Guys with a lot of female friends public service announcemen

Multistyles
Multistyles Posts: 167
edited October 4 in Chit-Chat
I would just like to defend why a lot of guys have more female friends than guy friends on this site. I know with me it seems like there are way more women on this site than men so that is definitely one reason. Another reason is most dudes don't accept my friendship, I don't know maybe to some guys it's awkward having another his ask to be friend. Now i'm not going to lie and say eye candy isn't a factor but I think that's just human nature and goes for both men and women. Seeing an attractive person can certainly be motivational. The reason I put up this post is because some women look at a guys friends list and just assume they are "collecting" women and I think they should look a little deeper before judging. If the guy is not hitting on you or being disrespectful then he could really be a good supporter/motivator. Tell me what you think i'm open to all opinions on this subject.
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  • darbym7
    darbym7 Posts: 61
    I think youre right. Besides, (not trying to bash guys) women can be a lot more motivating. Guys can push other guys, but women can help make people feel good about themselves. And it doesnt hurt to have the opposite sex as friends in order to make yourself feel sexier, etc.
  • mandeiko
    mandeiko Posts: 1,657 Member
    I don't really have a comment. I'm just here to see what other people say. :)
  • BloomingLily
    BloomingLily Posts: 62 Member
    Good point. Probably one most people haven't thought about.
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    Aww and here I thought you just wanted to look at my boobs. Booo!
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    I usually accept anyone who sends me a friends request and I've only had problems with one guy.

    I know other women who have a lot of issues so I think I'm doing something wrong. :laugh:
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    I'm sure you have a valid point, and if this were a site for dating maybe more women would "look deeper" but considering it's not, I'm sure they don't really feel they're missing out on anything by choosing not to be friends.. Eh.

    ETA: I can totally see how most guys don't accept requests from other guys though.
  • poedunk65
    poedunk65 Posts: 1,336 Member
    you ARE absolutley right on budy. There has to be a 3-1 ratio of women to men on here.
  • Multistyles
    Multistyles Posts: 167
    I think youre right. Besides, (not trying to bash guys) women can be a lot more motivating. Guys can push other guys, but women can help make people feel good about themselves. And it doesnt hurt to have the opposite sex as friends in order to make yourself feel sexier, etc.
    Exactly. And I agree women are definitely better at making other women feel better because y'all are better communicators than we are but we try.
  • sweetie89207
    sweetie89207 Posts: 361
    Aww and here I thought you just wanted to look at my boobs. Booo!

    ROFL hahaha
  • bcampbell54
    bcampbell54 Posts: 932 Member
    The ladies are more supportive. And have better before and after pictures!
  • Multistyles
    Multistyles Posts: 167
    Aww and here I thought you just wanted to look at my boobs. Booo!
    You missed the eye candy part didn't you? Lol
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    Aww and here I thought you just wanted to look at my boobs. Booo!

    dont worry i do..


    but to the op, i agree, for one it seems that there are more females on the site, and i really dont send out requests but i get alot of requests so it could look like i'm collecting but really i'm being collected lol..i think also because women are usually more vocal than men, you will see that in most cases they are the ones comming by chatting being social etc.

    on the other hand i have seen some dudes that are clearly collectors, you can tell because they either always send out requests to chics they think are hot and rarely leave a message, or they make posts like "hot chics add me" etc lol
  • mrsdauer
    mrsdauer Posts: 102
    i'm willing to accept ALL friend requests. I dont look at MFP as a dating site, or a place to find anyone to be more than a friend. im simply on this site to lose my unwanted weight, to get healthy, and to meet new people that can support me, and i can support them.....
    ive always been the girl with more guy friends than girl friends..... but i agree with you.... people usually think you are "doing something" if you have friends of the opposite sex...

    as for me... friends are friends...

    good luck to all of you! :)
  • Multistyles
    Multistyles Posts: 167
    I don't really have a comment. I'm just here to see what other people say. :)
    Ah come on I know you have SOME opinion on this lol
  • WarriorMom2012
    WarriorMom2012 Posts: 621 Member
    I'm just posting in hopes you'll "collect" me...I really do have an amazing *kitten*...just saying!
  • Akahime
    Akahime Posts: 35 Member
    I don't know much about this site but I always had more guy friends than girl friends. I just get along better with them, being one of very few women in my martial arts class I can see why. The guys in my class are awesome for helping/motivating me and not a one of them has hit on me or been disrespectful in any way. I think it's foolish to judge anyone based on their friend lists. Then again, I try not to judge anyone at all.
  • thcri
    thcri Posts: 459 Member
    11 of 34 friends are male. I am here only to motivate and get motivated. I love seeing what others are doing.


    But I don't get a lot of female requests. Most of mine have been that I have asked through other friends. In fact I think only one female has asked me, maybe two. Am I too old??? LOL
  • mandeiko
    mandeiko Posts: 1,657 Member
    I don't really have a comment. I'm just here to see what other people say. :)
    Ah come on I know you have SOME opinion on this lol

    OKAY OKAY. I have guys who add me to just peek at my pictures and who private message me to tell me how boinkalicious they find me, and then I have guys who actually talk to me about diet/fitness. I delete the first, and I much appreciate the latter.

    :drinker:
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I'm just posting in hopes you'll "collect" me...I really do have an amazing *kitten*...just saying!
    between my boobs and her *kitten*...you can't go wrong! but wait...I don't want to be collected. I got "collected" once, then he deleted me.
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
    I'm just posting in hopes you'll "collect" me...I really do have an amazing *kitten*...just saying!

    She does, I'll vouch for it.
  • jennyrebekka
    jennyrebekka Posts: 626 Member
    well, good for you - but i friended you because you are fine........uh oooops, did i say that out loud....?
  • JustEllieK
    JustEllieK Posts: 423 Member
    Haha I don't see a problem with it. Some girls don't accept my friend request. Usually the guys do thou.
  • garlic7girl
    garlic7girl Posts: 2,236 Member
    I have encountered a few men on this site who have been extremely helpful. The communicate in a different fashion but the support is support all the same. I will take it any way I can!
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    I have far more female friends then guys ones on here but that is because I can manage to make someone laugh now and then with my unusual sense of humor.
    Guys are more likely to just not send a request.

    Once that starts,you see posts on your friends walls from others and that is how a list grows.
    I don`t consider myself a collector,do try to interact and have fun with both male and female friends here.
  • k2quiere
    k2quiere Posts: 4,151 Member
    I don't really have a comment. I'm just here to see what other people say. :)
    Ah come on I know you have SOME opinion on this lol

    OKAY OKAY. I have guys who add me to just peek at my pictures and who private message me to tell me how boinkalicious they find me, and then I have guys who actually talk to me about diet/fitness. I delete the first, and I much appreciate the latter.

    :drinker:

    LOL @ boinkalicious!!!
  • glockster972
    glockster972 Posts: 704 Member
    I'm just posting in hopes you'll "collect" me...I really do have an amazing *kitten*...just saying!
    between my boobs and her *kitten*...you can't go wrong! but wait...I don't want to be collected. I got "collected" once, then he deleted me.

    So very true. But I won't collect and delete.
  • Shannon023
    Shannon023 Posts: 14,529 Member
    I don`t consider myself a collector,do try to interact and have fun with both male and female friends here.

    And sometimes you let us out for fresh air and pee breaks! :drinker: :smooched:
  • mandeiko
    mandeiko Posts: 1,657 Member
    I don't really have a comment. I'm just here to see what other people say. :)
    Ah come on I know you have SOME opinion on this lol

    OKAY OKAY. I have guys who add me to just peek at my pictures and who private message me to tell me how boinkalicious they find me, and then I have guys who actually talk to me about diet/fitness. I delete the first, and I much appreciate the latter.

    :drinker:

    LOL @ boinkalicious!!!

    :bigsmile:
  • aliciadjackson
    aliciadjackson Posts: 480 Member
    I have several guy friends and don't recall ever thinking of any of them as being "collectors" . I'm sure some guys are though. If I get a creep vibe from a guy I'll just delete him. Some of my guy friends flirt, some don't, but they've all been great supporters! :)

    I'm betting it's easier for women to add other women than men to add other men, for whatever reason.
  • eyoungone05
    eyoungone05 Posts: 119
    My man I wud have to say that I may not friend a guy BUT straight up and with no HOMO lol (got that from my lil nephew) if u as a guy are doing ur thang then I'll give props ask a couple of questions then keep it pushin but NO HOMO lol (my newphew) but I do have to say that this is the most interesting post on this site.
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