help! i'v lost my drive

mumof5

I've been doing really well for the last mth or so, i've lost about 3kg and have been exercising on a regular basis. My farmer husband has been really busy latley and we rarley see him, so its just me and the 5 kids. i'm tired, i want chocolate, a big bowl of pasta, someone else to pack the school lunches, something for my headache and a big glass of wine! I have already had 2 bread rolls with butter this afternoon because i cant find any chocolate or wine in the house! Didn't go to the gym today. i just feel like giving up. Right now fat looks like a happier option.

billingsgaye

Oh thats sounds terrible but dont give up you'll feel worse. It is tough when you've learnt to use food as a comfort but its a false comfort. I have the same behaviour so understand. Its great that you are expressing your feelings, better than food. Good luck getting back on track, I am sure you can do it.:flowerforyou:

helenmelon29

Dont give up, think of all the reasons you are doing it and you MUST keep going.

Go for a walk / play with the kids, anything to take your mind off eating.

Good Luck , Im sure you can do it. x

goodasgoldilox165

Hang in there - this feeling will pass! It sounds as if you need some serious (non-food) comfort and some time for yourself! Do you have any special (non-food) pass-times? At times like this I like to escape for a while into a good film or book... possibly with a (low-cal) hot choc (though a teaspoon of something alcoholic in this does make it even m ore of a relaxing treat and really helps banish a stress headache!) Phoning friends is good too - catching up on things is wonderfully distracting and a chat is so cheering. When alone, knitting helps keep my hands busy and motivates me to keep them away from sticky/buttery things) Planning for the future (a holiday/ an outfit for your slim self) can help. So can thinking of a good intention plan for the gym etc. - starting tomorrow. Motivation for the long term is difficult - everyone finds it a struggle at times. Just keep in m ind that this is a 'blip' and your determination is still there. You will feel strong again soon.

fdgetter

Keep going! I find solace in long walks while listening to Christian/Gospel music. Don't let temporary setbacks stop you! You are in control! Great job thus far!

emergencytennis

Three kilos in a month is brilliant, especially considering your workload. I havent got any advice really, sorry, just wanted to acknowledge your progress and to say that I also know the absent partner school lunch so tired omg wheres the wine moment well.

mirgss

I think everyone has those days. And it's okay to indulge in those feelings sometimes (I had 2 glasses of wine myself last night). Just make sure that those moments and those feelings don't rule your life. You don't have to deprive yourself of everything - why not get a bit of dark chocolate and treat yourself to a little bit? It won't ruin your day.

Or you can even take a whole day to relax (in moderation) - then the next day you can get back on the wagon. It's impossible to be perfect 100% of the time!

Hang in there...hopefully you can get some time for yourself soon!

RaeannePemberton

all things in moderation.... including DIET! hang in there. you can do this..... be kind to yourself... take a bubble bath. :-)

mumof5

Thanks everyone, some great advise. i am feeling much beter today, and back on track, i was overwhelmed by the resopnse i got, i thought i was just being a winge and everyone would treat it as such. thanks heaps: