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45 year old lesbian from MA looking for support network

pokerstar
pokerstar Posts: 17
edited September 2024 in Introduce Yourself
I've got so much weight to lose, it feels daunting--a bit more than half my weight.

I'm depressed and beating myself up that I've gained it all back--again--after having lost substantial amounts TWICE in the past 7 years. I am HATING how I feel both physically and emotionally.

I started again today, but there are difficult situations ALL the time. Tomorrow's my partner's birthday, and we're going out to eat. Thursday night is a dinner out with family, etc.... We never go more than a few days without a social event involving food being involved. I'm doing Medifast and am allowed 1 "lean and green" meal a day, so I SHOULD be able to go out and just have my lean and green. I was able to do it 2 years ago.

I lost 50 lbs 2 years ago with Medifast and then went to Europe for 2 weeks' vacation. I came back and had gained 12 lbs, I think. Given what I ate and drank, it really wasn't bad, and had I gone back to the diet and *stuck* to it, I would have had it off in 2 -3 weeks and been on my merry way. Instead, I partied all summer long with lots of food and lots of alcohol, and the scale has been going up non-stop since then.

I'm here because I need companionship, support, and help--an anonymity. This looks like the place. I've got all but anonymity in my every day life, and I'm grateful for it. But I have this need to be able to say anything without censoring -- and for that, I think some online diet buddies would be a *wonderful* thing. Fingers crossed...

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  • I've got so much weight to lose, it feels daunting--a bit more than half my weight.

    I'm depressed and beating myself up that I've gained it all back--again--after having lost substantial amounts TWICE in the past 7 years. I am HATING how I feel both physically and emotionally.

    I started again today, but there are difficult situations ALL the time. Tomorrow's my partner's birthday, and we're going out to eat. Thursday night is a dinner out with family, etc.... We never go more than a few days without a social event involving food being involved. I'm doing Medifast and am allowed 1 "lean and green" meal a day, so I SHOULD be able to go out and just have my lean and green. I was able to do it 2 years ago.

    I lost 50 lbs 2 years ago with Medifast and then went to Europe for 2 weeks' vacation. I came back and had gained 12 lbs, I think. Given what I ate and drank, it really wasn't bad, and had I gone back to the diet and *stuck* to it, I would have had it off in 2 -3 weeks and been on my merry way. Instead, I partied all summer long with lots of food and lots of alcohol, and the scale has been going up non-stop since then.

    I'm here because I need companionship, support, and help--an anonymity. This looks like the place. I've got all but anonymity in my every day life, and I'm grateful for it. But I have this need to be able to say anything without censoring -- and for that, I think some online diet buddies would be a *wonderful* thing. Fingers crossed...
  • kristie874
    kristie874 Posts: 774 Member
    Welcome! You have a huge support system here! You can do it! I was "off the wagon" for the last month (Holidays...Sheesh!!! What a pain!) and just got back on it today. We're all here to listen to you vent or support you if you need a helping hand! Good luck to you!
  • Cowboy
    Cowboy Posts: 369 Member
    Hey, Welcome. There's a lot of great support here. Just give a holler...someone in here will hear you.
    Good luck!
    Cowboy
  • Eve23
    Eve23 Posts: 2,352 Member
    Welcome.
    You have succeeded before and you can again. Take a deep breath and make some good choices. You have already begun your journey. You can do this.

    Good luck meeting your goals.

    Eve
  • deanea
    deanea Posts: 1,437
    Welcome
  • icandoit
    icandoit Posts: 4,163 Member
    Welcome:flowerforyou:
    You can do it, and we are all here for you:flowerforyou:
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