Help needed

mumster63

I have a new boyfriend and he LOVES to cook which is becoming a challenge for me to follow MFP.
I've tried saying no and taking smaller portions to no avail.
How do I stay on track without shutting down his 'foodie' tendancies?

missle30

Maybe asking him to be supportive of your goals and cook things that are healthy. He can still go nuts cooking, and do it in a very healthy way.

juliapurpletoes

teach him what your needs are (calorically) and challenge him to cook towards those. Just because he is a foodie doesn't give him the okay to just cook whatever he wants....ya know, he's got to work towards a goal....guys like that! At least mine would

peteb79

Try again with smaller portions. Otherwise you can exercise more to earn more calories. You could also try eating smaller meals for breakfast and lunch to have more calories for dinner, that is what usually works for me.

p1xelate

This is how I gained my wieght. . . I was down within 10 lbs of my current goal when we started dating! I finally had to explain that I can't eat the portions that he wanted to feed me and that he shouldn't get offended if I don't clean my plate. Still had to struggle until he realized he had a few to shed himself and now we are working together. . . most of the time LOL

jeannec3631

menu ahead of time? to plan out ur day...
but truthfully, if he really cares he will include your goals in his cooking.
maybe cook together & bring in ur healthy additions. google alternative recipes for the same meal & try it a different way next time....

skinnymeinaz

Find some healthy recipes and tell him that they sound yummy, offer to cook with him, etc...

kathydp

Pick something under 250 for him to cook.....

amyoliver85

Agreed missle30. If your new boyfriend wants to stick around and be a part of your life, he has to be supportive of what you're doing for yourself!!!

I knew my husband was the one when I told him that I wanted to lose 62 pounds and he said, "Okay. What do we need to do? What can I do?"

alexisdc

Sounds like you may need to have a open, real conversation about what your striving for regarding getting healthy. There are many things that he could make or incorporate into meals that fit into your mfp plan. I think letting him know will help him in thinking of things and even getting creative in meals he prepares for the two of you. Also, eating smaller portions is good when its something calorie loaded. I think he really needs to know how important it it to you about living a healthy lifestyle and how can he be supportive in that.

melelana

I agree. I think you just need to communicate your needs with him.

I LOVE to cook, and I was upset to the point of tears when I found out I had some 25 pounds to lose. But it's a really fun challenge to try to cook something delicious AND healthy! Let your boyfriend know that you need healthier meals, and help him to understand what that means. It might sound self-explanitory, but for people who don't count calories, it isn't so clear (My boyfriend got me a sandwich from the deli because he knew I was dieting... 600 calories! I broke it down for him: mayonaise, bread, meat... it all adds up! Non-dieters don't think about this.)

Go shopping with him... buy lots of veggies, low calorie versions of what he already loves... etc!

Also, try planting the seed of calorie counting by sort of making a game out of it. Ex: When going out to eat, say "Wow! Remember how I said that donut was about 200 calories? Guess how many donuts calories would equal ONE eggs benedict?" I do this with my boyfriend all the time. It's fun, and it gets him thinking... he says "Oh yeah! There's heavy cream... ham... bread..." He starts thinking in caloric values the way I do.

Kabula

I have a new boyfriend and he LOVES to cook which is becoming a challenge for me to follow MFP.
I've tried saying no and taking smaller portions to no avail.
How do I stay on track without shutting down his 'foodie' tendancies?

We'll you can be totally honest with him and tell him you are trying to lose some weight to be healthier, to look and feel better; if he is supportive of that; he will cook for you but healthier things! You have to lay the cards on the table he might not be totally aware that you are trying to watch your weight!