Shy and awkward.

deadmittens

Has anyone LOST confidence with their weight loss? Most people seem to think that you get all this confidence when you shed lbs, but I seem to have lost a little bit of mine. Now that I don't have my 300+lb body to hide behind people actually want to TALK to me and I find myself not knowing what to say.

Has anyone else found themselves feeling shy and awkward with their weight loss?

koosdel

Why are your mittens dead?

Puffins1958

Sounds like you might have self esteem issues. I always HID behind my weight. But I never had a problem talking to people. Try to be more outgoing, take COMPLIMENTS. You will find yourself smiling for NO reason. That's always a GREAT thing.



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Gigi_licious

Why are your mittens dead?

Maybe they were on the hcg.

MisterDubs303

You're scaring the bejeezus out of me. Seriously, though, someone posted this topic two days ago and it seems to be a theme for some people. I think I am more confident in some ways, but the reality is that I was insecure long before I was overweight. To think that my weight loss will magically remove those insecurities might be asking a lot. I expect that as I progress, get out there more socially, etc. I'll have to unpack some issues that I have stored away over time. It's going to be uncomfortable, but probably well worth it. Had I taken care of them earlier, perhaps I wouldn't have built a wall of fat around myself to begin with. Who knows?

inatay7

100%- definitely.... you get more attention. I often get annoyed by it and down cos it contributes to my thoughts that the world is vain..... wasnt i worth talking to before?!

Qarol

Was deadkittens already taken?

AI1108

Just say the first thing that comes to your mind... ok ok yeah think about what you say but seriously i've learned there's no point being shy. I was really shy as a child even though I was "tiny." If you wanna say whats on your mind just go for it. You'll find that a lot of people are like this but the ones you want to talk to will usually talk back. For most people being a conversationalist takes trial and error... btw its fun being awkward :-P

koosdel

Just say the first thing that comes to your mind... ok ok yeah think about what you say but seriously i've learned there's no point being shy. I was really shy as a child even though I was "tiny." If you wanna say whats on your mind just go for it. You'll find that a lot of people are like this but the ones you want to talk to will usually talk back. For most people being a conversationalist takes trial and error... btw its fun being awkward :-P

I've found greater success if I say the exact opposite of the first thing that comes to mind.

Shanna_Inc86

You're scaring the bejeezus out of me. Seriously, though, someone posted this topic two days ago and it seems to be a theme for some people. I think I am more confident in some ways, but the reality is that I was insecure long before I was overweight. To think that my weight loss will magically remove those insecurities might be asking a lot. I expect that as I progress, get out there more socially, etc. I'll have to unpack some issues that I have stored away over time. It's going to be uncomfortable, but probably well worth it. Had I taken care of them earlier, perhaps I wouldn't have built a wall of fat around myself to begin with. Who knows?

I posted something similar heh
Yes, I've experienced the same thing...
When I was chubbier I could joke with ppl & men more specifically bc I knew they wouldn't take me seriously or think I was hitting on them...now however...its taken differently.
Extra attention makes me uncomfortable...I still see the chubby girl, I see the mom with deflated tits & those horrid stretch marks...def don't see anything too special.
Plus, now I have some family members who comment bout my boney chest or that my head looks too big for my body...blah blah blah

It's a work in progress that a lot of ppl go through

You're beautiful & things will get better!

dreamwithopeneyes

yeah, im the same. I dont know how to handle people actually noticing me and being nice to me.

AI1108

Just say the first thing that comes to your mind... ok ok yeah think about what you say but seriously i've learned there's no point being shy. I was really shy as a child even though I was "tiny." If you wanna say whats on your mind just go for it. You'll find that a lot of people are like this but the ones you want to talk to will usually talk back. For most people being a conversationalist takes trial and error... btw its fun being awkward :-P

I've found greater success if I say the exact opposite of the first thing that comes to mind.

Lol ok I agree yeah you should think about it before it comes out; but the reason shy people are shy is not because there isn't anything they want to say its because they overanalyze what they want to say. If they never come out and say what's on their mind, they'll never know if a worthwhile conversation would have started from it. I meant trial and error with figuring out what they'd like to filter or not. It's okay to go with your gut and let people know exactly what's on your mind.