Ugly Secrets - Who Motivates you?

JennaM222

I have an ugly secret. I have a "kind of fried" in my life. She has always been tall and slender. Now with her boob job her father just purchased for her for completing her frist mini triathalon she is freakin Hot. ( daddy issues ) H O T T. I am Jealous. There, I said it. To look better than her ( this will take ALOT of work and maybe 5k lol ) I will have to push BEYOND tough. But that motivates me. For so long she has always been the really attrative, unattainable girl in our group of friends. Most of my friends are all good looking, but body wise we are not tip top shape as she is.

I cannot wait for summer next year when I bust out my bikini and WHAM BAM THANK YOU MAM abs and tight booty.

Disclaimer: I am obviously doing this for myself. ( working out, losing weight, being healthy ) but I think we all have someone in our life who secrectly motivates us wether they know it or not.

Who secretly motivates you in your life?

kimbux

OMG - you are awesome :drinker:

NA_Willie

I'm more interested in hearing about what kind of pops buys their daughter tits?

That's a little, uh, creepy. Wouldn't you say?

eillamarie

All the skinny *****es that live in my city. There's way too many. I used to go to the university gym & they would literally take over the entire cardio section every evening in their tank tops and booty shorts. I hate them. Yet want to be one lol

sunshinestorm

haha this chick at work who has lost about 60 lbs and now she's catching up to me. I began getting jealous of her because she is doing so well and losing weight like crazy, but my weight does not come off as quick as hers and I've been on this journey for years, much longer than she has. I'm having a private competition with her in my mind because I really want to do as great as she's doing. She's cut sugar from her diet m-f, while I haven't done that, I've cut back. I'm letting her motivate me so I don't let these feelings of jealousy take over me. Thanks for sharing your story!

LemonPoppySeedMuffin

I'm more interested in hearing about what kind of pops buys their daughter tits?

That's a little, uh, creepy. Wouldn't you say?

I was thinking the same. Wouldn't the father encourage her to love what she has? I asked my mother before for my 21st, if she'd pay half for me to have a boob job (I actually need one, 30A.. yep ouch!) but she told me not to be so silly.

irunforfun

I hate to be the one to piss in your cheerios this morning, but that's NOT motivation. That's jealousy.

I fully intend on getting surgery to fix my problem areas one day, but I'm certainly NOT jealous of others who have a more slammin' body than I do. I'm happy for them. Embrace and LOVE the body type you have. I did not love mine for the longest time and I've come to accept I'm never going to be a tiny, small boned woman. Love who you are, even if you don't look exactly like her.

JennaM222

I'm more interested in hearing about what kind of pops buys their daughter tits?

That's a little, uh, creepy. Wouldn't you say?

I was thinking the same. Wouldn't the father encourage her to love what she has? I asked my mother before for my 21st, if she'd pay half for me to have a boob job (I actually need one, 30A.. yep ouch!) but she told me not to be so silly.

Oh you know - mom left when they were young and moved to like hollywood and is dating a weirdo wanna be actor. Dad is loaded and the friend is an only child. Very weird situation.

AmberMagdalena

Pretty much anyone with intense will power. I am weak and I am motivated by people with a contagious strong will to succeed.

JennaM222

I hate to be the one to piss in your cheerios this morning, but that's NOT motivation. That's jealousy.

I fully intend on getting surgery to fix my problem areas one day, but I'm certainly NOT jealous of others who have a more slammin' body than I do. I'm happy for them. Embrace and LOVE the body type you have. I did not love mine for the longest time and I've come to accept I'm never going to be a tiny, small boned woman. Love who you are, even if you don't look exactly like her.

I stated above I was jealous of her. ANY WOMEN WOULD BE wether they admit it or not, In my opinion. I dont want to be her, or look exactly like her. I was stating that she motivates me to look better.

GorillaNJ

So where is her pics? LOL

I bet she writes on her message boards that she has this friend JennaMarie who has a gorgeous smile and eyes she would kill to have. Wonder if Daddy's Credit Card can get her that....

Bridget28152723

Besides wanting to get back in shape after having a baby.......which I was a size 6 before....My mother-in-law can be brutally honest she told me "you will never be a size 6 again!" I said wanna bet??? Its how she said it so fierce, and sometimes that motivates me, because I want to prove to her nothing is out of reach if you want it bad enough and work hard enough...I am still working on my goals and have gotten a lot stronger ! Also when my MFP friends on this site "lose weight" it really makes me want to lose too!

irunforfun

I hate to be the one to piss in your cheerios this morning, but that's NOT motivation. That's jealousy.

I fully intend on getting surgery to fix my problem areas one day, but I'm certainly NOT jealous of others who have a more slammin' body than I do. I'm happy for them. Embrace and LOVE the body type you have. I did not love mine for the longest time and I've come to accept I'm never going to be a tiny, small boned woman. Love who you are, even if you don't look exactly like her.

I stated above I was jealous of her. ANY WOMEN WOULD BE wether they admit it or not, In my opinion. I dont want to be her, or look exactly like her. I was stating that she motivates me to look better.

Well, just make sure it's motivation for you and a better lifestyle, and not just to look better than her. I only speak from experience. I used to be jealous of my more attractive friends and it got me no where fast. I finally embraced and loved the fact I'm a kick *kitten* recreational athlete and loved every thing that I am and worked towards a better me, and not a copy of them.

twynzmom

My good friend joined WW probably 10 years ago. She invited me to join her but only after she had been on it a while and had gotten the whole eating thing down pat. I quit and she kept going. And although I saw her quite often, I didn't realize she was losing weight. One day she came over and had on a new and smaller outfit and that is when I found out she had lost 78 pounds. She's kept most of it off for all of these years. I have to admit I was quite jealous of her weight loss and angry because she hadn't trusted me enough to tell me what she was doing and for not doing enough to motivate me. However, that's all behind us now...but I haven't told her what I'm doing either! We live a quite a ways from each other now but once I get 50-75 pounds off, I will make a trip to visit her!

lik_11

My best friend. Throughout most of our life, I've been the "fat one". There have only been 2 (very short) periods that I've been the same size or smaller- and she gets angry when that happens! As she lives several states away, I have not told her I'm losing weight. Every time we talk she complains of getting fatter- and I change the subject. She's gonna be pissed when she sees me- and I can't wait!!! heehee

JennaM222

I hate to be the one to piss in your cheerios this morning, but that's NOT motivation. That's jealousy.

I fully intend on getting surgery to fix my problem areas one day, but I'm certainly NOT jealous of others who have a more slammin' body than I do. I'm happy for them. Embrace and LOVE the body type you have. I did not love mine for the longest time and I've come to accept I'm never going to be a tiny, small boned woman. Love who you are, even if you don't look exactly like her.

I stated above I was jealous of her. ANY WOMEN WOULD BE wether they admit it or not, In my opinion. I dont want to be her, or look exactly like her. I was stating that she motivates me to look better.

Well, just make sure it's motivation for you and a better lifestyle, and not just to look better than her. I only speak from experience. I used to be jealous of my more attractive friends and it got me no where fast. I finally embraced and loved the fact I'm a kick *kitten* recreational athlete and loved every thing that I am and worked towards a better me, and not a copy of them.

I agree!

AdoraK

My current motivation is my high school reunion next year....

What to show all the B--tchs the new hot body next year

and I secretly hope they are all fat and flabby....

:devil:

emsibun

Besides wanting to get back in shape after having a baby.......which I was a size 6 before....My mother-in-law can be brutally honest she told me "you will never be a size 6 again!" I said wanna bet??? Its how she said it so fierce, and sometimes that motivates me, because I want to prove to her nothing is out of reach if you want it bad enough and work hard enough...I am still working on my goals and have gotten a lot stronger ! Also when my MFP friends on this site "lose weight" it really makes me want to lose too!

Your mother in law sounds like a complete cow! What a thing to say to a new mum :grumble: You can definitely do this!

JennaM222

My best friend. Throughout most of our life, I've been the "fat one". There have only been 2 (very short) periods that I've been the same size or smaller- and she gets angry when that happens! As she lives several states away, I have not told her I'm losing weight. Every time we talk she complains of getting fatter- and I change the subject. She's gonna be pissed when she sees me- and I can't wait!!! heehee

muwaha! hehehe!

4thehardman

Nah, this is 2011 ladies. dads buy their kids tits! They might not take them to the consultations, wait while they have it done and then help clean and dress the wounds but the do PAY for it all to be done. Where do you think Paris Hilton got hers? Yeah her Mum might have taken her to the hospital but Daddy bought them!
My husband is taking the opposite approach. We have 4 daughters and after the triplets were born he said ''thats it, 4 girls, Daddy needs to buy himself a shotgun!!!'

LemonPoppySeedMuffin

From your picture, you look gorgeous so I don't see why you'd need to compare yourself with someone else. That's the worst thing to do because you'll never look like her or anyone else because (cliché time), you're unique. You have your own beauty.

andrialindsay

I've definitely been "motivated" by jealousy before. Right now I dont have anyone in mind, but when I first started losing weight I was doing it with my (then) roommate, and it was like this unspoken competition, and it helped us stay on track. Pssh, jealousy may be ugly, but its an emotion EVERYONE has and as long as you keep it healthy and recognize that ultimately you are doing this for you, and dont hurt the relationship you have, then I say, use whatever means you have to stay on track.

mcanavan05

I say stop looking around at those next to you and look in the mirror. Win the day - one day at a time for yourself. Guaranteed to make that idea a lifestyle and only those who do not focus on themself will eventually lose track of 'their goals" - their goals meaning jealously and others (somewhat motivation).

Why use a 'weired situation' as a motivational tool? What happens when one of you move away? God forbid, what happens if there is a problem with the surgery her dad paid for, still motivated then?

fbmandy55

Is it wrong that I just want all the hot guys in the bar to want me and then be able to shoot them down? In the past they won't give me the time of day and MOST of their "effortlessly" skinny female friends are snotty. I just want to show them all up. :laugh:

Dauntlessness

Yeah, it sounds like your competing with her instead of admiring her and using her as "good motivation". You seem like a really nice girl and you don't have to prove anything to anyone but yourself. Snarky comments like "daddy issues" make me think the friendship is not exactly ideal. Maybe its more superficial then you think? I cant stand when people talk about each other like that. It is so disrespectful.

Why exactly do you want to get in shape? Is it for you or for attention?
Honestly, being attractive to men or others is ALL about attitude and confidence. I am not trying to seem conceded or arrogant but I turn more heads then most of these 100 pound girls at my gym and I weight a lot more. I also make people laugh and I have a good personality. You can find a barbie anywhere. Good looks can only take you so far and when you get older and they start to fade, who is going to be there by your side? What kind of friendships will you have? People will be so much more interested in your personality then what your stomach looks like. Trust me on this.

Purpleflipflops

Now, I am doing this for my health and to feel better and everything... BUT... I have always been the 'fat cousin'. I am the shortest, have the least amount of assets, and have always weighed a lot more. And that was okay. My mom was the same way, and It was kinda a joke between us. Then, when my Aunt gained weight, she began talking about how 'we' need to get in shape, and how 'we' don't look attractive... EXCUSE ME? No.
So when I see her again, I want her to notice that we are not a 'we' anymore!

JennaM222

Why is everyone so serious? CRIPES! this is a light hearted post.

LizzieBee17

OMG, Yes! All my friends growing up were petite and thin. I was a stacked size 10. I always thought I was huge because they are who I compared myself to. Now I realize that God blessed me with the shape of violin and not an ironing board. :laugh:

Now just to get back to the 10 or I would be happy with a 12. No boob job required.... well maybe a lift :blushing:

AmberMagdalena

Why is everyone so serious? CRIPES! this is a light hearted post.

LOL Welcome to the MFP message boards!

LizzieBee17

Why is everyone so serious? CRIPES! this is a light hearted post.

Don't worry love. Most of us get it. Unfortunately, everyone is entitled to there opinion no matter how obnoxious it may be. Some people should stop trying to be Dr. Phil.

Dauntlessness

Why is everyone so serious? CRIPES! this is a light hearted post.

Don't worry love. Most of us get it. Unfortunately, everyone is entitled to there opinion no matter how obnoxious it may be. Some people should stop trying to be Dr. Phil.

I am not trying to be Dr. Phil. This is my personality, ask any of my friends. If you post on a forum like this, you should be prepared to get all sorts of opinions and not just the ones you agree with. I didn't sit here and write that response to vent on someone, I did it because I see something deeper turmoil and was trying to help even if it was rough to swallow. I am all about the truth and getting to the root of the issue. If you just sugar coat everything then whats the point? I would rather someone say "Hey, I think this is what is going on" then to say "Great, your doing everything perfectly" even though they see something you may not. I am sorry if you don't like it or think its obnoxious. That's your own issue. It is your choice to not look beyond the surface, that's your right too. I think I "get it" just fine hehe