Need to say

tonyavanwinkle2

I have been enjoying MFP a good bit lately. I read things from time to time and try to comment where I feel I can in order to offer support, motivation, encouragement, advice, or a congrats. I do not generally comment or respond in any other manner. However, sometimes I read things on here that make me think, WOW. One of those times happened today. A person posted a topic, simply because they wanted some feedback and advice. I assume the reason being that they were unsure how to proceed and did not want to hurt another's feelings. Due to the responses I read on that "said" topic, I've a sickening feeling that the person who asked the question is the one with extremely hurt feelings at this moment. You may never agree with something someone does or asks and you have the right to voice your thoughts should you reply. However, I urge you to "THINK" before you "TYPE". People come here to learn from others, to improve their life, to stay on track...not to be brought down. Stress can equal a weight gain, do you want your unkind response to be the reason for someones gain this week? We've all had our struggles with different things in our life. People have made fun of us, abused us, and used us. Remember when someone asks a question, if the topic is "sensitive" to you, to tread lightly. That person is not out to get you. Remember the reasons for MFP and please try not to rip each other's heads off. It makes reading on here very discouraging, depressing, and probably scares people away. I know every week is not a success and that perhaps we've had a bad day...but I just don't see this as the place to air the dirty laundry. If you had a gain this week, I want to encourage you and motivate you to keep going and not give up. If you've had a bad day and want chocolate okay - but I do not wish to bring you down as you struggle with your weightloss journey. If you had a success this week I want to hear it! Because it helps me keep going. But when I read some of the hurtful replies I see posted, I just want to reach out and hug the person that got slammed for asking a simple question. We're all fighting the same battle - not each other.

rainbowbow

This is the Internet. If anyone takes something personally that is their own choice. While sure most people are just here to encourage and be the nice guy everyone is entitled to their opinion. If they say something that is blatantly bashing another person that is against the rules, please report them to the moderator. Otherwise you cannot complain that someone has a different opinion and was brave enough to share it.

With all things in life NO ONE can make you feel a certain way. It's up to you how you will take what is said and whether or not you LET it get to you. And quite frankly if you feel bad personally after reading something on an Internet forum where nobody really knows you... Well... That's just plain silly

catwrangler

You might want to surround yourself with like minded friends and stick to your wall or stay in your chosen groups. You cannot tell others how to act on the forums, it is wasted effort. Only the admin and mods can decide who can say what on the forums.