does it bother anyone else...

cassiejoyy

When people comment on someone's food diary telling them they did such a great job, but then you look at it, and they didn't even eat 1000 calories that day? & on the message boards everyone is always like YOU HAVE TO EAT AT LEAST 1200 calories!!!!!

I don't know. Just kind of bothers me.

lstnlondry

Yes, and were you reading my mind?

Leslietheriot

What bothers me is when some one has their food journal private and they finish logging for the day and it says they are under their calories for the day and people say good job. How do you know they ate healthy? I could have had one donut and a coke for the day and been under my calories!

kir911

yes it does!! lol One of my biggest pet peeves in fact! Just because someone is under their calorie goal is not necessarily always a good thing if what they are eating is not condusive to a healthy lifestyle....quality is as important as quantity!

JaredBergeron

I could see that point, but also see the perspective that many here are here for the support. They took the time to focus on their goals and I dont have an issue giving an atta-boy for that at all! People are trying different things we may not always agree important to keep motivating each other...

TDGee

You know what really bothers me? Mosquitoes.

TDGee

You know what really bothers me? And flies.

ETA flies.

AggieLu

I agree and that's probably because those commenting don't look at the diaries. They just want to comment. I read each and every diary of my friends before I comment.

SergeantSunshine_reused

What bothers me is when some one has their food journal private and they finish logging for the day and it says they are under their calories for the day and people say good job. How do you know they ate healthy? I could have had one donut and a coke for the day and been under my calories!

Just because someone has their diary closed doesn't mean that they don't deserve congratulatory comments though.
I don't think everyone here has to eat healthy foods, that's a personal choice IMO I congratulate my friends who eat junk food, at least they are trying!

Brooke1542

I usually say something positive to my friends that complete their jounal, for the simple fact that they are actually logging and to just be supportive.

austepants

Yep it really bugs me!!! I also don't comment on people that don't share their diary with me. Like someone said they could have had a coke and a donut and been under their calories. I comment on posts where the person has eaten at least 1200 calories minimum and had a good day. I also help motivate people when I see they had fast food or something on the unhealthy side (as long as it isn't every day) and I will let them know they did great by logging it and being honest. A lot of times that is hard to do!

Clever_Girl

I'm very much bothered by Ticks

Debbe2

Hi, yes it does bother me however some people on MFP have situations we may know nothing about and need to be flexible before assuming the worst about them and why they may be consuming lesser calories. For example weight loss surgery patients and people following medical instructions from physicians. So unless someone is eating completely unhealthy and behaving in an unstable or unhealthy way I assume they know what they are doing and will choose to remain supportive.

JaredBergeron

You know what really bothers me? And flies.

ETA flies.

LOL yea...and that guy that bathed in cologne, but forgot deodorant before he jumped on the treadmill...odd and unpleasant experience

judith3

Yea it bother me theres a pretty young girl as one of my friends who has lost almost 70lbs in less than 5 months and ive never seen her diary over 800 calories consumed theres alot of ppl who congratulate her for it but it worries me and some of her other friends who post comments like "looks like you had a better day dont forget to add a banana or an omlett in the morning itll help bring up your daily calories"

JaredBergeron

I usually say something positive to my friends that complete their jounal, for the simple fact that they are actually logging and to just be supportive.

Agreed, maybe I feel that way because I am not disciplined enough to track much less log my food. More power to those that do! If I deviate from my diet, its to the gym i go to atone for my sins lol

rm830

It doesn't bother me...to each their own and I think people feel better when they didn't go over their calories, I know I do. I may not eat the healthiest all the time but I am holding myself accountable, which is why my diary is closed. I don't like people knowing EVERY little thing about what I am doing, but I love the encouragement I get and can give to anyone on MFP. We're all here because we're trying to be healthier...and granted some people may not be eating enough or eating the right things...they're still trying and we need to support and help each other.

Ebbykins

I like cereal. That is all.

kir911

I totally agree that some people are doing great by just being on here, logging their food and being more accountable then they used to be. Very true! In some cases what they are eating may not be the best choices, but, in the grand scheme of things it may be way better than the choices they used to make. I just try to offer some suggestions and help to those people, and hope they are interested in hearing it out!

chevy88grl

What bothers me is when some one has their food journal private and they finish logging for the day and it says they are under their calories for the day and people say good job. How do you know they ate healthy? I could have had one donut and a coke for the day and been under my calories!

Just because someone has their diary closed doesn't mean that they don't deserve congratulatory comments though.
I don't think everyone here has to eat healthy foods, that's a personal choice IMO I congratulate my friends who eat junk food, at least they are trying!

I eat my fair share of "treats" but I also eat healthy foods. I stay under my calorie goal and that's what is important (and works) for me. My diary is private because I find most people to be too judgmental about what other people choose to put in THEIR bodies.

So. I say congrats if you are under your calorie goal for the day - if you ate McDonald's and drank pop, but stayed under... to each their own I say!

shawnscott5

I feel the best that I can do is to help people and educate them. I even encourage the ones I see who have an eating disorder and I encourage them to eat more and to eat healthy. I usually do it in a PM as to not embarrass them. If only one person listens, then that was a life that was saved. We can't make decisions for others, but we can help lead them in the right direction.

healthyliving_girl

I have to admit that I never looked at many people's diaries. I was just happy to be supportive and say, "Good job" when they logged in their calories for the day. But recently, I looked at a couple diaries and was surprised to find some aren't eating the recommended MINIMUM 1200 calorie goal.

To me, that's insane.....and I'd be a starving, crazy lunatic screaming at everyone here. But I'm not here to judge. I just don't look...because to be honest, I don't think my telling them that's wrong will help. Studies have proven that slow is better...and eating well is a part of it.

It's scary though...when I realize how many people are eating so little...or so poorly.

YogiGirlLucy

If one of my friends ate really healthy, but were under calorie goal, I would still say good job for making good food choices. If they ate processed foods or fast food, or something else bad, I probably wouldn't comment, or would comment on something else instead, just because I wouldn't encourage unhealthy eating. I might send a PM if the relationship supported it and I was concerned. I don't think I would expend the energy to be bothered by it though. Lots of other things to think about, and more positive things to focus on!

It's not that easy for everyone to get up to their goal. I have no problem with it the week before TOM, but definitely struggle with it at other times. I still appreciate the support of my friends, and believe I am worthy of it. I would be very sad if no one ever commented just because I was under, despite trying my best to eat well.

Lucy

LighterEachDay

This is why I choose not to have friends on MFP. If you keep your diary private, people judge you. If you share it, people judge you. I get enough of that out in the world without having to deal with it on a weight loss website.

I have a male friend, over 6 feet tall, who went from over 505 pounds to 230 pounds in less than 18 months, eating 1500 or less calories a day and NOT eating back his workout calories. Three years later, the weight is still off and he's never felt better. He mentioned once that it was really interesting how his physicians were nothing but supportive and enthusiastic about his success (even to the point of asking him to speak to other patients), but how often strangers would try to tell him "for his own good" that he was eating too few calories, not eating enough vegetables, basically not doing it "right".

bexdc

If people want to make their food diaries private -- that is fine -- that is their prerogative. I just try to be as supportive as I can.

MîîśÊmÿłõü

i agree and disagree. like for instance i was under my calorie goal yesterday, but i ate 3 solid meals , that were just low in calories, i was told im starving myself when that simple isnt true so i mean if you only ate one thing and you were under then yeh you could say that but if someone was just binging to get their daily average done

Kslice39

What bothers me is when some one has their food journal private and they finish logging for the day and it says they are under their calories for the day and people say good job.

I honestly didn't know they could be set to private. How do you know if food journal is private or not? And if it is private how do you change it???

LighterEachDay

Up at the top where it says "settings"... you can change settings for lots of things. And to make your blog private, click on "preferences" on your blog.

cassiejoyy

Its more so that the same people who tell people that they did a great job, and they didn't even eat 1000 or even 800 calories that day are the same ones who when people ask about how many calories they should eat they really push the at least 1200 calories a day thing. It doesn't bother me that people eat less then that.

BigDaddyBRC

When people comment on someone's food diary telling them they did such a great job, but then you look at it, and they didn't even eat 1000 calories that day? & on the message boards everyone is always like YOU HAVE TO EAT AT LEAST 1200 calories!!!!!

I don't know. Just kind of bothers me.

Um....everyone is differnent and open to try whatever means they wish. What makes you so omnipotent that you KNOW 1200 is the MAGIC number? Everyone's body is different. Maybe they need 1800 or 800.

If they are eating healthy choices and the intake is not high, yet their chemistry is good...then I say STFU. You are not a doc. You are not omnipotent. You are YOU. And that is not the AVERAGE.

All things said...if its not healthy choices, then maybe they have an issue. But until you post that PHD...again, I say..STFU

cassiejoyy

You can make it private, public, just friends, or you can make it have a password.
Mine has a password on it, but if someone asked me for it, I give it to them.
I just like to be in control of who can see it.