Feeling helpless.

auntdeedee87

My boyfriend had a rough night on Friday. For starters, he isn't from NC originally-- he moved for his job about 5 months ago. He is 12 hours away from his family.

To add to it, he got a call that the Dad of one of his best friend's died very suddenly Friday night. He was so upset and angry at the world-- I know it is killing him that he cannot be there for his friend at the service and the viewing.

I see how deeply it affects him and I don't know what to do.

I don't expect anyone to be able to help, I just needed to vent more than anything.

I suggested he fly home but with his work schedule it just wouldn't work out. The service was today and I want to mention it-- I don't see him sunday night-wednesday afternoon because of MY work schedule-- but I don't wanna just call up and ask how he's doing if he's doing okay.

Anyway, I feel a little better now at least getting those thoughts out of my head and putting them somewhere else.

If you read all that, thanks! :flowerforyou:

wifeygonzo

Is there any way possible you can see him tonight? Even if its just for a few minutes? I think a surprise visit to to say "hello & I love you" would be nice.

auntdeedee87

Is there any way possible you can see him tonight? Even if its just for a few minutes? I think a surprise visit to to say "hello & I love you" would be nice.

Unfortunately, no. I work overnight/graveyards Sunday, Monday, Tuesday nights... And I go in at 8-- he lives 45 minutes away and it it's 6:10 now.

Tennessee2019

My suggestion would be to at least call him, to show that you are thinking of him. Keep the conversation light & brief. Don't mention what today is - see if he brings it up. If he does, suggest at least sending flowers or a card to the family of his best friend or say that you would like to send something to them. But do this only if HE brings it up. At the end of the conversation, remind him how much you love him & that you will see him soon.

wifeygonzo

How about a quick phone call or text message, just tell "I just wanted you to know that I love you". Don't ask him how he's feeling or how his day went. Let him start that conversation if he's up to it. But its nice to know that someone is thinking about you and loves and cares about you when your world seems out of place.

This morning my husband texted me & said "I love you very much" to which I replied "are you saying that because you went out and bought breakfast?" Later he called me & said he's having a terrible day. I felt bad for my sassy reply to him, I'm sure it would have made him feel a lot better if I had replied "I love you very much too" instead.

auntdeedee87

I plan to call him in a bit once I get to work to check in.

Midnight is the release of MW3 and so hopefully that will take his mind off of things a bit. I think alone time is what he needs, anyway.