Question for divorced people

irunforfun

Did you keep your wedding pictures? More importantly if you had/have kids from the marriage did you keep rings, pictures...those kind of things for your children? I sure don't want them, but wondering if I should keep them for my kids?

NuttyBrewnette

Well, as a child of divorced parents (they split when I was a young adult) I would have loved to have some of those items. My suggestion is to put them away somewhere, for safekeeping, and so you don't have to look at them all the time, and wait for the right time to pass it along. You'll know when the time is right.

karenjoy

I have my Wedding album in the attic, they need to see that we actually did like each other at one point i feel, as for the rings, nope. I also have kept a few things like the cards he sent me when they were born etc, all things connected with them and not just things about him and I.

My current Husband has no problem with this x

Jennloella

I didn't keep them, but I didn't have kids either. I have kids with my husband now, and I think if anything were to ever happen I would want to keep those things to offer them to my kids. I know I wish I had more picture of MY parents together, even though they divorced when I was 4.

mrsgrumpypants

Yes, I kept it all. There are a lot of people in those photos who are dead now. We had some good times, I don't want to forget everything - or run the risk of doing the same again. It brings back the feeling of doubt just to see the pictures.

Amy911Gray

I kept the wedding album, half of the pictures, the baby books, the wedding dress, the wedding rings, the promise ring (ha), and all of the family portraits. I put all of these things away in storage for the kids should they want them later. It doesn't take up a lot of room, but since the kids are now adults, they are asking to see them/asking if I have them. I figure one of them will take each item

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I'll leave them to my ex in my will!!! hahahaahhahahahha

Karlirosem

I agree. I am in that situation right now and as much as I would like to get rid of everything I think the time will come when I would regret it. I am going to save it, in a drawer somewhere so I dont have to look at it!

april_beth

i have been tempted to "hock" my rings forever but ultimatelyl i decided to keep them for my daughter (fi i can ever find them that is). She is his only child and she adores him and she loves the crap out of me so i suppose one day it will mean something to her. and if hse says "eff it ma, you should have sold them," then i will go out the next day and promptly do so and treat her and i to a nice day - LOL but hs'es only 10. i have a bit to go before that happens.

jenbit

My ex-husband and I split when our youngest was only 6 weeks. I kept all my wedding pictures for my children. Several of my family members who where there that day passed away shortly after and they are the only real pictures I have of them. My daughter (8) has a picture of her father and I in her room on her nightstand. But we still get along really well and I feel its important for the kids to understand that mommy and daddy did love each other and that we were friends for a long time .

mommyof5kids

I do have pictures, but they are put away and I will give them to my 3 kids that I have with my ex-husband when they are older. My wedding dress is packed away...only keeping it for my daughter because she may want to have a christening gown made out of it one day if she has kids. As for the wedding ring...I do not have it anymore...I only kept a few pieces of jewerly that my daughter may want someday (but I do not wear any of these things anymore). We divorced when our kids were 4 1/2, 2 1/2, and 1.

maknatemom

When I divorced I had no children and sold everything I could The ring was sold on ebay for some good money. The pics I admit I kept one small one which I packed away in the a box. HOWEVER, with children I would say keep the ring and perhaps a picture or two. You don't have to keep everything, but my parents divorced when I was an infant and I treasure a pic of my parent's wedding day that my aunt gave me a few years ago. I show it to my own children. Both of my parents are very happily married to new people now whom I just adore (I have the best step-parents ever) it's not like I hang the pic up in my living room or anything, but I do treasure having it - having a memory that at one point my parents did love each other.

amymeenieminymo

I am not divorced and neither were my parents, but my mom died a few years ago and I love having old pics of hers, especially wedding photos (which I used in my program for MY wedding because we got married on their anniversary) and I have her ring (though I didn't use it as my wedding ring, just for a keepsake).

You may regret it someday if you get rid of them, but I doubt you'd ever regret keeping them. Just pack them up in a box and put them out of sight. That way if your kids ever want to see them you'll still have them.

gentlebreeze2

My kids (3) were teens when he did his "peter pan" thing. I kept the pix and dress cause I made the dress. The marriage may have fallen apart, but I'm still proud of the dress I made (it's every bit as fancy as any Davids bridal offers, and it fit me to a T). The rings go to my daughter to do what she wants with them. Two of my kids asked to use the rings for their wedding, but I felt it would jinx their marriagae. I can separate the "man" (if you wanna call him that) from the things. It's part of who I am today.

My kids have recently told me they're ok if I want to sell them. We'll see.

EKarma

all the stuff from my first marriage is at my mom's house.. I am going to keep them for my daughter.. but I'm not keeping them in my house! I don't know where the pictures are.. lol I think they're probably at my mom's house too.. I also kept all the photos I had up on the wall of my ex-husband for 4 years!! I just got married in August and I took all those photos out of the collages.. I was sick of looking at them and I know my husband doesn't want to look at my ex-hubby.. He hates him, as I really do too.. I found an old family pic of me, my ex-husband, and our daughter.. I wanted to throw it out and my daughter really wanted to keep it.. So she put it in her room.. I hate looking at it when I go in there.. Plus I was like 90 lbs heavier in the pic.. It's just an awful picture! lol

_Timmeh_

Sold my band to a local jeweler, took my kids to lunch and a movie with the cash.
Saved a few wedding pictures, tucked away in the bottom of a box somewhere in case they want to see them....not for me at all and I'd prefer to never look at them again.

catshark209

We didn't have a wedding, we just ran off to City Hall lol. I've kept all the pictures up and my ring. I got pics of him on my wall next to pics of my current partner. We're a little different cuz we get along very well and spend holidays together too.

irunforfun

Sold my band to a local jeweler, took my kids to lunch and a movie with the cash.
Saved a few wedding pictures, tucked away in the bottom of a box somewhere in case they want to see them....not for me at all and I'd prefer to never look at them again.

I feel the same way. I've been thinking of selling my rings myself.

cmriverside

My parents divorced when I was seven. My dad died when I was 16. I love anything to do with my dad, since I have so little.

My own divorce, however (no kids) I couldn't get rid of the stuff fast enough.

I would have kept stuff if I had kids, but I would have taken it out of my house. Bad juju.

irunforfun

My parents divorced when I was seven. My dad died when I was 16. I love anything to do with my dad, since I have so little.

My own divorce, however (no kids) I couldn't get rid of the stuff fast enough.

I would have kept stuff if I had kids, but I would have taken it out of my house. Bad juju.

Good point. Think I'll let someone hang on to it for them.

mandy_lynn

Coming from divorced parents, I'd suggest keeping the pictures and since you have all boys I don't think I'd bother keeping the rings. I love seeing the pics of my parents wedding, and now that they've been divorced for 25 years, they are actually friends. Something I thought I'd never see.

twinsanity

I think it depends. As a child of divorced parents, I truly appreciated having my parent's wedding pics and my mom's wedding ring when I got them. When my ex-husband and I divorced, I kept nothing from our marriage like pics or my ring. I only had a gold band so it wasn't a 'special' ring that I thought my daughter would want one day. And we really didn't have a lot of pics, and never had a traditional wedding (I was 37 1/2 wks pregnant with twins and we just went to the magistrate to make it legal). I don't think I got rid of anything my kids will want one day. I think it just depends on what kind of stuff you have and if you think it's worth handing down. I sold my ring because I needed the cash.

norma67

I kept everything except the rings. My ex used a hammer on his ring and flattened it LOL.

Anyhow it was a major part of my life so I figured that I could not just throw it all away.

I learned and grew from the time I got married until the time I got divorced.

Was married for 12 years...oh my LOL

But if you are hurting right now you might want to pack it all up and just put it away from right now

Take it out later in a year and see if you still want it then :flowerforyou:

catherine4211

Kept the pictures. Sold my ring. Wish I hadn't.

trill0042

I kept the pictures and the rings. The divorce was my idea, but I just didn't have the heart to get rid of them. I stashed all that in a box somewhere.


As a child of divorced parents, keep the pictures. I love looking at the pictures from my parents wedding.