Pissed Co-worker

AlissaB87

So today my co worker went to KFC and bought everyone an applie pie...When she went to hand me mine, I told her no thank you, but thank you for thinking of me....

And now shes being a major b*tch!

How do you nicely tell someone without hurting there feelings? Because clearly I did something wrong LOL

rockerbabyy

i think you did the best you could some people just dont take rejection well

Justjoshin

You could have accepted it and not eaten it, but I think you did the right thing regardless of her attitude.

MissingMyOldSelf

i think you did the best you could some people just dont take rejection well

Agreed!

I'm very happy and proud of you for not giving into the temptation!!!

beerbomber

Take it and throw it away she wil never knwo the difference

annabellj

she is pissed at herself for not having the willpower to resist buying them in the first place and jealous of you for doing it! just keep that in mind the next time you see her and you will smile instead of worrying about her being pissed off!

BPayton27

She'll get over it. You politely declined? It was a nice gesture, but not everyone wants to eat fast food, much less fast food pie. She could have gave someone else 2 or just took it home for herself. Don't feel guilty for not eating that. You were polite.

mrrad

Why would anyone assume that everyone would want to eat an apple pie? Don't feel guilty for wanting not to eat it, I would have said that I didn't like them rather than that I was watching my calories. Not sure why it is so socially unacceptable to refuse food? I am sure some of us are fat because we eat to please other people or not to rock to boat.
Just be polite to her she will get over herself I'm sure.

AuntSissy152

You should have taken it. Said Thank You. Then.....thrown it away!

wickedcricket

really? she's mad cause you don't pollute your body with something she BOUGHT!?
here's what I'd do... go buy something toxic & offer her a drink then when she declines say - no? now you know why I declined your pie - offer me healthy food, fruit or desserts and I will be happy to try them.
My body is a temple, NOT an amusement park

smelmel

you have to look after number 1, well done!

gwild0r

I used to be the dude that would go around and ask.. "hey are you going to eat that".. Should maybe find one of those guys.. So that next time, you can take it politely and given it to the big guy.. Then you would of made two people happy

Sp1nGoddess

I've been known to take the dessert push it around my plate and then discreetly trash it later or what I usually do is claim that due my family history of diabetes I'm cutting back on sugar, and of course let them know that I appreciate them thinking of me.

ohmscheeks

You were polite, she's spazzing.

Moonbeamlissie

My work peeps are always giving out plain ole junk. I take it and put it in my drawer and tell them thank you. Most places have that one skinny chick that eats everything. I let some time go by and then I just hand my stash off to her lol.

momma3sweetgirls

You should have taken it. Said Thank You. Then.....thrown it away!

I agree with this. It was a gift. A kind gesture. When someone gives you a gift of flowers and you're allergic, do you say "no thank you"? When someone brings you cookies as a thank you for feeding their cat while they were away, do you say "no thank you". Your co-worker is offended and rightly so.

Sidesteal

Here's is clearly the proper technique for handling this:

First, make sure you make eye contact and smile. Next, reach out your hand for the apple pie. As your hand approaches the apple pie, I'd like you to reach up and SLAP THE *kitten* OUT THAT TRIFLIN' *kitten*.

As she reels back from the blow, lift your adjacent leg and proceed to rip the loudest fart you possiby can.


Then, please eat the pie. Slappin' hos burned lots of calories, you earned it baby.













































(I think you handled it fine, haters gonna hate).

kantone999

We have the same situation at my office. I hate for people to waste money on food for me. Honesty is the best policy but some people can't deal with it.

I size up the person offering. If they're a mature, well-adjusted person I tell them thanks but I'm on a really strict diet and can't eat it. Those types always understand and never give me any grief--or bring me anything off the list again.I accept the food from people who can't (or won't) support my weight loss efforts and then leave it in the lunchroom. It always disappears.

Vaanja

If you'll excuse my second-rate armchair psychology here, it sounds like maybe she was just looking for a little external validation and maybe she felt rejected as a person with the rejection of her sugary offering.

I stand by you in your rejection of it, now that she knows you won't accept such it lessens the likelyhood of her offering up such possible temptations again.

But if you want to repair any damaged relations with her, you could give her a bit of validation by way of a compliment that actually relates to who she is as a person/co-worker.

thankyou4thevenom

I think she's being rude to be honest. You did absolutely nothing wrong.

I have to say I wouldn't have done the same. I do the same as others and just take the food and then discreetly throw it away. Maybe if it happens a second time do that.

paper_doll_

I think she bought apple pies for the rest of you because she wanted to validate that her desire to consume processed, junky crap was ok. When you rejected it she probably took it as validation that it really wasn't. lol.

My son does that, in order to validate his desire for some sort of junk food we have in the house, he offers it to everyone else first, and if nobody has any, he won't have some. When I tell him he can have a biscuit or whatever it is he was offering around then he will eat several in one sitting, but he seems to need that validation that it is ok for him to have it.

I will also add however that he is a 15 year old who walks/jogs every day, does Russian Strangth Training, and eats fruit and veges every day without complaining about them.. he actually likes broccoli, brussels sprouts etc.. oh and he drinks much more than 8 cups of water a day and hates overly sweet or fatty foods.. he genuinely dislikes the taste and textures. I wish I had grown up with those attitudes to food. I think that when he does pig out on junk it is his body saying 'Hey! I'm growing and need a super boost of energy!' or something..

BrandyRelaxing

My best suggestion would be to explain that you're working on eating healthier and that you really appreciate that she thought of you, but that you can't accept it, or it would cause problems in your healthy eating. I find most of my co-workers are very understanding, and after I explain it, that it's me not them, that they stop offering me chocolate! lol

Jeanetta10

I think you did the right thing. Accepting it and throwing it out would have worked as well. Your co-worker is a bit of a kook for buying everyone some crappy fast food apple pie anyway. Geez, I wouldn't want it if I weren't watching my weight! YUK!

omgzstef

You did exactly as you were supposed to. Good job for staying strong!

servilia

Hmm it all depends on context. Is she bigger than you? Smaller than you? If she also has weight to lose she probably took your rejection of her offering as being holier than thou and as looking down on her choices. No, it's not rational, it's not right, but that's how some people work. If she's normal weight or smaller than you then she's just a nasty person IMO. I would always be understanding of someone wanting to better themselves. I would not NOT offer the item to any specific person (because then they'd wonder why you didn't offer it to THEM) but certainly wouldn't get upset over it.

Let me say you did nothing wrong. But keeping in mind that you work together, for the sake of a peaceful work environment I would have either accepted it (and promptly trashed it or discretely give it to someone else), or would have made up a legit excuse (allergies, etc). Don't wanna rock the boat at work.

KelleFlr

I have been offered treats lately and have turned them down politely acknowledging that I have to be careful what I eat... if they ask further I explain... so far everyone has been very gracious that I politely decline.
I agree I think the coworker is over reacting. If this is someone you have to work with often and you are surprised by her reaction you could maybe find a way to speak with her in private about it if it bothers you that much. Otherwise, I'd just let it go, her issue not yours.

bellawares

Why do you have to "nicely" thank her for something you did not ask for or want. :noway: If she's pissed than maybe she should have asked everyone if they wanted something from KFC in the first place.

Just my opinion . . .


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vaughny

you did the right thing don't apologize to her maybe she will forget about it over the weekend

Painten

I don't think you could have done anything else really. You were polite and she didn't ask if you wanted it so really she shouldn't be *****y about it.

I personally don't think you can always put things down to insecurities. Just because we on this site are trying to improve things about ourselves doesn't mean everyone secretly wants to do the same. I've been known to go and buy chocolate bars and without asking bought some for friends too if i was on the way somewhere. I never did this because i wanted my friends to be fat or wanted them to put crap inside them. It never even occurred to me. It was just i thought they'd like them and i was feeling generous. I wouldn't however have gotten mean if someone had turned around and said no thanks. I don't know why the majority of people think the worst of everyone doing everything.

CoraGregoryCPA

Sometimes it's just easier to accept it .. punch a fork in it a couple of times then say I"M STUFFED and throw it away! Other people are weird!!!! Get mad? -she is PSYCHO!!

CoraGregoryCPA

she is pissed at herself for not having the willpower to resist buying them in the first place and jealous of you for doing it! just keep that in mind the next time you see her and you will smile instead of worrying about her being pissed off!

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS!!!!!