight. His wife was the same way, but extended her hatred to... pretty much anyone, but especially me. Guess boys really do like to marry someone like dear old mom. She liked to get little digs in here and there. I've blocked a lot of it out, but I remember when I got my hair cut from shoulder length to chin length, she said, "Oh, you got a hair cut.... did you mean to get it THAT SHORT?!" Yes, that's a mild comment, but it was clearly by her tone, an insult. The polite thing to do is to tell someone their hair looks good, no matter what it looks like. And my short 'do was rockin'! She also went out of her way to insult my dog, especially after we had obedience training with her and her lab puppy (notoriously easy to train) and my one-eyed rescue Pekingese (notoriously hard to train) ended up the star pupil by the graduation. :happy:

But seriously... who picks on a one-eyed dog?! :laugh: Someone effed up in the head, that's who.

That reminds me .. I had totally forgetten ... I had a women 'compliment' me once on what I was wearing. I know her, kinda of, through mutual friends. She is kind off the wall a little, I never really knew how to take her, but I convinced myself that she was tryng to be complimentary .. it just kinda came out wrong .. what do you think ....

She says: " Nice outfit, Not everyone could wear THAT colour yellow, but you look great'.

Does THAT sound catty .. or complimentary?

Iamfit4life

Sometimes it's a maturity thing. I'm very happy to report that a good chunk of the girl who were nasty and catty to me in my high school are now genuinely nice people. I think a lot of it might have been insecurity. Who *isn't* insecure in their teens? It's like bullying... the bullies bully because they don't want to be bullied themselves. Once people grow up a bit... maybe life knocked them down a few pegs or they realized the world doesn't revolve around them, they wise up.

Sometimes, though, people are just mean to the core. I knew a few of them at my past job. The boss's mom was an evil shrew who went out of her way to be cruel to people, in particular anyone overweight. His wife was the same way, but extended her hatred to... pretty much anyone, but especially me. Guess boys really do like to marry someone like dear old mom. She liked to get little digs in here and there. I've blocked a lot of it out, but I remember when I got my hair cut from shoulder length to chin length, she said, "Oh, you got a hair cut.... did you mean to get it THAT SHORT?!" Yes, that's a mild comment, but it was clearly by her tone, an insult. The polite thing to do is to tell someone their hair looks good, no matter what it looks like. And my short 'do was rockin'! She also went out of her way to insult my dog, especially after we had obedience training with her and her lab puppy (notoriously easy to train) and my one-eyed rescue Pekingese (notoriously hard to train) ended up the star pupil by the graduation. :happy:

But seriously... who picks on a one-eyed dog?! :laugh: Someone effed up in the head, that's who.

That reminds me .. I had totally forgetten ... I had a women 'compliment' me once on what I was wearing. I know her, kinda of, through mutual friends. She is kind off the wall a little, I never really knew how to take her, but I convinced myself that she was tryng to be complimentary .. it just kinda came out wrong .. what do you think ....

She says: " Nice outfit, Not everyone could wear THAT colour yellow, but you look great'.

Does THAT sound catty .. or complimentary?

Complimentary.

People read too much into things sometimes a compliment is just a compliment.

Iamfit4life

I think it comes and goes with maturity and age. For the most part.

livnlite

Sometimes it's a maturity thing. I'm very happy to report that a good chunk of the girl who were nasty and catty to me in my high school are now genuinely nice people. I think a lot of it might have been insecurity. Who *isn't* insecure in their teens? It's like bullying... the bullies bully because they don't want to be bullied themselves. Once people grow up a bit... maybe life knocked them down a few pegs or they realized the world doesn't revolve around them, they wise up.

Sometimes, though, people are just mean to the core. I knew a few of them at my past job. The boss's mom was an evil shrew who went out of her way to be cruel to people, in particular anyone overweight. His wife was the same way, but extended her hatred to... pretty much anyone, but especially me. Guess boys really do like to marry someone like dear old mom. She liked to get little digs in here and there. I've blocked a lot of it out, but I remember when I got my hair cut from shoulder length to chin length, she said, "Oh, you got a hair cut.... did you mean to get it THAT SHORT?!" Yes, that's a mild comment, but it was clearly by her tone, an insult. The polite thing to do is to tell someone their hair looks good, no matter what it looks like. And my short 'do was rockin'! She also went out of her way to insult my dog, especially after we had obedience training with her and her lab puppy (notoriously easy to train) and my one-eyed rescue Pekingese (notoriously hard to train) ended up the star pupil by the graduation. :happy:

But seriously... who picks on a one-eyed dog?! :laugh: Someone effed up in the head, that's who.

That reminds me .. I had totally forgetten ... I had a women 'compliment' me once on what I was wearing. I know her, kinda of, through mutual friends. She is kind off the wall a little, I never really knew how to take her, but I convinced myself that she was tryng to be complimentary .. it just kinda came out wrong .. what do you think ....

She says: " Nice outfit, Not everyone could wear THAT colour yellow, but you look great'.

Does THAT sound catty .. or complimentary?

Complimentary.

People read too much into things sometimes a compliment is just a compliment.

Sarcasm can be in the form of a compliment, though too. Sometimes, it's just hard to tell. THAT incident just stood out to me .. It was all in HOW she said it. I don't often have that much trouble reading people. I tend to want to think there is always some level of good in people .. sometimes, a little more than warranted.

LorinaLynn

One thing I always have to remind myself is to never operate under the assumption that the other person is totally sane. :laugh:

Some folks just don't have simple logic or common courtesy, or even the most basic of social skills. If you try to apply "what would I do or say or think" to someone who's totally off the wall bonkers, you'll end totally off the wall bonkers yourself.

After being so bullied in junior high and high school, I took the attitude of "consider the source." If someone was being intentionally mean, that was a reflection on THEM, not on me. I'm not going to get bent out of shape if someone I don't like or respect doesn't like or respect me. If someone who I knew genuinely cared about me said something vaguely insulting, I assumed it was a momentary lapse of reason and/or a slip of the tongue. If someone was a wild card and batpoop crazy... well, there's your answer.

Yellow *is* a hard color to wear. If you rocked it, you rocked it and accept the compliment!

fiberartist219

Is there really that many catty women out there (and even perhaps some men)?

Yes, there are both.

fiberartist219

Also, to respond to the yellow comment, who cares if it is a compliment or a snide remark? Take it how you want to take it. Personally, I'd take it as a compliment, because that's all I am in the mood to hear lately. :laugh:

If anyone has something negative to say about my appearance, I don't really care. I only want to hear it if I have something in my teeth or toilet paper on my shoe. Otherwise, I wear what makes me happy, and I do my best to take care of myself.

SarabellPlus3

Hm. It probably depends on your area? And some, who you hang around with, so who you end up meeting peripherally, to some degree. ?

Generally, I see more accusations of cattiness than I see actual cattiness. FTR, I consider "cattiness" to be mainly one woman (or a group) being mean to another woman (or a group) for mainly jealousy-based reasons. The Real Housewives mentioned earlier are a great example-- if anyone watches BH, Kyle is SO jealous of Brandi she can't see straight, and is being a total jerk to her for that reason alone. Well, some people might say I'm being catty to Kyle, but I would say I'm being realistic. LOL I also don't think /most/ gossip is cattiness, those are separate to me, though both can of course be bad.

Anyway, sometimes people don't like other people, and a lot of times people want to believe that person is jealous, and maybe they just... don't like that person. LOL KWIM? That's reality, not everyone is going to love everyone else. I also run across many women who say things like "I only am friends with men, because women are always catty and mean," and I think they're short-sighted, and/or mean-spirited themselves, or need the attention of it. So that's another angle.

Anyway, here, no. I live in the middle of the country, and 99% of people are super nice. I read things on here that I can't imagine-- rude things people will say to overweight people, that's never been anything I've ever seen. I have friends WAY prettier than me-- I couldn't imagine disliking them for that. LOL If anything, I like them more for the beauty secrets they may offer.

3ur3ka

I seem to attract them. I usually give them the boot though. I hate drama.

SkateboardFi

i've met catty women as well as men, and the one thing they all had in common was their insecurity.

k2quiere

i've met catty women as well as men, and the one thing they all had in common was their insecurity.

^^^THIS