I need to vent about my ex!!

Gigi_licious

So, now do tell ... why is he your ex?

I can match your story and raise you one, but in the spirit of Halloween, I'll let you have the trump ex story for the day.

Signed me ... one who can breathe more easily and smiles often.

Didn't realize it was a pissing contest.

sjtreely

So, now do tell ... why is he your ex?

I can match your story and raise you one, but in the spirit of Halloween, I'll let you have the trump ex story for the day.

Signed me ... one who can breathe more easily and smiles often.

Didn't realize it was a pissing contest.

That's why I let her have all the "glory."

glockster972

you see the gun in your profile pic?? use it lol

*LMFAO* SO tempting

It wouldn't bother me a bit. I'd be happy to!

Tangerine302

I'm glad his teacher understood the situation. Hope your son has fun at his halloween party!!!

DaniellePF

Gee, I wonder why he's your EX. *eye roll* I'm sorry you and your son deal with that!

Drunkadelic

you see the gun in your profile pic?? use it lol

second!

kennethmgreen

These are the moments I realize how thankful I am to be divorced - sorry if that sounds cruel but his lack of responsibility in life is unbearable. And he has no concept of taking ownership for his mistakes or apologizing - none.

I did talk to the teacher this morning (truth be told w/ tears in my eyes) and explained. She is awesome and said not to worry, it happens and she won't punish Leland for it since this was clearly not his fault. Thank goodness. It's their Halloween party at school today and he's SO excited about it.

Ouch. That does suck. Glad you were able to talk to the teacher.

Sounds like maybe you are adjusting to not being able to count on your ex as a responsible adult. That's hard to do emotionally, but getting there logistically isn't impossible. You're already doing it (backup costume, for example). It may mean more work, bigger hassle for you. But the payoff may ultimately be less emotional stress.

AlsDonkBoxSquat

what an as$hat. he needs to be taught a lesson or two . . .

bry_all01

no bueno at all. Baby daddies are often times not easy to deal with. I'm sorry yours proves that point....

odusgolp

Thanks y'all! This day will get better, my son will have fun. And that is all the matters in the end is that he has a good Halloween and is none-the-wiser about any of this.

I have to find a way of talking to the ex about this and finding out why he has been so unable to keep a routine lately... But not today.

sunkisses

Ooooh I have an ex like that! Does yours expect your small child to make the move and call HIM? That's one of my favorites.

TheRoadDog

You ever notice how on those daytime talk shows that the first guest is justified and the object of the episode (baby daddy, cheating ex, whatever) who is brought out afterwards is naturally assumed to be the bad guy by the audience.

There are three sides to every story. Yours, his and the cold hard truth. I have no idea who is the most culpable in your tale and I am offering only this advice.

You guys chose each other once upon a time and had a child together. No matter who you go to for advice or how many people you tell this story to, the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

sandrinamsilva

:frown: Poor Kid...I'm not a mom yet but at 5 do they need to know how to plan for their day?

odusgolp

What an *kitten*. Glad to hear he's an ex ... they get that title for a reason, don't they?! I'm soooo sorry.

Love you, sista

odusgolp

You ever notice how on those daytime talk shows that the first guest is justified and the object of the episode (baby daddy, cheating ex, whatever) who is brought out afterwards is naturally assumed to be the bad guy by the audience.

There are three sides to every story. Yours, his and the cold hard truth. I have no idea who is the most culpable in your tale and I am offering only this advice.

You guys chose each other once upon a time and had a child together. No matter who you go to for advice or how many people you tell this story to, the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

This is what upsets me about your and your posts to my comments - because this isn't the first time....

1. You insinuate I would tell my child any of this
2. You insinuate I'm lying
3. You insinuate I'm not acting like an adult
4. You repeatedly come across as having a holier than thou attitude - yet post things asking who has had an affair to state that you'd never cheat and have never cheated on your wife of 20+ years. Is it fair to then assume you're also lying as there's two other sides to that story? If I recall, you were once divorced, and have discussed it... You do not know anything about my divorce, but yet don't ask valid questions instead you have continually made assumptions. That is what I don't understand.

Coming to an anonymous message board to vent my frustrations, could actually be seen as a respectable way of releasing tension. You don't need to view it that way, but that's how I have chosen to deal with this stress.

So, in the spirit of honesty, I am telling you in a straight non-snarky manner, why I have a problem communicating with you. Take it as you will. It is a public message board and I respect everyone's right to respond as they wish.... And in that same spirit, this is my response to you.

TheGlen

Ooooh I have an ex like that! Does yours expect your small child to make the move and call HIM? That's one of my favorites.

My step Son was at his regular bi-weekly weekend visit at his Dad's house, and his step Mom wrote down their phone number and asked him to call on his Dad's birthday. Seems innocent enough, except the guy never calls on our Son's birthday, Christmas or any other holiday (or any other day, even just to say, "hi, how was your day"...he doesn't even return emails!!!). It really ticked me off.

...the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

I couldn't agree with this more. My ex and I don't always see eye to eye, but we try to keep it away from our daughter and present a unified front when we are addressing anything with our daughter. I always think about something I read when we were first trying to figure things out after our split... "every child has the right to believe that BOTH of their parents are superheros". No matter how things go, or how bad my opinion of my ex might get, I will always defend her in front of our daughter and do my best to accentuate her better qualities.

Brandicaloriecountess

I'm sorry! I have more Ex issues than Reader's Digest so I feel your pain.

Froggy1976

You ever notice how on those daytime talk shows that the first guest is justified and the object of the episode (baby daddy, cheating ex, whatever) who is brought out afterwards is naturally assumed to be the bad guy by the audience.

There are three sides to every story. Yours, his and the cold hard truth. I have no idea who is the most culpable in your tale and I am offering only this advice.

You guys chose each other once upon a time and had a child together. No matter who you go to for advice or how many people you tell this story to, the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

You know what happens when you assume?

evil_rider

your ex is a douche bag.

odusgolp

You know what happens when you assume?

You get pregnant. Every Dang Time!

;-)

Shanna_Inc86

1. He's an @ss and even more of an @ss for trying to blame a FIVE YEAR OLD for lack of back pack, homework and costume. I wouldn't expect my daughter to remember that...its Halloween weekend...kids are NOT thinking of other things and don't at that age anyways. To not even call the school is beyond me...d!ck move

2. You can't talk about this to your kid, probably don't want to post on Facebook, so here is your outlet to vent and feel better. I think you're handling it the best way you can!

Best of luck with everything doll!!

kykykenna

****head. Good decision to make him your ex.....

BINGO!!!

Froggy1976

You know what happens when you assume?

You get pregnant. Every Dang Time!

;-)

forgot the quote....fixed it.

BeeElMarvin

You ever notice how on those daytime talk shows that the first guest is justified and the object of the episode (baby daddy, cheating ex, whatever) who is brought out afterwards is naturally assumed to be the bad guy by the audience.

There are three sides to every story. Yours, his and the cold hard truth. I have no idea who is the most culpable in your tale and I am offering only this advice.

You guys chose each other once upon a time and had a child together. No matter who you go to for advice or how many people you tell this story to, the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

This is what upsets me about your and your posts to my comments - because this isn't the first time....

1. You insinuate I would tell my child any of this
2. You insinuate I'm lying
3. You insinuate I'm not acting like an adult
4. You repeatedly come across as having a holier than thou attitude - yet post things asking who has had an affair to state that you'd never cheat and have never cheated on your wife of 20+ years. Is it fair to then assume you're also lying as there's two other sides to that story? If I recall, you were once divorced, and have discussed it... You do not know anything about my divorce, but yet don't ask valid questions instead you have continually made assumptions. That is what I don't understand.

Coming to an anonymous message board to vent my frustrations, could actually be seen as a respectable way of releasing tension. You don't need to view it that way, but that's how I have chosen to deal with this stress.

So, in the spirit of honesty, I am telling you in a straight non-snarky manner, why I have a problem communicating with you. Take it as you will. It is a public message board and I respect everyone's right to respond as they wish.... And in that same spirit, this is my response to you.

BRAVO! *Standing ovation*

damonmath

Want us to kick his *kitten*?

I'm down for beat down

sjohnny

The ex shows up for Trick or Treating without our sons costume... BUT, he has his own costume that he's spent hours on...

This really struck a chord with me. He forgets the kid's costume (who is the only one who should REALLY be trick or treating) but remembers his own costume on which he spent hours....... he's supposed to be a grown as$ man and he makes his costume a priority over the child's costume. That's fcking awesome.

He sounds like he needs a good asswhoopin.

Iamfit4life

You ever notice how on those daytime talk shows that the first guest is justified and the object of the episode (baby daddy, cheating ex, whatever) who is brought out afterwards is naturally assumed to be the bad guy by the audience.

There are three sides to every story. Yours, his and the cold hard truth. I have no idea who is the most culpable in your tale and I am offering only this advice.

You guys chose each other once upon a time and had a child together. No matter who you go to for advice or how many people you tell this story to, the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

This is what upsets me about your and your posts to my comments - because this isn't the first time....

1. You insinuate I would tell my child any of this
2. You insinuate I'm lying
3. You insinuate I'm not acting like an adult
4. You repeatedly come across as having a holier than thou attitude - yet post things asking who has had an affair to state that you'd never cheat and have never cheated on your wife of 20+ years. Is it fair to then assume you're also lying as there's two other sides to that story? If I recall, you were once divorced, and have discussed it... You do not know anything about my divorce, but yet don't ask valid questions instead you have continually made assumptions. That is what I don't understand.

Coming to an anonymous message board to vent my frustrations, could actually be seen as a respectable way of releasing tension. You don't need to view it that way, but that's how I have chosen to deal with this stress.

So, in the spirit of honesty, I am telling you in a straight non-snarky manner, why I have a problem communicating with you. Take it as you will. It is a public message board and I respect everyone's right to respond as they wish.... And in that same spirit, this is my response to you.

BRAVO! *Standing ovation*

Agreed
much kinder than my reaction would have been

TheRoadDog

You ever notice how on those daytime talk shows that the first guest is justified and the object of the episode (baby daddy, cheating ex, whatever) who is brought out afterwards is naturally assumed to be the bad guy by the audience.

There are three sides to every story. Yours, his and the cold hard truth. I have no idea who is the most culpable in your tale and I am offering only this advice.

You guys chose each other once upon a time and had a child together. No matter who you go to for advice or how many people you tell this story to, the one person that never needs to hear it is your child.

You two need to get on the same page, act like adults and do what is best for your child.

This is what upsets me about your and your posts to my comments - because this isn't the first time....

1. You insinuate I would tell my child any of this
2. You insinuate I'm lying
3. You insinuate I'm not acting like an adult
4. You repeatedly come across as having a holier than thou attitude - yet post things asking who has had an affair to state that you'd never cheat and have never cheated on your wife of 20+ years. Is it fair to then assume you're also lying as there's two other sides to that story? If I recall, you were once divorced, and have discussed it... You do not know anything about my divorce, but yet don't ask valid questions instead you have continually made assumptions. That is what I don't understand.

Coming to an anonymous message board to vent my frustrations, could actually be seen as a respectable way of releasing tension. You don't need to view it that way, but that's how I have chosen to deal with this stress.

So, in the spirit of honesty, I am telling you in a straight non-snarky manner, why I have a problem communicating with you. Take it as you will. It is a public message board and I respect everyone's right to respond as they wish.... And in that same spirit, this is my response to you.

BRAVO! *Standing ovation*

Agreed
much kinder than my reaction would have been

First of all, to Odusglup, I want to apologise. I was not trying to insinuate any of the things you thought I was insinuating. I take the beating for not articulating myself better. I had a similar situation many years ago and was trying to point out some of the things that we did wrong so that you might possibly avoid them yourself. I should have conveyed that in a private message. Again, I apologise, I was in no way suggesting that you were doing any of the things I was advising against.

As for the rest of you that stood up for her. Bravo. You should stand up for your friends. I apologise to you as well. There will be no need to administer an "*kitten*-whoopin" or a "beat down" , but if you feel that is the only way to defend her honor, feel free to send me a message for directions and I will give you the opportunity.

EricNCSU

Judging from your profile picture he is lucky he is your ex-husband and not your "late" husband. But that my friend is why is your EX husband.

I think your anger in this case is justified. I can agree with part of your story, since my wife walked out on me recently for her own selfishness but thankfully we did not have any kids.

dandrews010

Road Dog - To be fair mate I don't think your original post was that bad. People always jump on the over reaction bandwagon.