MFP Bullying Needs to Stop

ilookthetype

Just today, someone posted a question about cals in a recipe. She voiced that she thought it being baked made a difference. Some people chose to be extremely rude about it...what was the point in that?

this is the funniest thing I've read all day.

killagb

I would love half these rude people to be rude to my face!! Seriously.

That sounds like a threat.

NiciS72

I think a part of the issue is the anonymity of the internet. Folks feel free to do and say things they would never do in real life. I find as a rule of thumb if I wouldn't say it to someone to their face I shouldn't type it out as a reply online. If everyone used that guideline I think a lot of the snarkiness would dissipate. But alas there are those that thrive on that kind of stuff and we just need to not follow their path.

I wonder what Miss Manners would say on this?!

daves160

HMMM.... I have not run into very much of that.

If I see a post written by someone who seemingly has not even tried to do a web search for a legitimate answer before posing it to a nefarious group of "experts", I will suggest they do just that. I will still offer what has worked for me, They can take it or leave it.

I am always nice about it, some may be more direct. I have not seen any mean comments though.

If someone does not want to hear the answers to their question from a group of strangers who may or may not even know what they are talking about, then maybe they should not ask.

Other than that, I agree with you 100%!!

jennajava

Yeah I dont think so I need to see this pole where it shows that the sensative people out number the "others" I think the "others" are being quited frequently by being "reported". That would be an interesting pole to see.

OP:

With this in mind - a sensitive poster will state their personal objectives at the start of a post before making a statement like 'should my fridge contain more lard' ... But lets be honest - not everyone is super sensitive...

With all due respect, I think some people are just sensitive.

It stands to reason that if one is coming in to contact with several people a day who are presumably "sensitive," the problem is most likely not with the other people.

Situation:
Johnny speaks to 10 people. He offends 9 of them. So...9 other people "are just sensitive" and Johnny probably was not offensive?

jennajava

Just today, someone posted a question about cals in a recipe. She voiced that she thought it being baked made a difference. Some people chose to be extremely rude about it...what was the point in that?

this is the funniest thing I've read all day.

How so?

macpatti

Yeah, I love how it's the other person's problem if they were offended.

ronda_gettinghealthy

A good rule of thumb-- ask youself "am I saying this to be helpful or am I just cranky because I need a snack?"
Works wonders in my personal life.

I am going to use this in my every day life...is this a necessary comment or do I need a cookie......LOVE LOVE LOVE this...thanks

wildcard29

With all due respect, I think some people are just sensitive.

I heart you!!!

killagb

Yeah I dont think so I need to see this pole where it shows that the sensative people out number the "others" I think the "others" are being quited frequently by being "reported". That would be an interesting pole to see.

OP:

With this in mind - a sensitive poster will state their personal objectives at the start of a post before making a statement like 'should my fridge contain more lard' ... But lets be honest - not everyone is super sensitive...

With all due respect, I think some people are just sensitive.

It stands to reason that if one is coming in to contact with several people a day who are presumably "sensitive," the problem is most likely not with the other people.

Situation:
Johnny speaks to 10 people. He offends 9 of them. So...9 other people "are just sensitive" and Johnny probably was not offensive?

So by your logic, majority always knows best? That logic is highly flawed.

jennajava

Yeah I dont think so I need to see this pole where it shows that the sensative people out number the "others" I think the "others" are being quited frequently by being "reported". That would be an interesting pole to see.

OP:

With this in mind - a sensitive poster will state their personal objectives at the start of a post before making a statement like 'should my fridge contain more lard' ... But lets be honest - not everyone is super sensitive...

With all due respect, I think some people are just sensitive.

It stands to reason that if one is coming in to contact with several people a day who are presumably "sensitive," the problem is most likely not with the other people.

Situation:
Johnny speaks to 10 people. He offends 9 of them. So...9 other people "are just sensitive" and Johnny probably was not offensive?

So by your logic, majority always knows best? That logic is highly flawed.

You live in the U.S., do you not? It's the logic of democracy, my friend.

macpatti

With all due respect, I think some people are just sensitive.

I'm not sensitive when it comes to people coming at me, but I can't stand to see other people belittled and that happens frequently on here.

stormieweather

In my personal experience, if multiple people are offended by the same person, the problem is most likely the common denominator (ie: the offensive person).