Partially insulting NSV.

Maryaly40

OMG yes!!! I HATE when people say to me Oh my gosh Mary, how much more do you want to lose? Like losing it in the first place is a "bad thing"! I feel for you. Take it from someone who's been "hearing" this nonsense in the workplace for a few months, "DON'T LET THE NEGATIVE TALK DISCOURAGE YOU!" If you have more to lose and want to keep going, you do it!!!! You are doing this for yourself, not those around you!!! And most of all, be proud of your accomplishments!!!

jenbk2

I had lost 50 lbs years ago. My father said to my mom in front of me " I think Jennifer is sick like her sister". (my sister is anorexic/bulimic). I weighed 140 lbs. I think when people see you a certain weight and then they see how skinny you have become they do think you look sick.

ShapeUpSidney

I posted my pic on facebook after getting down to 169 from 248. I was told I was to thin and that I was taking this thing to far and maybe I was OCD. I thought WOW I didn't know the abreviation for dedication was OCD.

People hate change. I'm willing to bet there are more than a few people out there that keep certain friends around that make them feel better about themselves. I'm sure they were like "Wait, you're supposed to be the fat one. Who's gonna watch my purse while I dance, now!?!?!"

@ssholes.

cramernh

Unfortunately I can understand the eldery in the nursing home thinking that because that is what their generation thought - considering the times they grew up in....

But, as far as people today - tell them nicely the first time "I chose to get healthy for myself"... and if they keep pushing, this is what I told Jttaylor... tell them to go screw...


We probably had our fair share of negativity being heavy, Ill be DAMNED if I have to put up with people telling me 'youre too thin, too skinny" blah blah blah...

Salt n Pepa put it best: ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!

mmocarr

I have the SAME issue I wear scrubs that are way too big and people always seem to have a snide comment about how I look in them.

the other thing i hear a lot of and dislike is "oh it must be nice to have to time to do all that i just don't " Or If I were your age OR didnt have kids OR or or could loose weight too..." People always feel the need to qualify weight loss like you were so lucky and they just aren't the truth is its not luck or having an easier life its about prioritizing and dedication.

Honestly you just have to be proud of yourself and ignore the negativity

edorice

The wealthy used to be fat because they could afford the expensive cuts of meat. The wealthy also suffered from the lazy man's desease called Gout. It is ignorant and/or dated to equate wealth with girth these days. Fitness in the new rich.

kristelpoole

I have the SAME issue I wear scrubs that are way too big and people always seem to have a snide comment about how I look in them.

the other thing i hear a lot of and dislike is "oh it must be nice to have to time to do all that i just don't " Or If I were your age OR didnt have kids OR or or could loose weight too..." People always feel the need to qualify weight loss like you were so lucky and they just aren't the truth is its not luck or having an easier life its about prioritizing and dedication.

Honestly you just have to be proud of yourself and ignore the negativity

UGH SO TRUE - all I hear all the time is excuses, excuses, excuses (all intermixed with complaining about being overweight) - I just want to scream sometimes. We are all working really hard for this!

Hellbent_Heidi

UGH SO TRUE - all I hear all the time is excuses, excuses, excuses (all intermixed with complaining about being overweight) - I just want to scream sometimes. We are all working really hard for this!

You got that right...whenever I get those comments, I tell people that every pound..hell, every ounce...has been hard won and I worked my butt off for it! I'm not going to play it down to help them feel better about being lazy or for stuffing their faces all day....

heathersmilez

Here, scrubs for $20 or less, http://www.dinodirect.com/se-scrubs/currency-CAD.html

They are sold at Walmart and Sears too, also cheap.

crazybigchick

My whole family is southern and deep south southern at that. Seriously they think i am anorexic! (I am far far from it!) hahaha In their minds meat on your bones means you are healthy and eating well.

AnnieFJ

I constantly come across people who question me regarding my weight loss. (Either that or they dont mention it at all). People dont seem to know what to say. Often I think they are just jealous, but after all our hard workand dedication, working towards becoming healthy and fit, I think people should think a bit more about what they are saying.
I have worked in my current job for 10 years, in that time no-one I work with has ever seen me at my 'healthy' weight. They have difficulty with change but to constantly ask if I am 'still' trying to lose weight or 'how much more are you going to lose', could be very psychologically unnerving for someone who is not strong (thankfully not me).
Often I think is just jealously. I feel amazing and to be able to buy fantastic size 10 (UK) clothes, look in the mirror and feel 'normal', and like how I look, in still unbelievable to me.

Please 'be strong and carry on' looking and feeling fantastic and healthy!

Cassycat

HAH!

Sul3i

I posted my pic on facebook after getting down to 169 from 248. I was told I was to thin and that I was taking this thing to far and maybe I was OCD. I thought WOW I didn't know the abreviation for dedication was OCD.

My mouth dropped open when I read this...some people can b soo rude! Amazing job on ur weight loss!

Sul3i

I've had my share of negative comments too..they r just jealous haters..be proud of your progress you look amazin!

Dragongrl

I think its better than getting "when are you due?" When you're not pregnant. Lol

I've got this before. It's not a good feeling.

Dragongrl

When your clothes aren't swollowing you alive I bet you will get more compliments. Forget those rude inconsiderate people.

judkinsjenny

oh bummer, that hurtful. its just cuz they are not used to seeing you thinnner. im sorry your feelings are hurt. maybe since they didnt know you were trying to be healthier (well who would advertise they are on a diet? lol) they are just shocked. sometimes illness is what causes weight loss. but ther are better ways to talk to you about it. im sure you look lovely. xoxo

wjkfloyd

I would try and not take it wrong...they are not used to you at this new weight. My in-laws pretty much said the same thing to me after not seeing me for a few months. They said I needed to gain weight; which, of course, I can easily achieve.

Susanxxxx

I find this totally annoying. I lost nearly 40lbs but i'm still a size 14 (uk size) some 12's fit me, BMI borders on 25. People keep saying 'dont over do it' and ' i think you have lost enough'. Drives me nuts. So in the end i stopped dieting for a while to let them get used to seeing me this weight. Have now started again and not mentioning it to any one. Why cant people just stop being negitive. I was always thought if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all

cpldjski

I am with you. I have lost a total of 65 pounds and work in an office environment. Clothes aren't cheap and I am not at my goal weight so I have put off buying new clothes. People comment all the time. It always starts with, wow you have lost lots of weight and always ends with a crack about my clothes. Keep up the good work!

Babushka_Dolly

Yeah, back handed compliments confuse me!
My friend said "Wow, you look different, you look much prettier today than you usualy do" ... ih thanks

kit_katty

It always amazes me the number of people who can't just compliment someone and leave it at that. Wow you're looking great. Done.

I can't believe so many people have been asked if they're pregnant. Personally I wouldn't ask a darn thing unless I was 100% sure they were pregnant, and that'd probably be when they were like 8.5 months pregnant. Otherwise, I'd keeping my mouth shut. Harder to look like a fool if you don't say anything.

24man

Don't let it get you down. It happens to many people who lose weight. My sister lost 82 lbs and her hubby told her she looks sick and old, some of her friends told her to stop losing that she looked sick. Believe me, she did not. She was about 130 lbs at 5 ' tall. She looked so great. Spectacular and she felt on top of the world. Same happened to another sister. People haven't told me I look sick when I've lost just that they didn't want me to lose anymore. Just go with your realistic goals and don't worry about it. they will get used to the new you

Tangerine302

It's probably mostly the baggy clothes. Once you can get some that fit better it probably won't look as obvious. I used to go to a uniform place when I had to wear them and they were expensive. Now I see Walmart and places like that carry them as well. (Sure now that I don't wear them.) ha

msterlitz

When I lost 60 lbs a few years ago and went from a size 18 (USA) to a size 9/10 (USA). I would constantly be told "you don't need to lose any more weight, you look good how you are" or asked "are you STILL trying to lose weight?" My reply would either be "well, you haven't seen be naked" or "I'm not TRYING to lose weight, I'm just eating healthy and losing weight is the side effect".

wannababyH

Craigslist is a good place to look for new scrubs.

GibsonDarlin

Check out the GOOD WILL, the one in my area has scrubs CHEAP!!! Do you sew? or know someone who can take them in for you?

Keep up the good work!!!

chuluotababe

I own only 3 shirts and 1 pair of pants that are actually my current size. The rest are way too big or baggy.

I went from a size 40 waist and size XL shirts to a size 32 waist and size L shirts.

I hear it all the time.. look at you skinny boy. I hate the word skinny and thin. I would rather hear toned or built. But these over sized clothes look ridiculous. lol

When your clothes fit properly it creates a more attractive overall picture. This is what I have been told anyways.

Someone in my office told me I was looking "trim." I'll take that. It's definitely better than "skinny"... which just sounds negative. When I hear "skinny" I automatically think of 5'11" high fashion runway models who weigh 95lbs.

Oh and just curious if anyone is a Bill Engvall fan?

"Your clothes are getting big. Are you losing weight?"
"No, I let everything out to give me more room so I can easily gain even more weight!"
"Here's your sign!"

LOL

MissFuchsia

I have friend in work who's always giving me backhanded compliments. I don't think she realises she does it. I know she means well but it drives me mad.

rfarinha

Take it with a grain of salt... I like to think of it more along the lines that they like "YOU" and it doesn't matter to them if you are 190 or 148!

On the flip side, I think that there is such a thing as losing too much weight (not that I am implying this to you, as I do not know you), but I have said the same thing to my husband. My husband was doing a lot of Long Distance Cycling a couple of years ago, and trained for and completed the Furnace Creek 508 twice as part of a 2 man team (they take turns over 8 legs of a 508.5 mile race from Santa Clarita, CA to Twenty-Nine Palms, CA. While he was training for this, my husband got down to 130-132 lbs. He is only 5'5", and usually weighed anywhere between 140-150 lbs. I can't tell you how many people would ask me if he was ill, on Chemo, had cancer, etc., when he got down to 132. And to be honest, he did not look healthy. His face was very thin and sallow. I know that I have a hard time thinking that this could EVER be a problem for me, but I think that everyone needs to find what works for them, and if our loved ones comment on us losing too much, that we take a step back and really evaluate if they are saying that to be "nice", or if we need to find a balance.

Good luck!