I feel like my family are sabotaging me!!

suzycreamcheese

i cant understand why anyone would expect their family to not eat in front of them???

kellylara93

I dont expect them to not eat in front of me, Im saying i feel disconnected because we cant sit down and share a meal together, because they are eating at completely differently to me ie. time and type of meals.

They are supportive of me trying to lose weight, however, they are all overweight, but chose to do nothing about it...

So I took responsibility for myself, and now I feel alone..

cramernh

FIRSTLY: Im not hungry all the time.

SECONDLY: Didnt ask for your opinion on my diary? (I am constantly working, and the 5 minutes I DO get a chance to eat has NOTHING to do with you)

REALLY DONT APPRECIATE GETTING ATTACKED, MY BODY, MY CHOICE.

THANKS!

Kelly... (WOW, youre young enough to be my daughter! LOL)
I work as a Chef for a living - often working 50-60 hours per week between my full time job and my side job as a Baker. There are days I cant grab a meal break because the demands of the business at hand. Im around food ALL of the time and customers who order some of the most unhealthiest of foods that would make my mother's cooking look like it was diet food (Coming from a french canadian family where everything is butter, pork spread, cheese curds and meat pies)....

As crazy as it gets, Im lucky if I can get in 900 calories per day for three days - these are generally the shifts I close. My physicians know it, my Endo-specialists know ALL about it. And when I send my food logs in, they know I am still making healthy choices, drinking plenty of water... and ohh... THE EXERCISE! WOW! Lots of heavy lifting, speed walking back and forth, events where Im going from floor to floor... TRUST ME, it gets crazy... and the physicians who oversee my care know everything about what goes on and what goes in and never has a problem with it.....

Personally, I wont critique anyone's diary because I dont know what factors caused them not to eat a meal, or whatnot.. Tonight I work until 1am. When I get home, its shower, go to bed, and wake up around 12:00pm... yeah, Im not going to be eating breakfast... but if people saw that I had no entry for breakfast, people would automatically assume I was starving myself... but at least, personally, I know why I didnt eat breakfast and no one but my doctor and myself need to know...

Chin up young lady!

kellylara93

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cramernh

I dont expect them to not eat in front of me, Im saying i feel disconnected because we cant sit down and share a meal together, because they are eating at completely differently to me ie. time and type of meals.

They are supportive of me trying to lose weight, however, they are all overweight, but chose to do nothing about it...

So I took responsibility for myself, and now I feel alone..

You will feel alone only if you allow yourself to feel it. If your family wishes to continue eating poorly, unfortunately that is their choice and only they can make the changes necessary on their own. They have to be ready to make the changes happen.

Honestly, I dont ever want what my family makes... OR my in-laws (ended up with food poisoning EVERY DAMN TIME! LOL), my husband still has the regular foods while I have a modified dinner for myself. And where I play with food for a living, its easy for me... Yup, hubby still offers me some of the foods he has that I know I cant have, but I simply say 'no thank you but I cant have that' - and he goes on his merry way.

You can empower yourself and focus on you. No one can take that away from you except you. At least your family is supportive, thats the tackling fuel you need....

kellylara93

FIRSTLY: Im not hungry all the time.

SECONDLY: Didnt ask for your opinion on my diary? (I am constantly working, and the 5 minutes I DO get a chance to eat has NOTHING to do with you)

REALLY DONT APPRECIATE GETTING ATTACKED, MY BODY, MY CHOICE.

THANKS!

Kelly... (WOW, youre young enough to be my daughter! LOL)
I work as a Chef for a living - often working 50-60 hours per week between my full time job and my side job as a Baker. There are days I cant grab a meal break because the demands of the business at hand. Im around food ALL of the time and customers who order some of the most unhealthiest of foods that would make my mother's cooking look like it was diet food (Coming from a french canadian family where everything is butter, pork spread, cheese curds and meat pies)....

As crazy as it gets, Im lucky if I can get in 900 calories per day for three days - these are generally the shifts I close. My physicians know it, my Endo-specialists know ALL about it. And when I send my food logs in, they know I am still making healthy choices, drinking plenty of water... and ohh... THE EXERCISE! WOW! Lots of heavy lifting, speed walking back and forth, events where Im going from floor to floor... TRUST ME, it gets crazy... and the physicians who oversee my care know everything about what goes on and what goes in and never has a problem with it.....

Personally, I wont critique anyone's diary because I dont know what factors caused them not to eat a meal, or whatnot.. Tonight I work until 1am. When I get home, its shower, go to bed, and wake up around 12:00pm... yeah, Im not going to be eating breakfast... but if people saw that I had no entry for breakfast, people would automatically assume I was starving myself... but at least, personally, I know why I didnt eat breakfast and no one but my doctor and myself need to know...

Chin up young lady!

Thank you! FInally someone who understands! I work 3 jobs and am constantly running between workplace, and when Im not at work im usually ASLEEP!

I joined MFP because I wanted to stop eating junk food in my small amounts of break time, and start eating healthier, AND i would also like to lose some weight.

Thank you for being understanding

lalasmar

I had similar issues when I first tried to change to a more healthy diet. I have a husband and 5 children (mostly teenager boys really) who definetely love to eat. I started out making alot of my own dinners and snacks because I assumed that they wouldnt eat the healthy stuff. Now, almost a year later - we ALL are eating better. Sure, they eat a larger protion than I do. But I only make one dinner - and everybody loves it. They didnt mind the switch to whole grain pasta and brown rice. We also eat alot more veggies now than we used to. They love everything. I bake healthy breads and muffins for snacks almost daily.

My change in eating has really impacted the whole family in a positive way. I think that you should give your family a chance to get used to a healthier way of eating. Slowly make some changes and let them in on what you are eating. You may be surprised that they like it - and it will only benefit them in the end.

cramernh

I had similar issues when I first tried to change to a more healthy diet. I have a husband and 5 children (mostly teenager boys really) who definetely love to eat. I started out making alot of my own dinners and snacks because I assumed that they wouldnt eat the healthy stuff. Now, almost a year later - we ALL are eating better. Sure, they eat a larger protion than I do. But I only make one dinner - and everybody loves it. They didnt mind the switch to whole grain pasta and brown rice. We also eat alot more veggies now than we used to. They love everything. I bake healthy breads and muffins for snacks almost daily.

My change in eating has really impacted the whole family in a positive way. I think that you should give your family a chance to get used to a healthier way of eating. Slowly make some changes and let them in on what you are eating. You may be surprised that they like it - and it will only benefit them in the end.

I really believe that the OP's family being supportive is half the battle. If they truly have no problem or issue with her making her own meals to suit her WL efforts, thats great. It may in fact rub off on them and they may discover things taste good or better!

Must be nice to eat brown rice and whole grain pasta... I cant eat any of it in their families of food - cant digest it and end up in the hospital... ***sigh

suzycreamcheese

I dont expect them to not eat in front of me, Im saying i feel disconnected because we cant sit down and share a meal together, because they are eating at completely differently to me ie. time and type of meals.

They are supportive of me trying to lose weight, however, they are all overweight, but chose to do nothing about it...

So I took responsibility for myself, and now I feel alone..

It can be lonely. When i was trying to cut calories, id still eat with my partner, but i wouldnt always eat the same thing, or if i did, it would be a smaller portion.

In all honesty though, i think that the best "diets" are actually lifestyle changes that you can maintain long term, so cutting yourself off and eating completely seperatly isnt something youre going to want to do forever. Id suggest eating together but using portion control x