Burn It Off And Keep It Off: The 7 Biggest Weight Relapse Mi

ccbennett2000

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bethmillerwilson

Thanks you! I have a tendency toward a number of these relapse flaws in thinking. I can now move forward realizing that I can think myself past a couple of these trains of thought. I will need to reread this every once in a while to remember how not to allow my train of thought to derail me.

Josie_lifting_cats

Relapse mistake #6: Perpetual dissatisfaction with body weight and shape.

Relapsers express great dissatisfaction with their new body weight and body shape, even when they’ve made huge strides in progress. They tend to make comparisons of themselves to others and when taken to an extreme, this turns into perfectionism where no achievement ever seems good enough. Relapsers also tend to make judgments about themselves as a person based on strictly on their physical attributes. The pursuit of constant improvement is clearly a virtue. Some of the healthiest and fittest people in the world credit their success to never becoming complacent and always striving for better results. This seems to be in conflict with body dissatisfaction as a cause of relapse. We can reconcile this paradox by understanding that you can strive for continuous improvement while also liking yourself at every step along the way — it’s not one or the other.
It’s also important to get very clear about how far you want to take your physical development and how much time and effort you’re willing to invest. Not everyone wants or needs the washboard abs of a Men’s Health cover model or the body shape of a figure model. Use 80-20 thinking here. Suppose you can get 80% of the way to what you consider your physical ideal with a fairly modest investment of time and effort. To capture the next 15% takes more time and serious hard work, and the final 5% takes a monumental full time effort. How far to you want to go and how much are you willing to pay?

This is me. I'll admit it. And I do believe a lot of us struggle with this. I'm finding now that I have to find a balance between what I wish my body was and what I want my lifestyle to be. I don't want to fear going to DQ or Taco Bell. If we are having a BBQ, I don't want to obsess for days beforehand about keeping my calories low and days after about how "bad" I was that day. When I finally decided that I was okay with not being stick thin, not being super ripped, and not having the perfect body in exchange for still enjoying wine a couple times a week, the goals relaxed. Healthy BMI = happiness. I'm there. I'm not going to quit biking or building strength any time soon - just like I'm not going to skip a dirty greasy burger date night at the bar with my husband. And THAT is something I can be happy with.

Flissbo

thank you, will read this again when I have an off day

feydruss

bump so I can read fully later! thanks for posting it!

Luckybarc

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