ignored, but not defeated!

adavis59

I am a fairly new member to My fitnesspal ( since late Aug.) I never thought to join in with the community at first, but as I went along with my weight loss program and exercise, I felt the need to share thoughts and even attempt to join some groups(C25k). This is encouraged on this website. Thus far, I have been ignored. I am not impressed thus far with the support from the community. But this will not deter me from reaching my goals. Fortunately, I have a supportive trainer and friends outside who continue to suppport me and are helping me reach my goals. I'll just continue to log in my caloric intake and nothing more. I just thought it would be nice to belong to a group of people with a common goal- that of losing weight and feeling great!:frown:

UpEarly

Give it a little more time! It took me longer than 10 posts in two different thread topics to start feeling like part of the community. :-)

shivaslives

Sorry to hear that feel ignored here. That hasn't been my experience at all. My first recommendation is that you find some like minded people and add them as friends. I find that my MFP friends are the ones that provide the most encouragement since they are most in tune with my achievements. You won't necessarily find that same level of support in the forums or with blogs. Feel free to add me to get things started and don't be too discouraged. This really is a great site with wonderful tools and a lot of supportive people.

MrsBlobs

Your last post was quoted and responded to.

All you've needed to do is intro yourself and people would have been more than happy to friend you.

LorinaLynn

The majority of your posts haven't been anything that really required a comment. Start an intro thread or ask for advice, and you'll get more support than an 18 hour bra.

KatyE213

You need to friend some people on here, personally I have found that by far the greatest interaction I have with people on here is the friends I have made rather than the message boards or groups and such like. Good luck on your journey

leynak

Start adding some friends. I have found that the support from them is wonderful but I had to start by adding people. I joined in mid- July so I've not been here a whole lot longer. I noticed you have only commented on 2 threads. You should give it a little more time.

*You should also do an introduction thread

beckyinma

You're brand new, put yourself out there. I would recommend letting down your defenses a little and introducing yourself in the appropriate message forum. In your introduction, ASK for friend invitations, it doesn't ever hurt to ask, and they will start friending you. Your friends here at MFP will be far more supportive with your loss goals than your in real life friends, especially as time goes by, because MFP friends have the same goals, to get healthy and fit, and your IRL friends just might not care as much.

dippystick

WOW I just started posting this weekend and have already made several friends. Jump in to other people's threads that you might be able to share with. Find a few groups to join that have similar issues from you and jump in asking questions and offering suggestions. Being a friend is a 2 way street, you both have to give.

Welcome and glad your reaching out. Don't be discouraged, this is really a good place to get support.

kmboffice88

The first month I did this I had zero friends on the site, posted a couple topics and felt like I had no support. Then I started scouring the "community" section to find people near me, and through that I found a lot more people to support me. I had to find my own friends - they didn't come to me. I couldn't be happier with the relationships I've made on here. They truly keep me focused!!

becknorton68

Add me as a friend; actually, I will ADD you! I am chubby but very friendly and I've struggled with my weight for the past 20 years. I think this site is as helpful as we make it. I haven't been logging on daily for the past couple of weeks but if you really want a friend who will support you and give you encouragement, I will promise you that I will log on daily, and if you do the same, then we both win right?? Take care, have a super Sunday and look forward to hearing from you!

alienblonde1

I got my friends on here by asking for anyone with similar goals... That being over 50 yrs and needing to lose close to 100lbs. Then I got friends of friends and some people liked how I responded to them and asked to be my friend. After that some of my friends asked all their friends to start a group and on from there.

So start a post with your goals and ask for friends...

HMonsterX

Changing your avatar photo is a big help too. It shows you are committed, and a real person!

leynak

Changing your avatar photo is a big help too. It shows you are committed, and a real person!

I think it is a legitimate suggestion. No you don't *have* to have a picture to lose weight. But it does help if you want to get more into the community. Even if you don't post a picture of yourself (I can understand not wanting to) the picture you do post can show that you are committed & not some random person that joined for a week or month or 2 & are not serious about staying with this. It also can help to show a little bit of personality.

ajbeans

I looked at your posts and it doesn't seem that you've made that many posts in anything other than the "hot men" thread. Which is fine, but there isn't typically a lot of "support" given in those threads, or even direct responses to people's posts. If you introduced yourself in the "introduce yourself" section, a lot of those threads do get passed by, not because people are being jerks, but just because of the sheer number of new threads there every day from new members.

Poke around a bit, jump in where you like, send some friend requests, join some of the new groups, and I think you'll find the support you're looking for.

CaptainGordo

Support comes from friends. Just as in life, wallflowers don't make many friends. Poke around the forum and groups. When you see comments from like-minded folks, extend a friend request. Tell them why you would like to be their friend. Believe me, it helps.

SerenaFisher

Add me! I really do not use this often, but I track daily and love to encourage! Good luck.

_Sally_

Dear Posters,

I have moved this thread to the Motivation and Support forum topic folder, which I think may increase the viewing by users interested in this topic.

There has been a lot of good advice and suggestions provided on this thread.

There have also been some inappropriate posts, which have been deleted and cleaned up, and appropriate user warnings issued.

It is fine to discuss different opinions and points of view, but please keep it respectful.

Please review the full forum guidelines here: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/welcome/guidelines


With Respect,
_Sally_
MFP Forum Moderator

CannibalisticVegetarian

Give it a little more time! It took me longer than 10 posts in two different thread topics to start feeling like part of the community. :-)

^^^ What they said.

Also, sorry to hear that you aren't feeling the support. I seriously hope that you find your niche and continue on that road to success.

CaptainGordo

Changing your avatar photo is a big help too. It shows you are committed, and a real person!

While I may disagree that an avatar image shows one's level of commitment, it may make folks more interested in offering or accepting friend requests.

CaptainGordo

Poke around the groups and find one with folks with similar interests.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/search?phrase=&order=1

darlilama

I'm so sorry to hear that! I've only been a member since July and I didn't participate a lot at first… actually haven't done a formal "introduction" either. But, I have still found the site to be extremely helpful and supportive… a bit crazy and fun at times. If you haven't completed an "Introduction" post, I think that would be very helpful. It will help other people find YOU!

This is my only "social network" site, although I will eventually join Facebook I suppose . I don't have a ton of MFP friends … I don't solicit friendships endlessly, but the ones I have I absolutely love.

I'll send you a friend request. Check me out and if you think we can be supportive of each other, add me. If you are looking for someone more similar to yourself/situation, you certainly won't offend me by not adding me.

Best of luck, SINCERELY. The people in your day-to-day life are likely more important to your success, but I find a lot of inspiration here, as well.

maidentl

Changing your avatar photo is a big help too. It shows you are committed, and a real person!

While I may disagree that an avatar image shows one's level of commitment, it may make folks more interested in offering or accepting friend requests.

I think you're on to something, Mrs. Garrett.